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maddog22blacktown, New South Wales Australia6 Threads 75 Postswould you stay with someone who says she loves you but isnt in love with you
I think you should move outta her house , stop massaging her ankles and she if miss Keeps you hanging on a string misses you!!If she does then she needs to make a commitment to you, If she doesnt then its time you found someone who deserves you
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From previous experience, No. It is always hard when we try and hang onto something that just isn't there, the only advice I can give, is while you are hanging on the time is ticking. Don't waste life's time, life is too short.
If she's not in love with you, that's fine, but you won't force it or change it. It just mean you need to consider if you want to be there and live like that, or move on and fine someone that will fall in love with you.
If I was you, I would be having a long hard think. Sometimes we hang on, because we are fearful of the unknown, and you know what after a while that unknown is pretty awesome.
If she's not in love with you, that's fine, but you won't force it or change it. It just mean you need to consider if you want to be there and live like that, or move on and fine someone that will fall in love with you.
If I was you, I would be having a long hard think. Sometimes we hang on, because we are fearful of the unknown, and you know what after a while that unknown is pretty awesome.
sometimes all we need is a push in the right direction.I hung onto a marriage for 19 years when she loved but wasnt in love with me .when it ended i was trashed until i found my feet again . in the end tho, it was the best thing that could have happend to me
maddog22: would you stay with someone who says she loves you but isnt in love with you
FFS I just wrote this huge reply, and the Short person had unplugged the net and I lost it all.... so here I go again.
Only you can decide.
Are you able to be a friend? Are you able to put your feelings aside? because one day she will start seeing people, and maybe even fall in love. Are you able to be happy for her if and when that happens? or will it be like a knife through your heart each and every time you see her/them? If you are her friend she has every right to expect that you would be happy for her.
Are you able to move on if you are in close proximity to her? Is she a constant reminder of your feelings? Are you going to get bitter? is this going to build resentment? Are you going to badmouth every guy she meets? Cause if you do, you will get short shift and slowly but surely she will exclude you from her life.
Are you going to sit there waiting, with a candle lit in your window in the vague hope that one day she will turn around and see you? If you are then you're doomed like a heroine from a Bronte novel.
I once dated a man, who I loved with all my heart and then some. Oneday he decided to go back to his exwife. I walked away, no tantrums, no contact, no nothing. Why? cause I loved him, and I believe that being in love isnt about thinking about what 'we' want its about focussing on whats best for the other person.
I dont envy you.... and I truly hope that you will meet a wonderful person who will be love of your life, and you will never feel the same about her again.
Hey shell what r you gonna call the short person when she is taller than her mum?
kizzy27: Hey shell what r you gonna call the short person when she is taller than her mum?
she almost is... she's up past my shoulder now. Year 11 at school, and growing up soooooo fast its becoming a blur.We're doing braces, formals, part time jobs.... where did the little thing in pigtails eating vegemite sangas go?
Im not sure what I'll call her soon, maybe it'll be NLFD... Not Late For Dinner
maddog22: would you stay with someone who says she loves you but isnt in love with you
I've always been confused by the whole 'love but not in love' thing.
If you love your partner, surely that's better than going out and sitting in bars to try and recreate that 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling of being in love, with someone new?
Relationships go through stages, sometimes you are madly in love with your partner and somedays you want to kill them.
I guess it all depends on what that female means by in love...if it means that she no longer found him romantically attractive, I think that's a deal breaker.
daisy333: I've always been confused by the whole 'love but not in love' thing.
If you love your partner, surely that's better than going out and sitting in bars to try and recreate that 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling of being in love, with someone new?
Relationships go through stages, sometimes you are madly in love with your partner and somedays you want to kill them.
I guess it all depends on what that female means by in love...if it means that she no longer found him romantically attractive, I think that's a deal breaker.
If you love your partner, surely that's better than going out and sitting in bars to try and recreate that 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling of being in love, with someone new?
Relationships go through stages, sometimes you are madly in love with your partner and somedays you want to kill them.
I guess it all depends on what that female means by in love...if it means that she no longer found him romantically attractive, I think that's a deal breaker.
Stop torturing yourself and move on
daisy333: I've always been confused by the whole 'love but not in love' thing.
If you love your partner, surely that's better than going out and sitting in bars to try and recreate that 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling of being in love, with someone new?
Relationships go through stages, sometimes you are madly in love with your partner and somedays you want to kill them.
I guess it all depends on what that female means by in love...if it means that she no longer found him romantically attractive, I think that's a deal breaker.
If I wasn't in love with my partner. Then yes I'd rather sit on a bar stool at a pub.If you love your partner, surely that's better than going out and sitting in bars to try and recreate that 'butterflies in the stomach' feeling of being in love, with someone new?
Relationships go through stages, sometimes you are madly in love with your partner and somedays you want to kill them.
I guess it all depends on what that female means by in love...if it means that she no longer found him romantically attractive, I think that's a deal breaker.
sxc666: If I wasn't in love with my partner. Then yes I'd rather sit on a bar stool at a pub.
But surely if you have loved once then there is every possibility that you will love again - and that maybe the next person would feel the same intensity that you do?
Wysterious: But surely if you have loved once then there is every possibility that you will love again - and that maybe the next person would feel the same intensity that you do?
I'm not sure why you are asking me that question?I love my pets.
I love my wardrobe.
I love my neighbours.
I love my job. I love many things.
I expect to be in love with my partner, not love.
As I've explained it above, so I won't bother explaining it again.
Of course I will love again, hell I could work with a new client tomorrow and love it.
Will I be in love again, that I question.
sxc666: I'm not sure why you are asking me that question?I love my pets.
I love my wardrobe.I love my neighbours.
I love my job. I love many things.I expect to be in love with my partner, not love.
As I've explained it above, so I won't bother explaining it again.
Of course I will love again, hell I could work with a new client tomorrow and love it.
Will I be in love again, that I question.
I love my wardrobe.I love my neighbours.
I love my job. I love many things.I expect to be in love with my partner, not love.
As I've explained it above, so I won't bother explaining it again.
Of course I will love again, hell I could work with a new client tomorrow and love it.
Will I be in love again, that I question.
Lol Maybe I am trying to convince myslef
In response to: would you stay with someone who says she loves you but isnt in love with you
Get out of this relationship as fast as you can! those words mean its over kapoot, done, nothing left at all.
I believe these words are so cruel and should never be said.
Take the good advice that is given and move on with your life,find someone who will love you.
If you dont you are on the heartbreak to hell.
I've read some brilliant responses to this question on this forum, but Martia's is by far the best advice, and if you are in this situation please take it.
These exact words (I love you, but I'm not IN LOVE with you) were said to me by my partner in 2006. I chose not to hear it and our relationship died a slow rotting death over the next four years. Until she found somebody else and suddenly I was irrelevant history. When words and actions don't match, don't ignore it like I did.
Martia, I would have liked to have talked to you five years ago.
These exact words (I love you, but I'm not IN LOVE with you) were said to me by my partner in 2006. I chose not to hear it and our relationship died a slow rotting death over the next four years. Until she found somebody else and suddenly I was irrelevant history. When words and actions don't match, don't ignore it like I did.
Martia, I would have liked to have talked to you five years ago.
Stillsearching3: I'll give you her number.
Stillsearching3: I'll give you her number.
Hey Awesome - you are in luck
Wysterious: Hey Awesome - you are in luck
This number better not be 000 or 555Wysterious: What way is that maddog?
yep that way
Wysterious: What way is that maddog?
The dawgz philosophy on life. If you cant eat it, hump it lick it... Piss on it and walk away! ....
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