Does Love Just Happpen? (106)
PandoraX: And I don't need them to call me... have someone with a lot of experience and imagination to try it out with.
Is it Good Friday yet?
Is it Good Friday yet?
thought you had a Manly Man
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HotrodLarrys: thought you had a Manly Man
Oh, he's all man alright. Playful, imaginative, funny, and sweet too. He has facets. He's not 2-dimensional (which works out nicely because neither am I).
Too bad Germany is between us.
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tomboygirl: An interesting question,and one I suspect we have all thought about,and formulated a theory on.I fell in love once,at the same moment my partner fell for me,while making love for the first time.
It did just happen,but..
We had to have got to know each other,had decided each other were lovable people.Had judged and weighed and found each other a worthy partner.Had instinctually seen we could trust each other.Then we made love and fell in love.
So I believe,it is part choice-I would walk away from an unsuitable partner,so not allowing feelings to develop,but love happens because a particular person possesses the characteristics that you just love(so love that person easily,it just happens).
I think if you are in regular contact with someone unsuitable,for example married or abusive,and they possess the characteristics you love,you may fall in love involuntarily.So it would then not be a choice.
It did just happen,but..
We had to have got to know each other,had decided each other were lovable people.Had judged and weighed and found each other a worthy partner.Had instinctually seen we could trust each other.Then we made love and fell in love.
So I believe,it is part choice-I would walk away from an unsuitable partner,so not allowing feelings to develop,but love happens because a particular person possesses the characteristics that you just love(so love that person easily,it just happens).
I think if you are in regular contact with someone unsuitable,for example married or abusive,and they possess the characteristics you love,you may fall in love involuntarily.So it would then not be a choice.
Nice post, I think alot is built on emotional ties to one that yes, we connect with, it kind grows from the inside out, kinda unsuspectedly...Thank You..
and good night all
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pikengren: usually when you aren't looking for it.
almost always.
not when you lie to yourself,
and tell yourself you aren't looking,
but when you really truly and honestly
aren't looking.
i think we put out a different vibe when we aren't looking
that makes us more attractive.
almost always.
not when you lie to yourself,
and tell yourself you aren't looking,
but when you really truly and honestly
aren't looking.
i think we put out a different vibe when we aren't looking
that makes us more attractive.
I totally agree
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pikengren: usually when you aren't looking for it.
almost always.
not when you lie to yourself,
and tell yourself you aren't looking,
but when you really truly and honestly
aren't looking.
i think we put out a different vibe when we aren't looking
that makes us more attractive.
almost always.
not when you lie to yourself,
and tell yourself you aren't looking,
but when you really truly and honestly
aren't looking.
i think we put out a different vibe when we aren't looking
that makes us more attractive.
I think we are stronger when we aren't looking,rather than focused on what we are in need of,we have something to give.This is more attractive.
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tomboygirl: I think we are stronger when we aren't looking,rather than focused on what we are in need of,we have something to give.This is more attractive.
hmmm.
i hadn't quite thought of it like that.
makes sense.
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I think love happens when we least expect it. Its the strongest force in the universe and teaches the lesson that we cant control it. 
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venusenvy: I think love happens when we least expect it. Its the strongest force in the universe and teaches the lesson that we cant control it.
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i think a person can LEARN to love another...look at all the arranged marrieges throughout the world...but that's not to say the other does'nt excist...there are all kinds of types of love...for me, finding the love of your life is everything...i don't really know if EVERYBODY has that "one" out there for them...but without it, would'nt a person just be "settling" for something less ?...i had reached a point in my life, where i was'nt going to settle for anything less...and to be honest, did'nt think i would ever find it...but i had always heard, it'll happen when you are'nt looking for it....that's what happend with me anyway
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venusenvy: I think love happens when we least expect it. Its the strongest force in the universe and teaches the lesson that we cant control it.
