Marriage and Relationships (100)
MetalMilitia: Im starting to think im rather unique up in here.... so i know 3 dudes in particular who have been married, had kids and been subsequently divorced....
one of them remained single for about a year, then found a chick and is now engaged... he is (in my view) the smartest one as he is actually taking his time and ensuring he dont marry another member of the Evil Empire... but the other two...
well.. one is going for wife #3 and the other is already working on #5... its like they are having a competition or something... i've known them for about 10 years now and in that time, i'd be surprised if they have a combined 1 year of single status
and thats just the dudes.... i know women that were remarried just months after a divorce !!!
... and then there are those in here who are proud to tell us all that they traveled, they met, they copulated and now they are getting hitched !!!
then you read the forums and online profiles and all you see is... "im looking for the man/woman of my dreams" "im ready for a long lasting relationship" "i want a husband/wife" .... blah blah blah....are yall really THAT hard up for company???? am i the only one that reads that and thinks CODEPENDENT????? What ever happened to going out having fun and letting things SLOWLY run their course????im sorry, but i just see that as a sign of desperation... and i dont do desperate... i guess that's why i cant see online dating ever working for me.... if a chick mentions marriage within the first 2 years of dating IM OUT !!!
more importantly, is there ANYONE there who would not be opposed to just being in a relationship with someone (permanently) with no marriage intentions?????
one of them remained single for about a year, then found a chick and is now engaged... he is (in my view) the smartest one as he is actually taking his time and ensuring he dont marry another member of the Evil Empire... but the other two...
well.. one is going for wife #3 and the other is already working on #5... its like they are having a competition or something... i've known them for about 10 years now and in that time, i'd be surprised if they have a combined 1 year of single status
and thats just the dudes.... i know women that were remarried just months after a divorce !!!
... and then there are those in here who are proud to tell us all that they traveled, they met, they copulated and now they are getting hitched !!!
then you read the forums and online profiles and all you see is... "im looking for the man/woman of my dreams" "im ready for a long lasting relationship" "i want a husband/wife" .... blah blah blah....are yall really THAT hard up for company???? am i the only one that reads that and thinks CODEPENDENT????? What ever happened to going out having fun and letting things SLOWLY run their course????im sorry, but i just see that as a sign of desperation... and i dont do desperate... i guess that's why i cant see online dating ever working for me.... if a chick mentions marriage within the first 2 years of dating IM OUT !!!
more importantly, is there ANYONE there who would not be opposed to just being in a relationship with someone (permanently) with no marriage intentions?????
yes but I am a fat cougar and worse- from Ohio
plus I will note the inconsistency of ur wanting this to go slowly- he whose nickname should be minutemilitia instead of metalmilitia
(and Im not really fat- just not thin either - actually I'm kinda hard to topple - sturdy )
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MetalMilitia: Im starting to think im rather unique up in here.... so i know 3 dudes in particular who have been married, had kids and been subsequently divorced....
one of them remained single for about a year, then found a chick and is now engaged... he is (in my view) the smartest one as he is actually taking his time and ensuring he dont marry another member of the Evil Empire... but the other two...
well.. one is going for wife #3 and the other is already working on #5... its like they are having a competition or something... i've known them for about 10 years now and in that time, i'd be surprised if they have a combined 1 year of single status
and thats just the dudes.... i know women that were remarried just months after a divorce !!!
