imsophie1: I have no idea how they actually got on together since I haven't seen him but once, shortly after he left. I can't imagine it lasted long since there aren't many women who would be willing or able to tolerate the problems (both mental and physical) that had been caused by his multiple head injuries.
Even now, I find myself not caring that he left me the way he did. I lived for too many long years in a hell not of my making. My middle daughter had survived 4 head injuries in the last 7 years of her life. When he left, his problems left with him. Good riddance! I'd have her back in a heartbeat (if I could), even with all her head injury problems.
Unfortunately, much of his behaviour was probably due to, or exacrebated by, the head injuries. How terribly tragic that your daughter had to suffer that, too!
Sk8ndnc: Love at first sight does exist. Chances that it's mutual, are, however EXTREMELY slim.
Good point. I think you might be right.
I was speaking with an Indian doctor friend of mine yesterday as she has a long, happy marriage. She said many marriages were arranged back in India at the time. Though hers wasn't, she did qualify that by saying her husband had picked her out from the crowd and decided he wanted her as his mate and wife. When they met and spoke, she thought he was really nice, good looking, and they got on well - so she agreed. Simple.
Her other comment was that no-one will be perfect for us. As far as choosing a partner with whom we could be happy, she said that long as they tick about 50% of our boxes, then things should go well - as long as the two people respect each other and commit to care for each other. About romance? She said that is highly over-rated, and that romance fades - it's the other ingredients that will hold a marriage together. Commitment being the big one.
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Even now, I find myself not caring that he left me the way he did. I lived for too many long years in a hell not of my making. My middle daughter had survived 4 head injuries in the last 7 years of her life. When he left, his problems left with him. Good riddance! I'd have her back in a heartbeat (if I could), even with all her head injury problems.
Unfortunately, much of his behaviour was probably due to, or exacrebated by, the head injuries. How terribly tragic that your daughter had to suffer that, too!