Even if these 3 topics were split up, there would still be differing, genuine disagreements about concepts of faith and spirituality here. CS is not a religious dating site.
I sometimes wonder how much of a let-down meeting a famous person would be. It's really only fun if they want to meet you too. If you admire them for years and get a snide and cursory smile whilst they scrawl in your autograph book, that's a bit of a bummer. To be honest, I don't feel that there are many famous people who deserve the adulation they receive.
A friend of mine approached Billy Crystal in a cafe some years back in Sydney and asked for his autograph - she'd admired and followed his career for years. He yelled at her and told her to piss off. Now maybe he was having a bad day, or getting divorced, or just found out over dinner one of his best friends had cancer. But my friend really wishes she'd never met him because now she hates his guts lol.
Oh boy - Palin is determined, you've got to hand her that. But...she lacks credibility, she lacks so many things that America deserve from a president. Hearing her speak is always a hoot fest because she always gets something jaw-droppingly wrong. And I like the way she does her hair.
There's only so many minutes in any news coverage. If I were American, my only concern about Palin running would be the press coverage she would evitably get at the expense of more important news.
This is a very thoughtful post and an interesting question. Recently I've noticed a few guys with profiles specifying they don't like 'controlling' women - they don't like women who are loud/bossy or who nag. That seems fair enough, but what if women have a genuine concern about the relationship and want to raise that issue? Is that being bossy or controlling? You're right, controlling is not easy to define.
When I think about guys I've dated who I would consider to be controlling, it gets a little easier to explain: everything we did/where we went/what we watched on TV/when we spoke on the phone/what we talked about, it was all on their terms. They couldn't go with the flow. On anything. And needless to say it didn't last long.
I guess we all want what we want and we're all capable of manipulation. I'll be totally honest here - every female over 12 knows that men can be fairly easy to manipulate. Women with a conscience don't use those tactics often, if ever, and you certainly wouldn't manipulate someone when the outcome would be bad for them.
When is it true manipulation? When you make someone do something that will make someone else miserable in the long run, because it benefits you. True manipulation is never a win-win.
There are a few movies that have really resonated with me - some that have left me bawling my eyes out.
"My Life" with Michael Keaton is a guaranteed tear fest and also very funny at times. It is about a guy with terminal cancer who is making a video diary for his unborn child. He's very successful but struggling with regrets - he's not even on speaking terms with his own family and he won't even discuss his illness with his pregnant wife (Nicole Kidman) seriously.
The only time you really know what he's thinking is when he talks to his unborn son via his video camera. He figures this video diary is a way for his son to get to know him since he won't be around and the things he tries to teach his son ie: how to play basketball, how to make pasta, how to chat up women, are very funny.
I've seen it maybe 10 times and it's always the same - even though I know how it will end, I'm always hoping for a different ending.
Hi Dj This is a funny issue I've encountered too - but it only happens sometimes. I usually encounter this issue when I get mail that is obviously from a scammer and I delete it without opening/reading it.
But...I don't get real mail here that often - perhaps this is an issue that the more popular members face.
If knowing the truth would help me change a situation for the better then, yes, no matter how much it might hurt, knowing would be a good thing.
If it's just that someone doesn't like me, or said something awful about me - meh, who cares. In those situations you are often better off not knowing - you often would never be able to change their mind and who is to say that they're right, anyway?
Aeterna, this is an excellent summary of where a lot of single and hopeful people find themselves after they have dated for a while. I was nodding as I was reading a lot of this. It can be very disheartening to feel consistent disappointment in dating, how matter how much you put yourself out there, or how much you try to be open to different possibilities.
I don't know what the answer is but I strongly believe that love doesn't find people who are negative about finding it. When I've met people in the past it was when I'd totally relaxed and in a sense, stopped looking. I can tell you that I was always in a very happy, open and positive state of mind.
There are no guarantees in love and finding it isn't easy - which of course, is why it is so desirable. After 20 plus years of dating I can tell you what I know for sure - if you aren't with a person who doesn't make you feel fantastic about 95% of the time, you're better off single. Being single can be lonely but IMO it's also exciting because you just never know whats around the corner. Being in a dead end relationship for the sake of having a partner? Life is just too short.
It's amazing isn't it - these guys usually start out guns blazing but then the reality of how much time and effort they are really prepared to give you becomes clear. I'm sure that you really started to have hopes about this guy and I'm sorry to hear that he's disappointed you.
I absolutely agree - if they are keen you'll hear from them daily. If they are keen, you never have to worry about when they'll contact you because they always do. Wiht kindness, I'd say he's married and perhaps, wondering whether or not he should tell you. The inability to talk on the phone at certain times is the give-away for me.
