Why do relationships fail? (46)
normalguy68Wonthaggi, Victoria Australia62 Threads 15 Polls 1,829 PostsYou can compromise til the cows come home and then it's still not enough for some people.
normalguy68: You can compromise til the cows come home and then it's still not enough for some people.
In my opinion, relationships are a partnership, two people working towards the same outcome, which is to be together.
No one person is perfect, we all have our faults and weaknesses, our likes and dislikes. It is finding the balance between all these that is part of a good relationship
When a relationship fails you cannot say it is the fault of just one person, but maybe the failure of both to either recognise the problem/s or to find a way to compromise/deal with them.
In my past long term relationship I recognised where I gave up on it, where I stopped caring. When I realised what was happening both to me and to the relationship I put in place changes. But even though I took action my then partner was too lazy to even try.
I take responsibility for my mistakes, just the way I hold him responsible for his. It wasnt one thing or person that failed the relationship, but many different things.
Not listening
jem1964: In my opinion, relationships are a partnership, two people working towards the same outcome, which is to be together.
No one person is perfect, we all have our faults and weaknesses, our likes and dislikes. It is finding the balance between all these that is part of a good relationship
When a relationship fails you cannot say it is the fault of just one person, but maybe the failure of both to either recognise the problem/s or to find a way to compromise/deal with them.
In my past long term relationship I recognised where I gave up on it, where I stopped caring. When I realised what was happening both to me and to the relationship I put in place changes. But even though I took action my then partner was too lazy to even try.
I take responsibility for my mistakes, just the way I hold him responsible for his. It wasnt one thing or person that failed the relationship, but many different things.
No one person is perfect, we all have our faults and weaknesses, our likes and dislikes. It is finding the balance between all these that is part of a good relationship
When a relationship fails you cannot say it is the fault of just one person, but maybe the failure of both to either recognise the problem/s or to find a way to compromise/deal with them.
In my past long term relationship I recognised where I gave up on it, where I stopped caring. When I realised what was happening both to me and to the relationship I put in place changes. But even though I took action my then partner was too lazy to even try.
I take responsibility for my mistakes, just the way I hold him responsible for his. It wasnt one thing or person that failed the relationship, but many different things.
I don't think people even get a chance to cut a deal and work things out these days.
Easy come easy go attitude.
Plenty of fish in the sea.
It's funny though when I hear some of the older customers who come into the shop saying they wished they hadn't jump ship so quickly as they miss what they had, they were just too impatient.
In my opinion the main thing that keeps a relationship strong is COMMUNICATION.
WHY because you have to communicate your feelings, needs and hopes.
If we dont comunicate we are only listing to one side of the partnership.
WHY because you have to communicate your feelings, needs and hopes.
If we dont comunicate we are only listing to one side of the partnership.
Oldbussy: In my opinion the main thing that keeps a relationship strong is COMMUNICATION.
WHY because you have to communicate your feelings, needs and hopes.
If we dont comunicate we are only listing to one side of the partnership.
WHY because you have to communicate your feelings, needs and hopes.
If we dont comunicate we are only listing to one side of the partnership.
yep Oldbussy
well said, because without communication it is more than likely destined to go down the tubesnormalguy68: Reading books, the main things needed in a relationship are:
Love
Honesty
Blessing - being thankful for having your partner
Edifying - building up your partner
Trust - sharing
Touching - not just what you're thinking, mainly holding hands, cuddling and eye contact
Take out some of these elements and you're doomed to failure
Love
Honesty
Blessing - being thankful for having your partner
Edifying - building up your partner
Trust - sharing
Touching - not just what you're thinking, mainly holding hands, cuddling and eye contact
Take out some of these elements and you're doomed to failure
Yep , all off those stuffed it for me!
But that was just bad judgment on my behalf? At the time!
Trying to find a woman to see past what she could get out of a relationship as to what she could put in to that trust, is beyond me!
I can only be me! I cant be what others want?
My life at the moment is going real good with just me and the kid,
If I could bottle it I would make millions?
sxc666: It gets to the point, where things have been repeated over and over again, eventually its better to be quite, which only builds resentment.
If you feel you aren't being listened to, aren't being respected. Then you aren't going to feel like dancing the banana tango with your partner.
Whilst communicating is important, its even more important to actually listen to what is being said.
If you feel you aren't being listened to, aren't being respected. Then you aren't going to feel like dancing the banana tango with your partner.
Whilst communicating is important, its even more important to actually listen to what is being said.
It's funny when you do the required mediation for a divorce with a counsellor that if this counselling had happened prior to the separation, maybe the 2 would still be one unit as they seem to be talking instead of biting one anothers heads off while in front of a mediator.
sxc666: It gets to the point, where things have been repeated over and over again, eventually its better to be quite, which only builds resentment.
