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GingerBe: Ok no excuse for going on at you then. She has a bit of an attitude to work on.
do u think it could go deeper than that...things perhaps i didnt know..??, but what threw me about the whole thing, was how quickly a person changes from date to date, sorta leaves u scratching your head a bit, sorta, like..ok..........what have i missed..lol, but person was a friend, but in the end, i felt somewat used...and well, next ! ...hmmm, interesting
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skippyguy: ahhh, indeed, im the kind of person who trys to correct, what i perceive as may be mistakes...to avoid them in the future and in that may be the difficulty in itself cause every woman is different...but stil i will try..lol
I think the ladies here gave you plenty of good tips on this issue at least. Calling ahead is the thing to do if you recon you will be a bit late. Sometimes even if you are going to be cutting it fine, just so she sees you as a considerate person.
Knowing you are, and showing you are, are different things.
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Jaygo1: Agreed!!! A few minutes late, especially with a valid reason - as the OP had - should be okay with most people. BUT I wouldn't let it become a habit. You should just leave earlier if you're meeting in a strange town. Even a dry run the day before could have solved the problem. Would the OP have expected a prospective employer to tolerate 15 minutes late??? I think the woman deserves as much, or more, consideration and effort as a prospective employer. JMHO
well a dry run, takes like 1 hour and 20 mins one way, !!but agreed i could have left earlier, though i was not getting employment here..lol
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GingerBe: I think the ladies here gave you plenty of good tips on this issue at least. Calling ahead is the thing to do if you recon you will be a bit late. Sometimes even if you are going to be cutting it fine, just so she sees you as a considerate person.
Knowing you are, and showing you are, are different things.
Knowing you are, and showing you are, are different things.
well i did that...was in constant txt , and i said im gonna be late, but stil seems was not happy...but thanks for the input..:):)
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I don't go on dates. I just tell guys they better
pick me up at the airport on time or they're not
getting any because I'll find someone that does
want some. ;)
No, but really...I've never been on a real date before...
>_> So I guess my posting in this thread was for nothing.
pick me up at the airport on time or they're not
getting any because I'll find someone that does
want some. ;)
No, but really...I've never been on a real date before...
>_> So I guess my posting in this thread was for nothing.
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I remember I dated a woman the year before I came to Sweden. On our first two dates, she was about 30 minutes late!!! Each time!!! Then she made no mention of her lateness on the first date, and I just let it slide. Then on the second date, she was like 45 minutes late! And this was before cell phones were in vogue (1999). So she strolls in on the second date at the restaurant we met up at and made no mention of her tardiness. So I asked her politely why she was so late, then I did kind express my irritation and explained to her that I had been waiting for what seemed like an eternity. I forgot what the reasons where really, but the next time we went out, I simply picked her up---and do remember her being on time the next time. She was from Mexico, so maybe they are just casually like REAL late in their culture? Anyways, I shook it off and everything went fine---especially into the night
Glad I was so understanding and patient with her, because the lovemaking was damn worth it
Glad I was so understanding and patient with her, because the lovemaking was damn worth it
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skippyguy: well i did that...was in constant txt , and i said im gonna be late, but stil seems was not happy...but thanks for the input..:):)
If she's that much of a pill and can't understand things happen and you were trying to be considerate..I'd say it's her issues not yours..move on along and find another fish in the sea...that's that.
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If I was Going on a date, I try to do just as I asid, If i said 7pm, I would make my bet to be there at 7, But yes, as Thing happen I would definutely Call if I was going to be late...
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skippyguy: Ok, im quite curious as to the views on this, perhaps it's my way of trying to percieve the female phyche, Who knows..lolbut Ladies in going into a date, do u have pre-conceived views, as to what u look for ...a list if u will..?, or is it all very off the cuff, and go with the flow..?, Would for instance if say...a guy arrived a little on the late side, would it completely, mess up the whole date in your view, of course im presuming this is not a blind-date but someone u have known for well a short time..??
I go in with an open mind. I've never met the person before so I dont expect that they will be anything other than someone who's company I may enjoy.