The no-landline thing is something that used to make me nervous but it's increasingly common nowadays for people not to have a landline. This makes it even more likely that they have a good cost effective mobile deal because it's all they use. So his excuses about the cost of mobile contact is pretty lame and I suspect the real reason he's saying this is that he is married and knows he cannot talk on the phone freely a lot of the time.
You are absolutely in your rights to expect better than this. This guy is not treating you like you are special - he is treating you like an afterthought. Life is too short for that.
I watched the new series "At Home with Julia" last night. It's been interesting to hear the reactions of people today in the media to this series, particularly those who thought it was extremely harsh.
Did you watch it? Did you like it? Personally, I nearly laughed up my dinner I thought it was so funny.
It's the same in Australia too. We pay taxes to support the system and I like knowing that if anyone - espec me - gets sick, they will get the health care they need. It's not a perfect system but the concept that people are too sick to work and thus can't get medical coverage is something that most Australians would struggle with, ethically. The chronic health conditions are always covered and if it is an emergency its free.
In fairness, in the US, I think (I could be wrong) the medical care they get when they are covered is of a very high standard, and that's something many of them wouldn't want to give up. I get the impression that a lot of Americans think people without medical coverage are lazy as opposed to unlucky. I read that the most common reason US citizens declare bankrupcy today is because of medical bills and that seems like a terrible shame.
I don't want all this to seem like a criticism of the US - it's a great country - but there are differences in perception, I think, when it comes to health care. I think any health care change would be a huge adjustment and I can understand why many of them are worried about what it would mean for them.
I love Bob Marley's music - it's always happy and unlifting. I do go through stages where I can't listen to it for a while because I have played some of his albums to death. Some of Ziggy Marley's stuff is pretty good too, seems like music ran in the family.
I prefer to establish some sort of friendship first - the concept of sleeping with someone and not even knowing their surname is pretty bizarre to me. But...to each their own. It really depends on where you're at and what you're looking for.
I've tried a cigar, massive disappointment, it smells better when someone else smokes it. I don't have anything against women smoking cigars but it is unusual I guess. Madonna carried it off with style I always thought.
I never saw the posts you're talking about, but I think we've all said things we regret online - out of anger, frustration or even because of a bad day that had ntohing to do with the online chat at all.
It's far less commmon that people come back later and genuinely apologise.
Yes. The CIA have a keen interest in identifying psychopaths - psychopaths generally have a tenuous grip on moral codes and never worry about anything, so they're ideal for the er, less comfortable jobs that the CIA might need done. Some of these psychopathic/sociopathic types probably make very good field operatives, especially for the more dangerous work.
I never give out contact details until I'm fairly sure they're not complete douchebags/psychopaths. That takes as long as it takes for me to feel comfortable - might take days, might take longer, because all guys are different.
Most of that comfort level for me is based on how patient and reasonable the guy is when you explain your concern for personal safety. If you aren't in a rush to meet or give out contact details, complete jerks will rush you and say things like "C'mon, here's my number - ring me, you can trust me/let's meet tonight, times a wasting/I'm not online very often" etc etc.
Reasonable guys will usually say "I understand completely - some guys on dating sites are complete tools. We'll meet/chat on the phone when you're ready."
It's their hair...it's not something I'd do and I don't think there are many women who would do it willingly.
To support cancer fundraising activities maybe. As a lifestyle/fashion statement, to each their own. I think it takes a very confident and flamboyant character to carry it off.
Psychopaths can be very dangerous people, that's true. There aren't many of them, statistically - but of course, true psychopaths are adept at pretence, so there may be more than we know of. The CIA have done extensive research about psychopathic behaviour and how to spot psychopaths, worth googling if you are interested.
I think people are fascinated by psychopaths for the same reason they are fascinated by the criminal mind - it's interesting to learn about these strange people who are so different from us - from a safe distance. :-)
I probably wouldn't buy a book on psychopaths - I would probably prefer to spend my money on something a little cheerier, but I'm sure plenty of others would.
Getting married will cheer you up for a month, tops. Then you are stuck with a partner has an opinion on your flawed existence - that you have to listen to.
There are lots and lots of reasons to get married. Feeling bummed out is not a good enough one IMO.
Occasionally I think about all the nice guys in my 20s who asked me out, whilst I was neck deep in my stupid bad boy phase.
I sometimes wonder who they're with now and who they ended up with. Probably girls who were much smarter than me and who hopefully, treat them better than I did. :-)
Occasionally I think about all the nice guys in my 20s who asked me out, whilst I was neck deep in my stupid bad boy phase.
I sometimes wonder who they're with now and who they ended up with. Probably girls who were much smarter than me and who hopefully, treat them better than I did. :-)
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Even if these 3 topics were split up, there would still be differing, genuine disagreements about concepts of faith and spirituality here. CS is not a religious dating site.