Until love falls apart... (87)
mariespoodles: I could start by sharing some of my own hideous bitter experiences but I wont ... however, I will say that it was LOVE within that was used to heal my pain ... I could have blamed LOVE many times if it were LOVE that was to blame.
I truly believe it is not LOVE that feels jealous, bitter, incompetent, worthless, shame, quilt, victimised, hurt etc..., it's common sense to think it would be FEAR that would create these feelings...
but alas
it seems common sense is not so common anymore!!
being an optimist and a realist I would also like to say... I believe common sense is still out there for the seekers but eludes the resisters
it's not rocket science ... LOVE is not PAIN... FEAR/EGO is PAIN... lose of LOVE is PAIN... bitter experiences are PAIN... and if we use LOVE on these bitter experiences, we are more likely to heal... FEAR erodes us and leaves us feeling defeated... we cannot heal using FEAR just as we cannot FEAR using LOVE... you do the math Antjo!!
If you try anythign new or old (but specially something previously tried) you cannot afford fear. You are right. ...... somehow about the fear connection when it comes to skeptical people: it is just so comfortable to be one, a loner enjoying oneself, and then one day by not resisitng the forbidden fruits of the love garden, one has to fear to lose such a precious thing many do not appreciate: to enjoy being with yourself. I truly believe it is not LOVE that feels jealous, bitter, incompetent, worthless, shame, quilt, victimised, hurt etc..., it's common sense to think it would be FEAR that would create these feelings...
but alas
it seems common sense is not so common anymore!!
being an optimist and a realist I would also like to say... I believe common sense is still out there for the seekers but eludes the resisters
it's not rocket science ... LOVE is not PAIN... FEAR/EGO is PAIN... lose of LOVE is PAIN... bitter experiences are PAIN... and if we use LOVE on these bitter experiences, we are more likely to heal... FEAR erodes us and leaves us feeling defeated... we cannot heal using FEAR just as we cannot FEAR using LOVE... you do the math Antjo!!
This math of love is so bloody complicated, my dear...still racking my brain once in a while about that.
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Antjo39: If you try anythign new or old (but specially something previously tried) you cannot afford fear. You are right. ...... somehow about the fear connection when it comes to skeptical people: it is just so comfortable to be one, a loner enjoying oneself, and then one day by not resisitng the forbidden fruits of the love garden, one has to fear to lose such a precious thing many do not appreciate: to enjoy being with yourself.
This math of love is so bloody complicated, my dear...still racking my brain once in a while about that.
This math of love is so bloody complicated, my dear...still racking my brain once in a while about that.
Hola Antjo !! Nada de miedo pero miedo si mismo!!------ This thread is Archived ------
Never been in love,but by the sounds of it,its pretty dodgy!
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GingerBe: Love is not a source of pain. Bad decisions are. Choosing to ignore common sense, and using love as an excuse to do what you want, usually ends up with some form of pain. Alcohol in the mix, just spells disaster.
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Antjo39: If you try anythign new or old (but specially something previously tried) you cannot afford fear. You are right. ...... somehow about the fear connection when it comes to skeptical people: it is just so comfortable to be one, a loner enjoying oneself, and then one day by not resisitng the forbidden fruits of the love garden, one has to fear to lose such a precious thing many do not appreciate: to enjoy being with yourself.
This math of love is so bloody complicated, my dear...still racking my brain once in a while about that.
This math of love is so bloody complicated, my dear...still racking my brain once in a while about that.
ok... allow me to assist you with the math...
here's one for you Antjo
... when you rack your brain every once in a while as you say... what and who are you focusing on??
a) what actions another took in the given situation and how you enabled their actions to work for them??
or
b) their actions and how it hurt and/or confused you in some way??
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mariespoodles: ok... allow me to assist you with the math...
here's one for you Antjo ...
when you rack your brain every once in a while as you say... what and who are you focusing on??
a) what actions another took in the given situation and how you enabled their actions to work for them??
or
b) their actions and how it hurt and/or confused you in some way??
Neither of those. I just focus on the fact that I have tried to follow the model of love as we were taught. I am still after that somehow (even of consciously I say no) but from previous experience I see that I would be bored with a woman´s body, conversation, repetitive actions, etc. I do not even have to concentrate on bad or confusing behavior of someone, it is just me. I am not designed to be in the same nest with soemone for so long. I start feeling it is a cage and I grow more embittered and dissapointed about that kind of love. here's one for you Antjo ...
when you rack your brain every once in a while as you say... what and who are you focusing on??
a) what actions another took in the given situation and how you enabled their actions to work for them??
or
b) their actions and how it hurt and/or confused you in some way??
I just find it so true that two start a relationship just until love does them apart. Save the few exceptions who really develop superior feelings.
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Perfect!!!
I knew common sense still exists for some of us hey Larry