This is a hard one for me..... ( Archived) (103)

My son's 22 year old friend, a girl, her mom is on drugs.....so she can't talk to her, she just met her father. My son says he is the only one who knows.....and I can't tell. She is a friend on FB, gorgeous young lady.

She has no health insurance.......so details of how she found out are not clear to me. But she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer

That one is a killer. She is ignoring it......a friend of mine said there are programs in California that would take care of her.
How can I approach her without breaking my son's confidence????

She just posted "This day is beyond stressful I just wanna sccccrreeeammm" I sent her a private message letting her know I am and will always be here for her, that her privacy was #1 with me.

Signed Smom.......2nd mom................

What else can I do?

This my sound wrong, but sometimes we have to step back and wait for them to ask for help before it is to late.

I hope it all works out star

That is what I am doing......but being a mother of 4 kids, and know her since a young teen, its very hard for me, she made my son swear not to tell. I need to be able to let her know how to get help, or this will kill her.............

Tell your son to tell her. Good luck.

You just did by sending her the email you sent her.
Also share the information with your son about what help she needs to get and let her know how serious her health issue is.

I hope you and your son/friend the best.

I beg him to and told him why.............but if he doesn't he breaks her confidence............... but I told him sometimes its better, and this time is, I told him she will die!!!!

It must be really hard for you to not say anything, but I agree
with the above, that's all you can do, and I hope things will fall into place quickly for her sake and for you watching and having to remain quiet...

Star, I lost a lover to this when I was much much younger. We were both scared and I know what can happen and how it must be hurting you. Ask your son to talk to her, asking her to then talk to you.

Right now I know you feel like jumping in wait seven days then do what you feel is right. She may hate you and your son for awhile, but she will get over it and hopefully thank you.

I am not a believer in prayer, I am a belierver in doing.

All the best to everyone.

I know you will do what is best. You have my hugs.

While the situation may be heartbreaking and by nature you want to reach out and help, unless she accepts she has cancer and decides to fight it, there's nothing else you can do.

I am sure she knows about Medicaid and what her options are as an Oncologists will speak at length with a cancer patient about options and what types of state benefits and services are available.

You shouldn't approach her if you don't have a personal friendship w/ her because she might be offended and get angry with your son. He confided in you and you should not break his confidence, he needs your support right now.

This young lady has informed her father about her illness, so she has his support and she has also confided in your son too. Explain to your son how you feel and then maybe encourage him to help her face her fate and get the treatment she needs.

Ovarian cancer does not have to be a death sentence, if it's caught and treated early, but sadly it has no symptoms and is generally only detectable through a blood test. She does need to explore her options, but it's her choice as to what she does as far as treatment or not receiving treatment.

I am so sorry for you situation...it's a horrible one and I wish you strength at this difficult time.