... and then there are those in here who are proud to tell us all that they traveled, they met, they copulated and now they are getting hitched !!!
then you read the forums and online profiles and all you see is... "im looking for the man/woman of my dreams" "im ready for a long lasting relationship" "i want a husband/wife" .... blah blah blah....are yall really THAT hard up for company???? am i the only one that reads that and thinks CODEPENDENT????? What ever happened to going out having fun and letting things SLOWLY run their course????im sorry, but i just see that as a sign of desperation... and i dont do desperate... i guess that's why i cant see online dating ever working for me.... if a chick mentions marriage within the first 2 years of dating IM OUT !!!
more importantly, is there ANYONE there who would not be opposed to just being in a relationship with someone (permanently) with no marriage intentions?????
one of them remained single for about a year, then found a chick and is now engaged... he is (in my view) the smartest one as he is actually taking his time and ensuring he dont marry another member of the Evil Empire... but the other two...
well.. one is going for wife #3 and the other is already working on #5... its like they are having a competition or something... i've known them for about 10 years now and in that time, i'd be surprised if they have a combined 1 year of single status
and thats just the dudes.... i know women that were remarried just months after a divorce !!!
... and then there are those in here who are proud to tell us all that they traveled, they met, they copulated and now they are getting hitched !!!
then you read the forums and online profiles and all you see is... "im looking for the man/woman of my dreams" "im ready for a long lasting relationship" "i want a husband/wife" .... blah blah blah....are yall really THAT hard up for company???? am i the only one that reads that and thinks CODEPENDENT????? What ever happened to going out having fun and letting things SLOWLY run their course????im sorry, but i just see that as a sign of desperation... and i dont do desperate... i guess that's why i cant see online dating ever working for me.... if a chick mentions marriage within the first 2 years of dating IM OUT !!!
more importantly, is there ANYONE there who would not be opposed to just being in a relationship with someone (permanently) with no marriage intentions?????
I done the living together for 10 years..had kids and when they got older they asked why we werent married..we got married 4 years later divorced. I got married again,this time for a wrong reason..divorced 2 years later.Now its been 5 years with just doing the dating life,really no serious relationships but Im hoping one day I do find the one cause dating life gets really tiring. Yes..I want marriage but for the right reasons..Im patiently waiting..no rush either. But I do want to spend my life with that one cause I know when we get around 80..its going to be really hard doing the online dating...lol
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Lulibella: Wow! Im impressed.You took the words out of my mouth!
Thank you. I was trying to make a point but still keep it kind of short. I'm glad it made sense.
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Ambrose2007: You mean...you avoid serious relationships because you're afraid of being hurt?
Well I am..I admit Im afraid to let anyone close because Im afraid to get hurt.Whats the solution for this problem?
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felixis99: yes but I am a fat cougar and worse- from Ohio
plus I will note the inconsistency of ur wanting this to go slowly- he whose nickname should be minutemilitia instead of metalmilitia(and Im not really fat- just not thin either - actually I'm kinda hard to topple - sturdy )
plus I will note the inconsistency of ur wanting this to go slowly- he whose nickname should be minutemilitia instead of metalmilitia(and Im not really fat- just not thin either - actually I'm kinda hard to topple - sturdy )
so you are average right?????
its ok... nothing wrong with being chunky.... im sure there a many a men out there who appreciate a like extra meat on em bones.... but we are getting off subject here....
now about ohio.....
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Lulibella: Well I am..I admit Im afraid to let anyone close because Im afraid to get hurt.Whats the solution for this problem?
do not let anyone in.... problem solved !!!!
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MetalMilitia: do not let anyone in.... problem solved !!!!
But Im not like you..I want to love again! I dont wont to walk around with barriers around my heart and grow old all alone..that other rocking chair needs to be rocked..lol
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Same here who want to be alone in there old age, i was married twenty years ago and would love to do it all again and grow old with a beautiful lady enjoying lifes little pleasures with me.
Lulibella: But Im not like you..I want to love again! I dont wont to walk around with barriers around my heart and grow old all alone..that other rocking chair needs to be rocked..lol
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UpYourViva: Same here who want to be alone in there old age, i was married twenty years ago and would love to do it all again and grow old with a beautiful lady enjoying lifes little pleasures with me.
