Liberty_Reigns22 Forum Posts (21)

RE: Ladies: Do you judge a man by his photo "before" contacting him??

of course!

RE: What grabs your attention?

I like a bad boy..tatoos and piercings are always a turn on..but they would have to be in moderation...I don't want any surprises!!! I like tall men with great smiles. Someone who looks confident but not arrogant (hard to explain).

RE: How accurate are the info here

I met a guy who sent me an outdated picture. I always meet at a public place and in open view. I drove by there first, saw him, and drove off. Always good to have a back up plan.

RE: Time for a new one.

who exactly are you talking about?

RE: Piercings

If you have yours done..you should already have a pretty good idea of why he wants one. Did you listen to your parents when you got it done? As a young woman, let me just say...if you support him on these decisions that are difficult to make, but in the end, not life-altering, you will always have a better relationship with him for it. My mom always kept me in a box, almost like she was rebelling against me. Even if I said I wanted to go to church, then she would say, "no, go to a rock concert" (not literally, but you get the idea). So anyways, I haven't spoken to her in four years and don't plan on it. Make this time count. This is where the long-term relationships are shaped between parent-child. Too many children don't talk to their parents or visit after they enter adulthood. Let him do this, understand why and you will be glad you did.

RE: the funniest thing you've seen lately

I saw this on TV. A dog was angry at his one leg. His leg would approach his face and he would bite and growl at it. You had to be there.

RE: If you recieve a flower/mail

I always reply. But it seems that men do not read my profile, and so inevitably, I say I am not interested. If they read it, they would know what I am looking for and thus not waste their time messaging me.

RE: the date that never happened.

Oops..posted too soon. That sucks, dude. Sorry to hear that.

RE: the date that never happened.

I agree. I bet she was just nervous. The phone and internet conversations are so different than conversations in person. Maybe she was afraid these would be different in person (because they were so great otherwise) and wanted to talk to you a while longer.

RE: What is your fitness routine??

That is the best way, Langley! Never deprive yourself because you will just end up binging. You look really fit (from what I can tell) already so I guess the key is to keep it up and work slowly towards any goals you have. A quick fix can lead to an even quicker rebound.

RE: Ruffling a few feathers

Oh I totally know what you mean. In that case, I really think people are saying what they think is correct (i.e., what they think women in the forums would want to hear). I think that honesty is important..but as I have seen in the forums (from personal experience) sometimes honesty can get you a whole lot of negative feedback. A certain degree of presentation is always needed...but yeah..there comes a time where it is so noticably cliche. What can you do?

RE: What Scares You About New Relationships?

My biggest fear is rejection. It is almost like I am putting the cart before the horse. I am afraid to commit because I fear rejection if things don't work out. I find most of my relationships have been rather superficial for that very reason. My one meaningful relationship endeed really badly and soured me the whole idea. I think I am still young enough to change that around. I just hope the right man comes along.

RE: Ruffling a few feathers

you may think i am dumb for asking..but what do you mean by "pat answers"?

RE: Would You Tell??

Great thread!
I would tell my friend no matter what. Even if I was equally attracted to the husband/boyfriend, I could never be the other woman. To me, that guy is totally off limits. I would tell her because she would deserve to know, and any woman deserves better than that (especially my friend).

RE: No Pics... No Response???

I try to reply to everyone that messages me. If they took the time to do that, I can take the time to respond. I find when a person has no picture, I ask for them to provide me with one on this site. Just put one up for a while so I can have a look. I am uncomfortable with giving out my e-mail address to just anyone (especially a complete ghost..no idea what they look like). I think that when men send me lewd comments (this is not rare), I just respond with a simple not interested and block them. I think it sends a clear message to them that that is not the way to attract attention, and if they are just playing around, they cannot message me again.

RE: What is your fitness routine??

Wow Langley,

That is incredible. I think it is great you have such a vigorous routine, but I think that would be hard to keep up in the long run. My suggestion is to consider the elliptical machine as your soul source of cardio. It is a total body workout. If you work at higher intensities, it is great for toning and of course lower intensities (at higher speeds) is great for cardio. 45 minutes should be enough for each visit. Combine that with 45 minuts weights..you will be out of there at 1 hour and a half. Weights should be alternated so that you are working different parts of your body each day. Working muscles too hard can be detrimental.

As for me, I go about four times a week. I run twice for 45 minutes and do the elliptical twice for 45 minutes. I alternate between my lower and upper body in terms of weights.

RE: How many???

I prefer to stick to one at a time. It gets confusing otherwise. If I wanted to try another site, I would probably end my account here first.

RE: When to give up!

I don't think love is something you should give up on, but if it has been a while and you are not having luck on the site, you should find another way of going about it. I believe that about 6 months is the limit. If nothing comes along then perhaps internet dating is not for you. That isn't to say stop trying, it just means you might have to find another way.

RE: Is it normal for a guy to have a broken heart?

Of course it is notmal to have a broken heart! She hurt you and what you feel is natural. There are not set of rules of how to avoid another bad relationship or ending up with the wrong girl. What you can do is use your 20/20 hindsight. That is, look at the things that seemed to be odd about your last girlfriend. What could have been some of the signs that she was unfaithful and perhaps not as committed to you and you were to her? And make sure you note those signs in girls you go out with next. Make sure to keep your guard up, but don't build bricks walls...that way, you will never let anyone in, and that would be tragic. The best advice I can give is keep on dating, keep on looking. She is out there somewhere. Good luck.

RE: IS IT MORE PAINFUL....

Hmmm...that is a really good question. I think that the pain of what might have been is actually more severe than pain from a relationship that has run its course. I think when a relationship has its run, there are many reasons for why you are not together. Thinking of those helps to ease the pain and motivates us to move on (i.e, know what to look for and what not to look for). I think the unknown would be much more painful because there is always that thought that it might have been "the one" and you will never know. At least with a relationship that has occurred, you can think of many reasons why it was not. Those are my two cents.

RE: How far would you go to be with someone

In my experience, long distance relationships do not work. As much as a relationship does need some space, sometimes physical space does not account for emotional space. I think that availability is a huge part of a relationship and it is hard to really give and accept support over the phone (e-mail etc). The times together would be largely spent "catching up" and little time to develop the relationship. The best relationship I had was when the guy lived about 45 minutes away from me. We saw each other 2-3 times a week but still had our space to see our friends and other commitments. At the same time, if I needed him, he could always jump in the car (or vice versa) and it wouldn't be a long way. Needless to say, that didn't work out (but for reasons other than distance). Anyways, those are my two cents.