I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
pamela_1976: I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
well go for the ugly guys.... we ain`t afraid of anything....
jeepersCowpet Bay, Saint Thomas Virgin Islands (USA)10,968 posts
for me, It's an insecurity issue. Smart. successful, beautiful women work around and have smart, successful, handsome men for friends. I am afraid these men have more to offer mentally than I do, so I worry about rejection. and.....it happened to me many years ago.
VeritaasLondon, Greater London, England UK5,839 posts
pamela_1976: I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
pamela_1976: I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
I don't know if handsome men are so much intimidated by a woman's looks or brains. I think if a man and woman like each other, it will happen if not, then it won't, plain and simple.
pamela_1976: I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
pamela_1976: I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
Because if it looks too good to be true, it probably is.
First off "beautiful" and "handsome" are objective to who you are talking to. Secondly, being a strong woman myself, I found that men have this desire to feel needed and strong, it's a very primal urge. I had to learn that I need to let the man take charge of certain things and to sometimes "play" the helpless female in order to make them feel useful and fulfilled.
Wow_FactorLondon, Greater London, England UK3,698 posts
pamela_1976: I've been wondering why is it that handsome and smart men are intimidated by beautiful, successful, independent women? Isn't that what we all seek? Someone who is not needy? Can you tell me?
How do you know this? Surely chemistry is chemistry. You notice beautiful women with men who aren't typically good-looking but certainly have a personality and other qualities that the 'beautiful' woman wants. Sometimes in order to find mates to pair with we need to look more than skin-deep. Years ago a male work colleague had all the females just swooning when he was around. We could hardly talk, a few flirted with him, some tried to fight off their attraction and gave him a hard time. In a work party he brought along his fiancee and we were shocked as she was not what might be classed as beautiful, but she had the most lovely nature and once we got chatting to her, and saw the two of them together we all realised that there needs to be more than just a beautiful face to wake up to every morning for the rest of your life.
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