Lateness?? well it depends on the person, if they say sorry then Im happy. If they dont even acknowledge their lateness, thats a different story. Im a stickler for time, I've been late probably 3 times in my adult life - so for me, its important, it shows respect - everyones time is valuable to them.
Same as how they present themselves .. if they've not made any effort to look presentable, then I know that they really arent that interested. Im talking guys who will rock up in their stubby shorts, tshirts and thongs .. looking like they've just stepped out of the back yard.
I have things that are important to me. For a first meet they arent really issues, for a friendship or relationship to work, then yeah.. they are issues.
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a SpaceCraft....
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Draleni: I don't go on dates. I just tell guys they better
pick me up at the airport on time or they're not
getting any because I'll find someone that does
want some. ;)
No, but really...I've never been on a real date before...
>_> So I guess my posting in this thread was for nothing.
pick me up at the airport on time or they're not
getting any because I'll find someone that does
want some. ;)
No, but really...I've never been on a real date before...
>_> So I guess my posting in this thread was for nothing.
all input is welcome..:)but i guess there are airport dates..??..lol
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StressFree: I remember I dated a woman the year before I came to Sweden. On our first two dates, she was about 30 minutes late!!! Each time!!! Then she made no mention of her lateness on the first date, and I just let it slide. Then on the second date, she was like 45 minutes late! And this was before cell phones were in vogue (1999). So she strolls in on the second date at the restaurant we met up at and made no mention of her tardiness. So I asked her politely why she was so late, then I did kind express my irritation and explained to her that I had been waiting for what seemed like an eternity. I forgot what the reasons where really, but the next time we went out, I simply picked her up---and do remember her being on time the next time. She was from Mexico, so maybe they are just casually like REAL late in their culture? Anyways, I shook it off and everything went fine---especially into the night
Glad I was so understanding and patient with her, because the lovemaking was damn worth it
Glad I was so understanding and patient with her, because the lovemaking was damn worth it
i guess she was on Mexican time..i know they get that in Fiji, ill be there when im there..lol, but i guess the wait was worth the money in gold in this case,...
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afterbam: a SpaceCraft....
hmmm, you saying she wa an alien..??? ok that explains it..lol
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skippyguy: More details, !!! ..lol, i was late for several reasons ...one it took longer to travel than i expected, was out of my home town, ..2 it was to a place was not quite familiar with soo took a while to get my bearings, 3, i also left a little late, due to purchasing a gift for so amentioned person...i hope that suffices...lol
But was she aware of all this? If not, why not? If she was, me thinks you're better off without her?
Good luck
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I go on a date with a open mind,i think of it as an adventure...some are fun,some are not!....As far as being late,some people will leave if there not there on the dot.....i give them 30 mins. to a hour before i leave,they could be in traffic,flat tire...could be a lot of reasons...a phone call saying you are running late is the best answer....
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longhairedwoman: I go in with an open mind, but I do have some idea of warning signs. If he looks around while I'm talking to him, drinks excessively, arrives in a taxi, etc. all are things that would be a turn-off for me.
whats wrong with arriving in a taxi
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I don't or try not to , it leads to let down if you expect to much and then ya don't except the other person for being them self. It's better to just things happen you can appreciate it more that way. And more fun cuz ya just don't know. Just be you and if ya screw up once so what she will to, it's called being human. And if they don't except that well move on.
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I expect a guy to turn up late on roller blades, wearing shorts, picking his nose and farting. Usually Im not disappointed. 
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demonfairy: I go on a date with a open mind,i think of it as an adventure...some are fun,some are not!....As far as being late,some people will leave if there not there on the dot.....i give them 30 mins. to a hour before i leave,they could be in traffic,flat tire...could be a lot of reasons...a phone call saying you are running late is the best answer....
In Finland unpunctuality is an insult, but can be alleviated with an apologetic phone call and a small present. Got me out of trouble a few times.
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Agreed!!! A few minutes late, especially with a valid reason - as the OP had - should be okay with most people. BUT I wouldn't let it become a habit. You should just leave earlier if you're meeting in a strange town. Even a dry run the day before could have solved the problem. Would the OP have expected a prospective employer to tolerate 15 minutes late??? I think the woman deserves as much, or more, consideration and effort as a prospective employer. JMHO