becoming bored with a longtime partner or wife (13)
People grow apart because they allow themselves to do so. People take things and each other for granted, I believe that is a mental attitude that can be changed, not an inevitable part of a relationship.
It takes two people to be part of a relationship, and it needs two people to work at a relationship.
It takes two people to be part of a relationship, and it needs two people to work at a relationship.
heartwarmer888: i,m wondering if its normal to stay with someone your whole life or is it more realistic to expect that we eventually become bored with someone we have seen and been with for such a long time and that graving a change of partner may be healthy ,i understand that raising a family is very important and that couples should do their best to stay together and have a stable family life for their kids,but i have found from chatting to women and dating some here and there that alot of people seem to grow apart as decades go by and all the joy they once had is then gone.
it would be wonderful to have an ongoing joy to be with the same partner for your whole life but is it really achievable for the majority of us as so many of our relationships fall apart far short of the marriage vows that we took.
it would be wonderful to have an ongoing joy to be with the same partner for your whole life but is it really achievable for the majority of us as so many of our relationships fall apart far short of the marriage vows that we took.
My opinion on your thread subject matter is written in my Top 10 lists titled "Essential attitudes for developing a gr8 relationship" if you care to have a read...
cheers heart
and thanks for posting an interesting question... I believe the more awareness we seek, the happier in ourselves and in others we will be...LOVE IS AN ATTITUDE and if one gets bored then perhaps it would be wise to look deeply within and ask yourself if you had the attitude it takes to keep a relationship alive rather than entertaining the idea that boredom is a natural human reality.
Well said Shell.
I will add the will tainted anachronism "Fimiliarity breeds contempt"
You don't grow apart. You just end up taking each other for granted and don't accord each other the respect that you each deserve.
So when the hammer falls neither of you are remembering the good times or why you found each other special.
Anyone who finds themselves in a long term relationship and bored. For the love of God and more importantly for the love of your good Partner. Remember why you love this person and why they rocked your world. And THEN THEN go and talk to them and tell them how you feel and whats going through your mind. In doing so that "until death we do part" may just come true.
I really REALLY don't believe we grow apart. We just stop talking and communicating the way we once did.
I will add the will tainted anachronism "Fimiliarity breeds contempt"
You don't grow apart. You just end up taking each other for granted and don't accord each other the respect that you each deserve.
So when the hammer falls neither of you are remembering the good times or why you found each other special.
Anyone who finds themselves in a long term relationship and bored. For the love of God and more importantly for the love of your good Partner. Remember why you love this person and why they rocked your world. And THEN THEN go and talk to them and tell them how you feel and whats going through your mind. In doing so that "until death we do part" may just come true.
I really REALLY don't believe we grow apart. We just stop talking and communicating the way we once did.
yes I got bored outta my brain ofcourse it didnt help that my ex turned into an a**hole
kizzy27: yes I got bored outta my brain ofcourse it didnt help that my ex turned into an a**hole
Hey kizzy!!
hope ur fine and dandy today
I get bored with a**hole too sister!!
I think if you are with the right person it can last a lifetime otherwise I get bored
but only if they become a**hole as Kizzy said
otherwise I get bored but only if they become a**hole as Kizzy said
thanks dragondog4 for your post and wisdom
hey there heart
heartwarmer888: i noticed a few posts of yours meantioning boredom in a relationship maries poodles,does that mean we should both look within ourselves or should i make this a solo mission ?? lol
best wishes Heartwarmer
best wishes Heartwarmer
Not sure what your comment means heart... please explain and I will endeavour to respond lol
sorry if I seem vague 
Shell225: People grow apart because they allow themselves to do so. People take things and each other for granted, I believe that is a mental attitude that can be changed, not an inevitable part of a relationship.
It takes two people to be part of a relationship, and it needs two people to work at a relationship.
It takes two people to be part of a relationship, and it needs two people to work at a relationship.
dragondog4: Well said Shell.
I will add the will tainted anachronism "Fimiliarity breeds contempt"
You don't grow apart. You just end up taking each other for granted and don't accord each other the respect that you each deserve.
So when the hammer falls neither of you are remembering the good times or why you found each other special.
Anyone who finds themselves in a long term relationship and bored. For the love of God and more importantly for the love of your good Partner. Remember why you love this person and why they rocked your world. And THEN THEN go and talk to them and tell them how you feel and whats going through your mind. In doing so that "until death we do part" may just come true.
I really REALLY don't believe we grow apart. We just stop talking and communicating the way we once did.
I will add the will tainted anachronism "Fimiliarity breeds contempt"
You don't grow apart. You just end up taking each other for granted and don't accord each other the respect that you each deserve.
So when the hammer falls neither of you are remembering the good times or why you found each other special.
Anyone who finds themselves in a long term relationship and bored. For the love of God and more importantly for the love of your good Partner. Remember why you love this person and why they rocked your world. And THEN THEN go and talk to them and tell them how you feel and whats going through your mind. In doing so that "until death we do part" may just come true.
I really REALLY don't believe we grow apart. We just stop talking and communicating the way we once did.
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it would be wonderful to have an ongoing joy to be with the same partner for your whole life but is it really achievable for the majority of us as so many of our relationships fall apart far short of the marriage vows that we took.