what if some one keeps pushing a meeting and u don't want to? ( Archived) (28)

I agree...she sounds like a scatter brain

If you can't meet him then have him meet you. If Muhammed can't go to the mountain then bring the mountain to Muhammed.

no she sounds like a person who has a hard time saying NO.
Sounds like you wanted to meet him at first but the more you talked the more you felt it wasn't the right time.As for work issues,its okay to say no once and awhile.I worked for McDonalds for 14 yrs,10 of which was spent at the same place.I was the one they called in all the time because I felt bad saying NO.They should hire more dependable people like you.
As for him throwing the race card in thats just immature.Sometimes it really is just because they are a creep.
I would listen to your gut and not meet this guy.Asm for your friends,I'm sure they are used to your forgetfulness by now and accept you for who you are.
Good luck to you and remember to trust that gut feeling.It will never let you down

I agree with cutelil...

I hope that you will trust yourself...and your gut...and in time it will get easier to say no...when it feels like no...

Please keep yourself safe...better to hurt someones feelings that to end up "really hurt"

Wish you the best...

i'm also sweetieb1192 my profile got deleted somehow and i understand that i'm sending mixed messages here but that's the way i feel and thanks for the last 2 people who responded i am going with my gut here and i have have backed away from him and distancing myself from him and hopefully i will be able to not talk to him anymore and have him no longer contact me. cuz i don't need to be harrassed by the likes of him.

At first i thought i was the only one who was seeing this from a totally different perspective...but then Abra came on..and i had to breathe a sigh of relief...

I don't really think you wanted to meet him, you may have talked yourself into believing you did...but i don't see that...if you really did want to meet him believe me you would have made the time and you would NOT have forgotten you had plans...

I myself know that if i made plans to meet some guy from here...and he kept on putting it off because of "work"...i would definitely feel that he didn't want to really meet me...one day/night off work (especially if it was not his night/day to work) wouldn't hurt...if i meant that much to him...

However...I also would not want to date someone who "pushed" as hard as you said he did, because to me that's just an indication of what our "relationship" will be in the future...

Just my .02

Well said. Sweetie if you really wanted to meet the guy you would have found a way.