what if some one keeps pushing a meeting and u don't want to? (28)
sweetieb11922 Threads 106 Postsok i know this guy from another site i sometimes visit and he's been wanting to meet me for about 2 or 3 weeks but due to my work schuedle i am unable to keep the dates of meetings or i get called into work cuz i work in a fast food restuarant and sometimes people call in sick and seeing i'm one of the closest people to come in i get called first. or i forget that i had already made plans to go away for the day or go out with friends like weeks ahead of that and booked that day off just for them. and he thinks that i'm making it all up just so that i don't have to meet him when i want to and i keep trying to but can't because of those reasons. what so i do??
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Pushing can't be comfortable and if there is uncomfort in his approach, tell him to back off. Simple.
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I'm confused, your title says *and you dont want to* but your saying you are trying but you can't seem to manage it because of work etc.
Do you want to meet them or not?
Do you want to meet them or not?
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I'm surprised he keeps trying after being blown off. Dump him.
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ok i do want to meet him but with the pushing of the meeting makes me not want to sorry for any confusions
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i'm not even dating him i only know what he looks like in his pics but he still isn't getting the hints but he's now taking a little offense to it cuz he thinks because he is a coloured man
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You answered your own question. If he believes that it's a racial issue talk to him and explain in-depth -exactly- why it is that you don't want to meet just yet. Don't give him any space to wonder or speculate, and he'll have no way of evading your word choice, and exactly what you mean.
My .02
My .02
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If you feel uncomfortable about it, don't go through with it. Maybe something like *I would really like to get to know you a little more before we meet* , if you want to meet him, but you aren't really in that *comfort zone* yet.
If not, then just don't meet with him.
If he won't spend more time getting to know you first, then you are probably better off not meeting.
Just my 2 cents
If not, then just don't meet with him.
If he won't spend more time getting to know you first, then you are probably better off not meeting.
Just my 2 cents
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i've tried to ask for that and he kept pushing the meeting part and i kept telling him no and i have my reasons for things and i did keep getting called into work and i kept having the other plans come up which i am grateful for cuz i didn't have to meet him
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Exactly what I was thinking.
I would suggest that if you are making plans that much with other people that you write them all down so you can have a reference.
I can see where he could think that you are avoiding him as well as I can see where you feel like you are being pushed.
This is a good example where men and women come to different conclusions.
If you are truly wanting to meet this man, then you need to make a date that is acceptable to you both. It's not that hard to keep a day open at your employment open. Just write it down on the work calendar. And if not then be honest and tell him so.
In my opinion, he has the right to feel that you are avoiding him.
I mean, how else is he gonna find out what you want if he doesnt ask?
My 2 cents.
Kat
I would suggest that if you are making plans that much with other people that you write them all down so you can have a reference.
I can see where he could think that you are avoiding him as well as I can see where you feel like you are being pushed.
This is a good example where men and women come to different conclusions.
If you are truly wanting to meet this man, then you need to make a date that is acceptable to you both. It's not that hard to keep a day open at your employment open. Just write it down on the work calendar. And if not then be honest and tell him so.
In my opinion, he has the right to feel that you are avoiding him.
I mean, how else is he gonna find out what you want if he doesnt ask?
My 2 cents.
Kat
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Well, okay then. you just answered it. You are not ready to meet this man this soon, so you just have to tell him. If he can't have patience then, you dont want him.
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well he won't even talk to me now and i am kind of relieved that he isn't going to be bugging me anymore about meetings and stuff but i feel guilt though that i never followed through for a meeting but just wasn't able to make it. i even asked him what did he think about why i wasn't able to meet him and maybe take it from there to see what he would say but he won't even talk to me. but i'm glad it's over and i don't have to worry about it anymore.
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back away slowly if someone really wants to get to know you,they will not push you.but they will wait until you are ready to move on.if he is giving you a hard time cause you cannot meet him,cause you have to work.
something should tell you something is wrong there.if he really wants to get to know you.he will wait until you are ready.he will understand you have to work.he will tell you ok i will be waiting for you
not giving you a hard time about it but he will understand.just back away and wait to see what will happen.it is best to find out now what kind of man he is.than it is by meeting him and find out he is a a**hole
something should tell you something is wrong there.if he really wants to get to know you.he will wait until you are ready.he will understand you have to work.he will tell you ok i will be waiting for you
not giving you a hard time about it but he will understand.just back away and wait to see what will happen.it is best to find out now what kind of man he is.than it is by meeting him and find out he is a a**hole
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back away slowly if someone really wants to get to know you,they will not push you.but they will wait until you are ready to move on.if he is giving you a hard time cause you cannot meet him,cause you have to work.
something should tell you something is wrong there.if he really wants to get to know you.he will wait until you are ready.he will understand you have to work.he will tell you ok i will be waiting for you
not giving you a hard time about it but he will understand.just back away and wait to see what will happen.it is best to find out now what kind of man he is.than it is by meeting him and find out he is a a**hole
something should tell you something is wrong there.if he really wants to get to know you.he will wait until you are ready.he will understand you have to work.he will tell you ok i will be waiting for you
not giving you a hard time about it but he will understand.just back away and wait to see what will happen.it is best to find out now what kind of man he is.than it is by meeting him and find out he is a a**hole
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If it started to feel like you were being harassed, it's just as well he's not talking to you now. I met someone from another site a couple of years ago who phoned me so often I blocked his number.
If someone can't accept your reasons without challenging you I think that's a red flag, a warning sign.
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You NEVER have to do anything you don't wish to do,and if your questioning it,to me that says alot.......
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I agree with the Prof. Talk to him and explain to him in depth what is going on and how that you feel his pressuring you is starting to really take its toll on you. If he really is that interested he will understand and if he still keeps bothering you and pressuring you then maybe just let him go and move on.
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Good points here... After reading the title of the forum and then your comments I'm confused, so just imagine how confused he is... A simple yes or no works much better than all the chaos going on. Just my opinion. 
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this has all the narkings of saying "No" but meanng "yes" and vice versa... this is an example why men are confused about women...
you say one thing and do another....just too many reasons areused to justify you not meeting him.... too many
someone should tip this guy off ..just incase he does read this you can if your excuses start sounding old and tired to you use the weather as an excuse... by that time you should be able to have sit , speak and fetch to your bidding unless he dumps you.
thats this man opinion
you say one thing and do another....just too many reasons areused to justify you not meeting him.... too many
someone should tip this guy off ..just incase he does read this you can if your excuses start sounding old and tired to you use the weather as an excuse... by that time you should be able to have sit , speak and fetch to your bidding unless he dumps you.
thats this man opinion
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