Awwww...A true man showing that tender side of his heart! You shouldnt have no problem UpYourViva...lol (like your name whatever that means)
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Lulibella: But Im not like you..I want to love again! I dont wont to walk around with barriers around my heart and grow old all alone..that other rocking chair needs to be rocked..lol
i understand... and trust me sometimes i do feel like im from another planet or something cos as i said in the original post, EVERYONE i know want the same you do... im just dont... i may be rationalizing but i really do not see ANYTHING that a relationship can bring me that i cant already get yet i see lots of things about said relationships that are extremely unappealing !!!
personally i dont feel alone... i have what ever company i need when ever i need it... im not really a social butterfly so i am perfectly content being alone most of the time !!!
and that's just it... you have to be happy with the consequences of your decisions... if being with someone is what works for ya then you need to be prepared for heartache...
im not afraid to be hurt.... i just dont fall in love and i dont get attached, thus im not suited for relationships... to me its just is a lot harder MAKING friends that it is to drop em on a whim !!!
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MetalMilitia: i understand... and trust me sometimes i do feel like im from another planet or something cos as i said in the original post, EVERYONE i know want the same you do... im just dont... i may be rationalizing but i really do not see ANYTHING that a relationship can bring me that i cant already get yet i see lots of things about said relationships that are extremely unappealing !!!
personally i dont feel alone... i have what ever company i need when ever i need it... im not really a social butterfly so i am perfectly content being alone most of the time !!!
and that's just it... you have to be happy with the consequences of your decisions... if being with someone is what works for ya then you need to be prepared for heartache...
im not afraid to be hurt.... i just dont fall in love and i dont get attached, thus im not suited for relationships... to me its just is a lot harder MAKING friends that it is to drop em on a whim !!!
personally i dont feel alone... i have what ever company i need when ever i need it... im not really a social butterfly so i am perfectly content being alone most of the time !!!
and that's just it... you have to be happy with the consequences of your decisions... if being with someone is what works for ya then you need to be prepared for heartache...
im not afraid to be hurt.... i just dont fall in love and i dont get attached, thus im not suited for relationships... to me its just is a lot harder MAKING friends that it is to drop em on a whim !!!
Well Dear..I hate to break your heart but your in this thing called life.Regardless if you get into a relationship or not..We all experience heartbreak in some form or matter.I hope you are very content with the choices your making but its sounds like to me,You would love to be with someone but your afraid to show the soft side of you cause once you do..you already see a heartbreak. Dont get a pet either..Cause if it died..Your heart will break. I hope oneday before you get wrinkly and old..you will see that LOVE is a wonderful thing.
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Lulibella: Well Dear..I hate to break your heart but your in this thing called life.Regardless if you get into a relationship or not..We all experience heartbreak in some form or matter.I hope you are very content with the choices your making but its sounds like to me,You would love to be with someone but your afraid to show the soft side of you cause once you do..you already see a heartbreak. Dont get a pet either..Cause if it died..Your heart will break. I hope oneday before you get wrinkly and old..you will see that LOVE is a wonderful thing.
He does have a soft side. A very tender loving soft side. You can describe him like my favorite food...Bread.
He has a hard crust outside shell but a soft fluffy inside.
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Lulibella: Well Dear..I hate to break your heart but your in this thing called life.Regardless if you get into a relationship or not..We all experience heartbreak in some form or matter.I hope you are very content with the choices your making but its sounds like to me,You would love to be with someone but your afraid to show the soft side of you cause once you do..you already see a heartbreak. Dont get a pet either..Cause if it died..Your heart will break. I hope oneday before you get wrinkly and old..you will see that LOVE is a wonderful thing.
well again... i DO have love in my life, but there wont be heartbreak unless something really horrible happens and im taking every precaution to ensure that nothing does...
as for a dog... i had 3 so far i've put 2 of them down and the next one will probably be put down in the next few months... damn thing is 105 already !!!!
so far i've not had any problems putting em down... other than slight anger after getting the bill !!!!!
