Why do people join a dating site and then don't date? ( Archived) (10)

Come on, why is it, people join a dating site and then don't date. I know and understand some people just want to increase their social circle, but what about those of us who are sick of the single treadmill. (This should start a good debate and I do love a good debate)

dunno? I joined a few dating sites and I do date... Haven't actually come across anyone that said "I'm not dating"

OK it takes time to build a relationship also there are options on this site looking for friends, longterm etc. Some people do have relationships built from this site there are 2 couples that have actually become engaged while I have been here which is maybe a month,Some just want to test the waters so to speak as to the type of people on here and if they haven't found what they seek then move on. Have patience thee are some very lovely ladies on this site that are looking for romance send out some flowers and start the ball rolling. Welcome by the way enjoy your stay

Thank you, but I have been on here quite a while now and it seems to me that us Brits obviously live too far away. Which is a shame.

Ok so did you mean: why do some people join dating sites & then don't want to date internationally?
If that's the case, in my opinion- for alot of us, we don't wanna fall for someone who lives so bloody far that we only see them twice a year.

So far I haven't even been able to get a conversation started with anyone much less progess to the point of talking about possibly meeting.

It's a pretty simple scenario. I send out a simple email to say hi and in the hopes of starting a conversation and that's the end of it. I just never get any reply.

People say that you're supposed to learn from your mistakes. The problem is that if you don't even so much as get a reply you have no clue what your mistake might have been. If indeed you even made a mistake at all. I'm thinking that more than likely the other person just didn't see me as her "ideal dream man" so she just deleted my email.

This happens all the time. It's the norm as far as I can tell. Especially if the women are close by geographically. It seems the closer they are the less likely they are to reply.

I think most people are on dating sites just to "window shop" and daydream about a perfect fictious mate that they are never going to meet. Most of them have no intention of actually becoming involved with someone for real.

Over the course of a large time frame I have actually dated 4 women that I met on the Interenet. I'm glad to say that all of those encounters worked out pretty well in the short-term. We had some really great times together and parted as good friends. We simply didn't fall head-over-heels in love that's all.

I might add though that I didn't meet any of those women on this site. I have never met anyone from this site in person and I have only talked to one woman from here on the phone. She lived quite a distance away and was anchored by children and shared custody rights with her ex-husband in her home state.

I'm really hoping to meet someone either local to me, or who can relocate to me. I'm also not too keen on moving into the middle of someone else's domestic problems even if they are divorced by law.

I'd kind of like to meet a woman who is as unattached and emotionally available as I am.

I heard something said that caused me to wonder. The realm of relationships its a matter of settling on or for someone... the trick that is not memtioned/or forgotten is that moment when both decide at same time to settle for each other... then commit to the idea and proceed to build and strengthen that relationship they settled for. it made me think those of us who have xperienced marriage and then did not persue the settling therory again as the years pass we develope a realzation that it may be nic to settle its not required for us too. happiness and success is not solely determined on if you have settled for one woman or man to commit the rest of life to.
dating is shopping for something you can settle for online I'm drinking coffee, doing homework, and laundry while discussing and reading others ideas and opionion and wants and dislikes, the great thing about it is I do not have to put alot of thought into how much I should tip whenI leave not to memtion the good-byes. I guess today I can settle for this format of searching for someone I might settle for.

just an personal opinion

I'm here strictly for the entertainment. I come to the forums to meet friends. I'm not trying to pick anyone up, I'm trying to pick up where my mom left off. Hopefully I can build off her friendships.

and who is your mom?
I came here single...wound up connected..(love you amanda)
and stayed for my friends and the laughs