If you feel you aren't being listened to, aren't being respected. Then you aren't going to feel like dancing the banana tango with your partner.
Whilst communicating is important, its even more important to actually listen to what is being said.
If you feel you aren't being listened to, aren't being respected. Then you aren't going to feel like dancing the banana tango with your partner.
Whilst communicating is important, its even more important to actually listen to what is being said.
I like the sound of that banana tango
Can you teach me the steps to it, sxc?
normalguy68: Reading books, the main things needed in a relationship are:
Love
Honesty
Blessing - being thankful for having your partner
Edifying - building up your partner
Trust - sharing
Touching - not just what you're thinking, mainly holding hands, cuddling and eye contact
Take out some of these elements and you're doomed to failure
Love
Honesty
Blessing - being thankful for having your partner
Edifying - building up your partner
Trust - sharing
Touching - not just what you're thinking, mainly holding hands, cuddling and eye contact
Take out some of these elements and you're doomed to failure
Yes reading books you can also get a lot of missleading information in thoses types of books as there are so many ones with diffrant advice in them.
Yes I agree that the qualities that you have pointed out are important.
But I feel that I have been short changed in every relationship because I have not been given the instruction manual. Cheated or what?
Did we get one from birth to help us grow up? No most of it was passed onto us. The rest we had to learn by trial and error.
It comes back to my point that the most important this on any relationship is COMUNICATION if you have that then no relationship will ever be hard. Its the way you let you partner know your feeling and disiars in any relationship. And yes the main key is that BOTH comunicate.
You don't always need to communicate with your voice, sometimes touch like a warm embrace, a firm loving massage and your partners favourite meal cooked and ready when they arrive home can say a 1000 words. ie: I love you
online today!online today!pisceslady7Kincumber nr. Gosford, New South Wales Australia21 Threads 4 Polls 1,910 PostsIMHO...I see the issue is trying to make some-one else into the person you WANT them to be...not who they are. The second issue is (as in a past relationship) showing up as a certain person yet really being honest about who you really are and what you honestly think.
I believe we don't communicate enough, respect each other, accept each other, be REAL and honest with who we are and our thoughts and feelings, not take each other for granted and treat each other like part of the furniture.
A HUGE hint....most of what we need in a relationship is to be treated and treat our partner as we do our dearest friends. After all, is that not the basis if a real relationship?
Now off soap box...NEXT??
I believe we don't communicate enough, respect each other, accept each other, be REAL and honest with who we are and our thoughts and feelings, not take each other for granted and treat each other like part of the furniture.
A HUGE hint....most of what we need in a relationship is to be treated and treat our partner as we do our dearest friends. After all, is that not the basis if a real relationship?
Now off soap box...NEXT??
ybfayl: Oh and if that fails make yer own
**turbators/make-your-own-home-made-m**turbators
**turbators/make-your-own-home-made-m**turbators
oh brother.. wonder how many teenagers give that a go 
pisceslady7: A shame some people do not raise their children with a moral code of mutual respect...and also with the self-esteem to NOT accept poor treatment from ANYONE. Parents also need to monitor their children's screen time and content and get to know their friends. No...I am NOT having a go at parents, however, I feel that if ALL people raised the bar then society would improve markedly.
IMO these forums and social networks are the worst things ever invented.
There should be a time limit atatched to their use and no logging on after 1hr of use.
normalguy68: IMO these forums and social networks are the worst things ever invented.
There should be a time limit atatched to their use and no logging on after 1hr of use.
got a spare durri darl There should be a time limit atatched to their use and no logging on after 1hr of use.
bluejay2011: ooh I misread that
more wine ?
I thought about this thread last night, there are so many reasons why they do.
There are so many reasons why they shouldn't
There are so many reasons why they shouldn't
normalguy68: Reading books, the main things needed in a relationship are:
Love
Honesty
Blessing - being thankful for having your partner
Edifying - building up your partner
Trust - sharing
Touching - not just what you're thinking, mainly holding hands, cuddling and eye contact
Take out some of these elements and you're doomed to failure
Well you asked your question with an answer, so really what is the real question.Love
Honesty
Blessing - being thankful for having your partner
Edifying - building up your partner
Trust - sharing
Touching - not just what you're thinking, mainly holding hands, cuddling and eye contact
Take out some of these elements and you're doomed to failure
normalguy68: Now i know why my last relationship failed.
cause you don't know how to communicate? 
More Threads
Happy Birthday MysteriousGirl80
Nature
Sleepy Don!
Don Shits-In-Pants!!!
Common Issues with the BMW X1
The Best of the GOP
everything is changing
your personality
Feel Good Music
rarotonga
More Threads
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).