what you don't know will not hurt you...so..you really don't wanna know? ( Archived) (20)

I work on the theory that if i dont know anything then i wont know if there is anything i dont know about,because i wont know whether i know anything about it or not.

I think what my question is trying to encourage is...what we do, who we are becoming now...that is who will be tomorrow...and tomorrow , what we have done..is what we will tell or hide...and to be just one person. One person at work, at home, when you're alone, when you're with people. And when I say..telling..it's not just about words. We can love louder than words. Who we are now, how we love ourselves, how we value truth for ourselves, honoring us. Then the truth will be beautiful and less hurtful.

Hi Beautiful lliah!!...In life, truth is always best because with truth we are given the opportunity to act accordingly...In other words, even the "white lies" that so many justified in the honesty thread are counterproductive in the respect that we enable, we give the person we are lying to permission to continue doing something that is wrong...Honesty is black and white, one of the few things in life that is...we twist it and turn it, we mold it and shape it in order to justify the lies we tell people because being "totally" honest all of the time is hard...It can be cruel, it can alienate us from others....It can create even bigger problems... Honesty is always right, lying is sometimes necessary....

IMO in order to be truthful to others it is so necessary to be honest with oneself. Sometimes, even when we think we're being honest, we're not because we kid ourselves. This is most blatant when we're talking about what motivates us to do one thing or another. We kid ourselves (and tell others) we're doing it for a particular reason and if we dig deep enough we often discover "the real reason" we were prompted to do this or that.

Another interesting thing to consider is people's different perception of things. 3 people experiencing the exact same event will recall 3 completely different experiences, with different memories, feelings, opinions etc. Yet all 3 will be telling THEIR truth

Most of the time, honesty and thruth is relative to the person voicing it and light years away to the truth of the person listening.

In some instances, truth CAN be black or white, but in others there's a myriad of shades of white, off white, slightly grey, greyish, slightly darker grey, silver, dark grey, grey with a dash of blue, mid-night blue & black ... and then there's gloss black & matt black We've all watched films where a barrister corners someone into giving only a "yes or no" (black or white) answer which paints a picture very removed from "the truth" because the shades of grey have been removed.

THIS is MY truth!! And I'm sticking to it for now!! Till I discover a different one

If its something that affects me or my family in any way, I want to know.

If its something that doesnt, or is simply gossip, then I would rather not.

That reminds of the time I was workking with a friend and gave her a lift into work. After a few weeks I was getting annoyed because every time she was about 10 mins late. So one day I commented on it ... AND discovered both my clocks were running about 10 mins fast!!! She'd been bang on time and I was 10 mins early!!! She'd been wondering why I had hinted about "time" a couple of times!!! We laughed about it!!