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MetalMilitia: well again... i DO have love in my life, but there wont be heartbreak unless something really horrible happens and im taking every precaution to ensure that nothing does...
as for a dog... i had 3 so far i've put 2 of them down and the next one will probably be put down in the next few months... damn thing is 105 already !!!!
so far i've not had any problems putting em down... other than slight anger after getting the bill !!!!!
as for a dog... i had 3 so far i've put 2 of them down and the next one will probably be put down in the next few months... damn thing is 105 already !!!!
so far i've not had any problems putting em down... other than slight anger after getting the bill !!!!!
Wow!! Noone told me God was on here.Well Lord..Show me how we take precautions to make sure nothing happens.Please let the whole world know.
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Lulibella: Oh I know..even when I accidently run over one I dont know,I cry. I cant even run over a turtle.lol Wow! My heart is soft,after reading his thread..I see there is a soft side to me ..Whoo..Hoo..I love it!!
I'm the same way at the loss of animals. Animals are nothing but love. Pure unconditional love and saying a final goodbye would make anyone cry.
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Lulibella: Wow!! Noone told me God was on here.Well Lord..Show me how we take precautions to make sure nothing happens.Please let the whole world know.
i wish.... unfortunately precautions are just that... precautions....
bad things DO happen and the only thing we can do is try our best to be prepared to deal with them and hope for the best...
i never said that im all powerful and all knowing !!!
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rune8:
I was with my 2 childrens father for 7 years all up, I left him in 2002 after it got to aggressive 4 me and I have been on my own
ever since. I have had a couple of friendships in that time but nobody I would want to commit myself to or make a constant factor
in my kids lives.
I just haven't met him yet!!!! If he is out there at all! The next one I would like to be with is, THE ONE , I dont want to choose wrong this time.
I am telling you this to say two things:
1. You are not unique
2. I want you to know that there are people who can share their EMOTIONS.
Now what you do with that info is up to you cos when I press send it'll be out there!! For you all to see. Does that make me weak, I dont think so. In fact I know I'm not cos I have supported me and my 2 kids for 8 Years and I am A strong woman.
I was with my 2 childrens father for 7 years all up, I left him in 2002 after it got to aggressive 4 me and I have been on my own
ever since. I have had a couple of friendships in that time but nobody I would want to commit myself to or make a constant factor
in my kids lives.
I just haven't met him yet!!!! If he is out there at all! The next one I would like to be with is, THE ONE , I dont want to choose wrong this time.
I am telling you this to say two things:
1. You are not unique
2. I want you to know that there are people who can share their EMOTIONS.
Now what you do with that info is up to you cos when I press send it'll be out there!! For you all to see. Does that make me weak, I dont think so. In fact I know I'm not cos I have supported me and my 2 kids for 8 Years and I am A strong woman.
Rune I can soooo relate to your experience double parenting, dating but nothing worthy.
I wish more parents would be more considerate of their kids. Now that means to me if I want a boy toy then they shall never meet m'sons, if there is someone I want to bring into the family and we have been together a few months it will happen.
My ex married the first woman he met - and his reason was that he didnt want to be alone. He has been estranged from his sons since then. They would like me to have a partner but now they see what rushing vs patience will get you. I know he's out there.
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Lulibella: Awwww...A true man showing that tender side of his heart! You shouldnt have no problem UpYourViva...lol (like your name whatever that means)
The name is actually taken from an advert, but yes I am a big softy and always prepared to show my tender side.
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amahlala: I see nothing wrong at all with being in a relationship (permanent) with no marriage intent or intentions.
that's my intention, never been married, never will
my committment is between me and him not the government or on paper
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Although I love my children dearly, I don't ever plan on bringing another child into this world.
I think I have finally found someone that is on my level and they have the same mind set as me. They just want to hang out and have fun.....get to know one another. They are not expecting anything in return.
As for cohabitation......power to all of you that want that. I will not go there again. I won't clean up and live with someone unless I am stuck with them for the rest of my life!