Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!! (35)
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yeah....
disregard... yall are missing the point
and im not about to explain the whole situation to yall so as to clear it up
disregard... yall are missing the point
and im not about to explain the whole situation to yall so as to clear it up
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MetalMilitia: yeah....
disregard... yall are missing the pointand im not about to explain the whole situation to yall so as to clear it up
disregard... yall are missing the pointand im not about to explain the whole situation to yall so as to clear it up
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MetalMilitia: trust me i've been wanting to tell em off..... but i've been holding my tongue.... plus some of them are just doing their job !!!i just would have thought that after the 20th time of me saying im good they would have gotten the point !!!!
Can't imagine you holding your tongue EVER
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MetalMilitia: yeah im aware of counselors and all that crap... this is not about me opening up tho... this is about people trying to get me to act how THEY think i should act and say what THEY think i should say !!!
i can open up just fine... but I get to chose to whom !!!!
i can open up just fine... but I get to chose to whom !!!!
Cool. You're sorted. Only you know what's best for you.
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merrilou: Can't imagine you holding your tongue EVER
it dont happen often but i do have SOME tact !!!!
.... plus if i speak my mind.... they may not provide as good a service !!!!!
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merrilou: Can't imagine you holding your tongue EVER
it dont happen often but i do have SOME tact !!!!
.... plus if i speak my mind.... they may not provide as good a service !!!!!
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...so why are you reading the forum material? You are no better than anyone else here...
Be honest you find this entertaining otherwise you would not be on the forum reading this crap!!!!
Be honest you find this entertaining otherwise you would not be on the forum reading this crap!!!!
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I only need to told to sod off once.
Its easy to miss the point here because you're trying to generate a discussion without giving out any personal details, which is understandable.
Can you think of a scenario that would represent your situation fairly closely, whilst being different enough to avoid personal disclosure?
Also, you say that you don't want to alienate anyone by speaking your mind, by which I assume you mean aggressive/hostile. Just saying. "I'm good" however leaves the door open for further enquiry. How about the inbetween option of assertiveness?
Jac xxx
Its easy to miss the point here because you're trying to generate a discussion without giving out any personal details, which is understandable.
Can you think of a scenario that would represent your situation fairly closely, whilst being different enough to avoid personal disclosure?
Also, you say that you don't want to alienate anyone by speaking your mind, by which I assume you mean aggressive/hostile. Just saying. "I'm good" however leaves the door open for further enquiry. How about the inbetween option of assertiveness?
Jac xxx
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MetalMilitia: Im asking yall cos in my time on this site I've noticed that many of yall are very prone to this and im just trying to understand yalls logic here.... basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????
and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!
personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!
my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!
and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!
personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!
my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!
I feel your pain, man. If you want to talk about it, please open up and I'll be glad to help and listen to you.
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People tend to open up easily. I, for one, care alot about people I meet and have any sort of interaction with. Many others feel the same and are concerned when others are hurting. You don't let people in..not even a smidgen..which is not the norm for most people. You have an unreasonable list of requirements in order to be your friend. I tried, I showed compassion and concern..and was told in not so many words to beat it. Lesson learned. Perhaps you should be just as direct with them. 
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want a hug? 
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that is very good advice! 
FIVE thumbs up!
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nanners2863: People tend to open up easily. I, for one, care alot about people I meet and have any sort of interaction with. Many others feel the same and are concerned when others are hurting. You don't let people in..not even a smidgen..which is not the norm for most people. You have an unreasonable list of requirements in order to be your friend. I tried, I showed compassion and concern..and was told in not so many words to beat it. Lesson learned. Perhaps you should be just as direct with them.
they are not "requirements" and i dont think them to be unreasonable.... its just trust, it takes a while for me to trust people.....
and yes as opposed to most, i am NOT very open (if at all) !!!
and i did not tell you to "beat it" i simply said i was fine and that if i needed something i'd ask.... as for them... well... im being as direct as i can, but at the same time, i gotta watch out cos without their services i wouldnt be able to get things done that need to be done !!!!!
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An unbiased observer in form of a counsellor might come in handy - basically someone you pay to listen to whatever you say, who will have to take it when you shout angrily and who will have to keep his/her mouth shut in case you let go and break down.
Do what you want - find what you need - just don't cause any damage to those who were just too helpless to guess what you needed to hear at the time they were around.
My best wishes to you.
yeah im aware of counselors and all that crap... this is not about me opening up tho... this is about people trying to get me to act how THEY think i should act and say what THEY think i should say !!!
i can open up just fine... but I get to chose to whom !!!!