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we have no control of the past or future but to embrace today and create our tomorrow is where it's at for me
I agree with the last part of what you said but I have issues with the first part. Sometimes it doesn't take two to contaminate at all. We cannot be accountable for our partners, (be our brother's keeper).
If you are willing to discuss things as they happen in a relationship, and work at compromises, but the other person is not willing to even listen, never mind do anything, and you stay to give them chances, then you are not at fault in any way. People have to be responsble for themselves and make their own choices. We are not there to mother or baby them.
You cannot say it is both people's fault if things fail, when it is actually only one person's fault. I hear this accountability stuff all the time, but usually in a break up, one person makes the decision to go, because the other one is not accountable, not both of them, unless one is enabling the other in a co-dependant relationship, which never would have been healthy in the first place.
There isn't a couple on the planet who is compatible on all levels. Work is needed on an on-going basis. Without that from both parties then the relationship is going to break down. But if it does, then usually ONE persn gave up trying.