What Could Have Been ( Archived) (65)

do you ever think about what could have been in a relationship after it's over? meaning if you had said something or did something differently or acted in a different way do you think the relationship could have turned out differently? on what level do you analyze a relationship? when it's over do you just dust yourself off and try again? do you go "underground" for awhile and play it safe? does it hurt so much you feel like you'll never be in a relationship again?

I think most of us learn from our pain.

Sure of course, we all have regrets for what might have been. I think its the beginning of healing

There was a reason it didn't work in the first place,its best to move on,not healthy to live in the pass.Live like theres no tomorrow,one never no's what the future may bring!

But how do you learn from the pain? where and when do you stop analyzing? How do you know?

wow. thats a long time but glad you're ready to move on!

Good point. I don't analyze. Just accept things as they are knowing that to be human is to err.

Yes to all of thee above. I have been through hell and back due to relationships. My family wonders how I overcame everything I've been through without having a breakdown. But through all the thinking of what would I have done different, and why did things go wrong, several years of hiding from relationships and a tattoo later. I have come to realize that whats done is done. I can't change whats happened, and looking back, I think it was for the best. I learn from my mistakes and realize that it's all part of life.

This is why alot of my forum posts have some attempt at humor (even though it doesn't seem to work sometimes). Theres still days that you have to laugh at life because if you sit and think to hard, you'll cry.