Why are handsome men intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent woman? (140)
MickDandyTenerife, Canary Islands Spain39 Postswhat guys do you hang out with ?
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MickDandy: what guys do you hang out with ?
please don't be asking me that
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nanners2863: First off "beautiful" and "handsome" are objective to who you are talking to. Secondly, being a strong woman myself, I found that men have this desire to feel needed and strong, it's a very primal urge. I had to learn that I need to let the man take charge of certain things and to sometimes "play" the helpless female in order to make them feel useful and fulfilled.
Whew! That sounds so complicated. Surely we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Hopefully there are some things that he can just do better than me. "Playing" the helpless female is sure to backfire, don't you think? JMHO.
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plainlyjune: they have a lot at stake, they want a sure win. afraid of rejection. Pride always gets in the way.
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pamela_1976: I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
I'm not intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women at all. The one I love is all that and more and I'm absolutely crazy about her and I try to make sure she knows that every minute of every day.
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LuvTravl: Whew! That sounds so complicated. Surely we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Hopefully there are some things that he can just do better than me. "Playing" the helpless female is sure to backfire, don't you think? JMHO.
A lot of strong woman hide their weaknesses and live their lives doing it all. Work, house work, out door work, raising kids, paying the bills, and all the while never discussing their wants or needs. A man needs to feel useful and helpful. If I let him be a shoulder to cry on or let him take over tasks..even though I really don't need him to, it makes him feel like he is providing for me.------ This thread is Archived ------
pamela_1976: I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
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nanners2863: A lot of strong woman hide their weaknesses and live their lives doing it all. Work, house work, out door work, raising kids, paying the bills, and all the while never discussing their wants or needs. A man needs to feel useful and helpful. If I let him be a shoulder to cry on or let him take over tasks..even though I really don't need him to, it makes him feel like he is providing for me.
i just tell him,how good he is in the sack..and live uncomplicated life..
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MickDandy: what guys do you hang out with ?
I dont have any preference, because in my personal experience I have never met a handsome or non-handsome that feels intimidated by me or any other woman...lucky me!!!------ This thread is Archived ------
Sampe1967: you wouldn't understand
ouch.....
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I need a sugar momma .
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cherrybrandy: i just tell him,how good he is in the sack..and live uncomplicated life..
After the Sharpee incident..I tell him all the time... 
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pamela_1976: I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
we are not intimidated at least i am not anyway, most women who are pretty do not speak first, nor seem to be aproachable because they seem to be stuck-up on themselves, do not seem to want to be bothered unless the guy is rich or famous. i see them all day long here in vegas and most won't even return a hello so why bother them, just enjoy looking at them.------ This thread is Archived ------
nanners2863: First off "beautiful" and "handsome" are objective to who you are talking to. Secondly, being a strong woman myself, I found that men have this desire to feel needed and strong, it's a very primal urge. I had to learn that I need to let the man take charge of certain things and to sometimes "play" the helpless female in order to make them feel useful and fulfilled.
more complex than that. i want to be your provider but i must know it is so. If we are together i will know your strength. and a lot of women tends to be throat grabbers if they're standing taller. there is also the many friends that a very beautiful woman generally have that i shouldn't feel insicure about and some are better looking
richer
and maybe smarter in her eyes
but what i usually depend on as a weapon to fight back, is the fact that if i can't waist it, i can face it, better than most men i think. well i've been told that i am good
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nanners2863: A lot of strong woman hide their weaknesses and live their lives doing it all. Work, house work, out door work, raising kids, paying the bills, and all the while never discussing their wants or needs. A man needs to feel useful and helpful. If I let him be a shoulder to cry on or let him take over tasks..even though I really don't need him to, it makes him feel like he is providing for me.
yeah????
what if he dont cry??? or if he already has enough tasks to last him a lifetime????
how about yall just pull your own damn weigh and quit being an added one onto our freaking shoulders !!!!!!!
women!!!
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Sampe1967: more complex than that. i want to be your provider but i must know it is so. If we are together i will know your strength. and a lot of women tends to be throat grabbers if they're standing taller. there is also the many friends that a very beautiful woman generally have that i shouldn't feel insicure about and some are better looking richer and maybe smarter in her eyes but what i usually depend on as a weapon to fight back, is the fact that if i can't waist it, i can face it, better than most men i think. well i've been told that i am good
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nanners2863: A lot of strong woman hide their weaknesses and live their lives doing it all. Work, house work, out door work, raising kids, paying the bills, and all the while never discussing their wants or needs. A man needs to feel useful and helpful. If I let him be a shoulder to cry on or let him take over tasks..even though I really don't need him to, it makes him feel like he is providing for me.
I see what you are saying. We've been trained to be so "strong" that I see how it could be dentrimental to a partnership. Letting those weaknesses out and opening yourself up to someone else who "has your back" for a while is one of the most precious aspects of a good relationship. I agree that letting someone help you, even when you don't need it, can be a beautiful thing.
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MetalMilitia: yeah????what if he dont cry??? or if he already has enough tasks to last him a lifetime????how about yall just pull your own damn weigh and quit being an added one onto our freaking shoulders !!!!!!!women!!!
Did you read my post or did you just see my name and decide to mouth off. I never said I want him to cry..I said I let him be a shoulder to lean on..I don't give him tasks to do..I let him do things for me. I don't need a man to do ANYTHING for nor do I ask him to.------ This thread is Archived ------
LuvTravl: I see what you are saying. We've been trained to be so "strong" that I see how it could be dentrimental to a partnership. Letting those weaknesses out and opening yourself up to someone else who "has your back" for a while is one of the most precious aspects of a good relationship. I agree that letting someone help you, even when you don't need it, can be a beautiful thing.
Exactly..we need to be partners not two separate strong individuals. He has my back and I have his. 
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nanners2863: After the Sharpee incident..I tell him all the time...
lesson for life Nan babe so,we have to be grateful for not being so perfect..
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