Ruffling a few feathers (26)

>>>>I can't answer that question because I truly don't know these >>>>other people ... all I can do is answer for myself and say that >>>>I have no problem stating my own thoughts, feelings and opinions >>>>on various subjects. I would hope that others are honest in >>>>their posts as well, but I would assume that a percentage are >>>>not (its just what percentage that is to wonder about) but I >>>>think that if a poster is regularly posting in the forums ... >>>>you can get a better idea of their character and values because >>>>after a while people feel comfortable and will slowly reveal >>>>themselves.

I think it's percentage, but also to what degree. In day to day life we don't have the ability to backspace our words halfway through if we decide it's better to have said otherwise. I do it myself quite often, but it's usually a retort that I think will just lead to a big bickering contest or insult hurling extravaganza.

>>>>I think the same thing happens in real life as well ..... the >>>>people who are on good behaviour and then you realize after a >>>>few months - wow - this person is really different than what I >>>>originally thought them to be. I think that communication and >>>>time spent getting to know someone is the best way to gauge a >>>>person as to who they may really be (if they are willing to >>>>truly show themselves).

>>>>I think in the end that we need to remember that we can only >>>>control ourselves - so being true to yourself in the end is what >>>>truly matters. Someone will appreciate you for exactly who you >>>>are and isn't that acceptance what we all truly desire? That >>>>someone will love us for simply being ourselves (warts and all)??

If we were only solely seeking acceptance we would all still live at home with out parents lol

ugh, did I ever mess up the formatting on that

Well I have backspaced and/or not posted ... but generally for the same reasons as yourself. Its the great option of actually having the opportunity to spew out your thoughts but having the option to rethink or not post them.

Truly shouldn't we all think before we speak?? In real life we sometimes spew out stuff that we regret later on ... so maybe we should concentrate on improving our restraint and considering our responses first. I think it comes down to improving our communication skills and growing as a person - having respect for another person's thoughts, feelings and opinions. To my thinking ... sometimes we strive to be "right" instead of making the relationship work. We are so eager to prove the other person wrong that we sometimes forget that we ourselves are generally more wrong than right in alot of cases.

As for acceptance - I don't think its got anything to do with being at home with our parents - I actually find that other's outside our families are sometimes more willing and ready to accept us for who we are as opposed to what they expect us to be and/or do.

...why is it whenever my curiousity is piqued the woman lives somewhere like B.C. or Bombay lol

LOL - it happens to me all the time too .... always remember that people can move!!

not an option for me, it would have a detrimental effect on my childrens mothers sporadic visits

Well remember that not everyone's situation is the same as yours otherwise you will pass up opportunities.

I don't really appear to have ruffled any feathers afterall

I'll have to try harder next time

I try to post what I really think, and I am not afraid to disagree, but I will say this, if my opinion is so far out in left field that I am going to get chastized for making such a statement, I will not post in that thread..

I also keep in mind that whatever I say can be read for some time to come. For the most part I try to be me...

Oh and how are you neighbour?


Pete

yea, my posts from last july are still up I noticed lol

I'm doing well enough, how about you?

I have to admit I can't help but laugh a little though that the first person Ive talked to from the Forest City is a guy lol