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I go in with an open mind, but I do have some idea of warning signs. If he looks around while I'm talking to him, drinks excessively, arrives in a taxi, etc. all are things that would be a turn-off for me.
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longhairedwoman: I go in with an open mind, but I do have some idea of warning signs. If he looks around while I'm talking to him, drinks excessively, arrives in a taxi, etc. all are things that would be a turn-off for me.
well i have never done any of those..lol
but if a person's mind is not really open...i could say on perception, wat is the point of going on the date in the first place, one could never exactly know this., its suppostion i guess
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Late??????
I live in the US and I would like to take the fifth.
Oh hell I am a woman I can not do that. Did he call and say he was running late. Was there a good reason. If not is there visiable blood where he has been in a accident. And ........
I better just play it by ear
I live in the US and I would like to take the fifth. Oh hell I am a woman I can not do that. Did he call and say he was running late. Was there a good reason. If not is there visiable blood where he has been in a accident. And ........
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skippyguy: Ok, im quite curious as to the views on this, perhaps it's my way of trying to percieve the female phyche, Who knows..lolbut Ladies in going into a date, do u have pre-conceived views, as to what u look for ...a list if u will..?, or is it all very off the cuff, and go with the flow..?, Would for instance if say...a guy arrived a little on the late side, would it completely, mess up the whole date in your view, of course im presuming this is not a blind-date but someone u have known for well a short time..??
I think you are under the impression that ALL women are the same. Ya know, stereotypical? Not so, my friend.... we are all so different.
For me.... a little late is okay provided there is a valid reason and its given at the first available opportunity. Otherwise.... take me for granted or disrespect me, BYE!
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A little late ok,maybe 15 min, if i couldn't make contact/ cell phone i would leave
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skippyguy: Ok, im quite curious as to the views on this, perhaps it's my way of trying to percieve the female phyche, Who knows..lolbut Ladies in going into a date, do u have pre-conceived views, as to what u look for ...a list if u will..?, or is it all very off the cuff, and go with the flow..?, Would for instance if say...a guy arrived a little on the late side, would it completely, mess up the whole date in your view, of course im presuming this is not a blind-date but someone u have known for well a short time..??
I don't have a list of any preconceived notions about someone I've never met. I go into an arrangement with my eyes wide open and hoping for the best, but that's just my nature.
I think if someone is going to be late on the very first date, a phone call would be nice to show courtesy to the other person. Things happen and unless it is a blatant stand up or the person is extremely late, a few minutes won't make or break it.
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xxDandelionxx: I think you are under the impression that ALL women are the same. Ya know, stereotypical? Not so, my friend.... we are all so different.
For me.... a little late is okay provided there is a valid reason and its given at the first available opportunity. Otherwise.... take me for granted or disrespect me, BYE!
For me.... a little late is okay provided there is a valid reason and its given at the first available opportunity. Otherwise.... take me for granted or disrespect me, BYE!
It's great to here all woman are different..phew..lol
but i can recall one instance..(obviously..) since i posted it..where there was a valid reason, but stil without mentioning names person, was rather...irrate for quite a while..WOULD one perceive this enough to cloud a whole date ?
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lilmamma71: I don't have a list of any preconceived notions about someone I've never met. I go into an arrangement with my eyes wide open and hoping for the best, but that's just my nature.
I think if someone is going to be late on the very first date, a phone call would be nice to show courtesy to the other person. Things happen and unless it is a blatant stand up or the person is extremely late, a few minutes won't make or break it.
I think if someone is going to be late on the very first date, a phone call would be nice to show courtesy to the other person. Things happen and unless it is a blatant stand up or the person is extremely late, a few minutes won't make or break it.
contact was kept, late was well known, im talking 15 mins for the record, hmmm, but attitudes prevail...
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skippyguy: It's great to here all woman are different..phew..lol
but i can recall one instance..(obviously..) since i posted it..where there was a valid reason, but stil without mentioning names person, was rather...irrate for quite a while..WOULD one perceive this enough to cloud a whole date ?
but i can recall one instance..(obviously..) since i posted it..where there was a valid reason, but stil without mentioning names person, was rather...irrate for quite a while..WOULD one perceive this enough to cloud a whole date ?
I don't know. You would need to give more details, of course.....
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skippyguy: well i have never done any of those..lol
but if a person's mind is not really open...i could say on perception, wat is the point of going on the date in the first place, one could never exactly know this., its suppostion i guess
but if a person's mind is not really open...i could say on perception, wat is the point of going on the date in the first place, one could never exactly know this., its suppostion i guess
Maybe a little bit of an agenda going on here?
I'd say that many women don't have preconceived ideas on the men they meet, BUT, red lights often flash, warning signs, if you will, when a man does things that trigger memories of previous bad experiences with other men.