in My experience, seems everyone wants Love, tho when they start falling with someone, the get scared and run from it(disappear)
Maybe they arent ready for love, but want it, Many times they have Debts, or Family ties that put them in Reverse, or maybe just have fear of not being accepted...they tend to Play a game till its their turn to bat, then come up with some lame excuse,
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HotrodLarrys: in My experience, seems everyone wants Love, tho when they start falling with someone, the get scared and run from it(disappear)
Maybe they arent ready for love, but want it, Many times they have Debts, or Family ties that put them in Reverse, or maybe just have fear of not being accepted...they tend to Play a game till its their turn to bat, then come up with some lame excuse,
Maybe they arent ready for love, but want it, Many times they have Debts, or Family ties that put them in Reverse, or maybe just have fear of not being accepted...they tend to Play a game till its their turn to bat, then come up with some lame excuse,
There is a difference between running from it and proceeding with caution (when there's good reason for it).
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Dagosto: Sometimes it sneaks up when you're not looking and wallops you.
Sure wish it would wallop me....
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HotrodLarrys: Do we Search it, and Find it?
Or is Love a Choice from within every Individual?
Or is Love a Choice from within every Individual?
Interesting thread and a great read Larry Firstly I belive it happens when we least expect it. I think actively looking can be detremental to the signals we put out. From my eperience, and I never conciously sought it, it just crept up on me.
I believe loving someone can and does fulfill a need in us. Whether consciously or subconscioulsy we look for this I do not know.
I also believe its a matter of timing. We can meet people that we could love, and at a time in our life when we are not looking, or would complicate our life, we pass them by
So, in answer to your question
I believe that we dont choose who we love consciously, but we certainly choose whether to show them that love, which is a conscious decision. Hope your well
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Nothing to add - I don't have a philosophy on love except to say nice positive thread. I am enjoying the read.
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vinny1967: Interesting thread and a great read Larry
Firstly I belive it happens when we least expect it. I think actively looking can be detremental to the signals we put out. From my eperience, and I never conciously sought it, it just crept up on me.
I believe loving someone can and does fulfill a need in us. Whether consciously or subconscioulsy we look for this I do not know.
I also believe its a matter of timing. We can meet people that we could love, and at a time in our life when we are not looking, or would complicate our life, we pass them by
So, in answer to your question I believe that we dont choose who we love consciously, but we certainly choose whether to show them that love, which is a conscious decision.
Hope your well
Firstly I belive it happens when we least expect it. I think actively looking can be detremental to the signals we put out. From my eperience, and I never conciously sought it, it just crept up on me.
I believe loving someone can and does fulfill a need in us. Whether consciously or subconscioulsy we look for this I do not know.
I also believe its a matter of timing. We can meet people that we could love, and at a time in our life when we are not looking, or would complicate our life, we pass them by
So, in answer to your question I believe that we dont choose who we love consciously, but we certainly choose whether to show them that love, which is a conscious decision.
Hope your well
Doing well Vinny, after analizing this thought, (even before the thread, I had My Answer, and I DO feel that Love is a Choice, either we are available or not, we Subconsciencely allow it or not, So To Me IT IS A CHOICE!, tho it dont fall off of trees, when we enable ourselves to be Ready for Love, Then we must wait for it to happen...
Anyone NOT choosing to find love wont, as they subconsciencly close their Brain to it... ( By Choice!)
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JeanKimberley: Nothing to add - I don't have a philosophy on love except to say nice positive thread. I am enjoying the read.
Hi Jeankimberley,
Glad you found it positive
tho the answer is kinda shocking,
Yes love just happens, but we must allow it, so again, i still feel it is a choice!
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i think it happens when you least expect it.....and it can sneak up on you for sure...
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I think it's in the air !
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Not an old song
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It did just happen,but..
We had to have got to know each other,had decided each other were lovable people.Had judged and weighed and found each other a worthy partner.Had instinctually seen we could trust each other.Then we made love and fell in love.
So I believe,it is part choice-I would walk away from an unsuitable partner,so not allowing feelings to develop,but love happens because a particular person possesses the characteristics that you just love(so love that person easily,it just happens).
I think if you are in regular contact with someone unsuitable,for example married or abusive,and they possess the characteristics you love,you may fall in love involuntarily.So it would then not be a choice.