This is a normal and good reaction, because choosing someone to be close with, is something anyone wants to get right, if they can.
Doesn't mean that people go out and have a list in their minds. It just means they are being cautious to be safe.
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xxDandelionxx: I don't know. You would need to give more details, of course.....
More details, !!! ..lol, i was late for several reasons ...one it took longer to travel than i expected, was out of my home town, ..2 it was to a place was not quite familiar with soo took a while to get my bearings, 3, i also left a little late, due to purchasing a gift for so amentioned person...i hope that suffices...lol
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GingerBe: Maybe a little bit of an agenda going on here?
I'd say that many women don't have preconceived ideas on the men they meet, BUT, red lights often flash, warning signs, if you will, when a man does things that trigger memories of previous bad experiences with other men.
This is a normal and good reaction, because choosing someone to be close with, is something anyone wants to get right, if they can.
Doesn't mean that people go out and have a list in their minds. It just means they are being cautious to be safe.
I'd say that many women don't have preconceived ideas on the men they meet, BUT, red lights often flash, warning signs, if you will, when a man does things that trigger memories of previous bad experiences with other men.
This is a normal and good reaction, because choosing someone to be close with, is something anyone wants to get right, if they can.
Doesn't mean that people go out and have a list in their minds. It just means they are being cautious to be safe.
nice answer...hmmm, but what if this is all wrongly perceived by a person..??, or, they have possible placed you wrongly into a bracket so to speak, bad luck move on i guess..
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GingerBe: Maybe a little bit of an agenda going on here?
I'd say that many women don't have preconceived ideas on the men they meet, BUT, red lights often flash, warning signs, if you will, when a man does things that trigger memories of previous bad experiences with other men.
This is a normal and good reaction, because choosing someone to be close with, is something anyone wants to get right, if they can.
Doesn't mean that people go out and have a list in their minds. It just means they are being cautious to be safe.
I'd say that many women don't have preconceived ideas on the men they meet, BUT, red lights often flash, warning signs, if you will, when a man does things that trigger memories of previous bad experiences with other men.
This is a normal and good reaction, because choosing someone to be close with, is something anyone wants to get right, if they can.
Doesn't mean that people go out and have a list in their minds. It just means they are being cautious to be safe.
agenda..?, im not sure what u r getting at..?
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skippyguy: More details, !!! ..lol, i was late for several reasons ...one it took longer to travel than i expected, was out of my home town, ..2 it was to a place was not quite familiar with soo took a while to get my bearings, 3, i also left a little late, due to purchasing a gift for so amentioned person...i hope that suffices...lol
What you might have been getting was a fear reaction too. Fear of having to sit ther and being stood up. Many people run scenarios in their heads, about the worst that can happen to them in the circumstances.
It's a bit like a child falling out of a tree. Mother picks him up, and when she sees he is fine, lets him have it verbally because she is relieved, not because she hates him.
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skippyguy: nice answer...hmmm, but what if this is all wrongly perceived by a person..??, or, they have possible placed you wrongly into a bracket so to speak, bad luck move on i guess..
It can, and does happen. That is where you find out what kind of person you are dealing with. When explanations are given, there should be tolerance, giving the benefit of the doubt. If not, then certainly feel free to dump them. Without kindness what have you got?
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GingerBe: What you might have been getting was a fear reaction too. Fear of having to sit ther and being stood up. Many people run scenarios in their heads, about the worst that can happen to them in the circumstances.
It's a bit like a child falling out of a tree. Mother picks him up, and when she sees he is fine, lets him have it verbally because she is relieved, not because she hates him.
It's a bit like a child falling out of a tree. Mother picks him up, and when she sees he is fine, lets him have it verbally because she is relieved, not because she hates him.
well....thing is, i would count the fear out, because i was meeting in a public place, and she was at home, until i got to town and then she drove there was like 5 min drive
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skippyguy: agenda..?, im not sure what u r getting at..?
Was refering to the fact it might be personal before you explained that it was.
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skippyguy: well....thing is, i would count the fear out, because i was meeting in a public place, and she was at home, until i got to town and then she drove there was like 5 min drive
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GingerBe: Was refering to the fact it might be personal before you explained that it was.
ahhh, indeed, im the kind of person who trys to correct, what i perceive as may be mistakes...to avoid them in the future and in that may be the difficulty in itself cause every woman is different...but stil i will try..lol
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but Ladies in going into a date, do u have pre-conceived views, as to what u look for ...a list if u will..?, or is it all very off the cuff, and go with the flow..?, Would for instance if say...a guy arrived a little on the late side, would it completely, mess up the whole date in your view, of course im presuming this is not a blind-date but someone u have known for well a short time..??