Obsessive Love - Discuss (23)
You can be madly in love without someone and not be "obsessed" but you can also be "obsessed" and madly in love...
I you are "obsessed" no matter if it is wrong or right you can't help yourself...thus, "mad" (crazy) in love.
Or...
You can be "madly in love" (enthusiastic) about love with someone but not be obsessed. If in time your enthusiasm wanes, you fall out of love...I dunno?
I you are "obsessed" no matter if it is wrong or right you can't help yourself...thus, "mad" (crazy) in love.
Or...
You can be "madly in love" (enthusiastic) about love with someone but not be obsessed. If in time your enthusiasm wanes, you fall out of love...I dunno?
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I'm sorry...i've read the thread a few times...didn't think i was going to post...but just want to say...
What is the difference...if you are "mad about someone or something..to me that is the same as being obsessed with someone/something...
What is the difference...if you are "mad about someone or something..to me that is the same as being obsessed with someone/something...
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Thats easy bro...It's all about the reasons a person feels this love.
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Words are never clear-cut.
I would think that obsessive "love" would actually fall into the category of possessive "love" where the person doesn't really love at all but rather just WANTS. This is especially true if they are pursing someone with total disregard with how the other person feels about it. I mean, if you genuinely love someone then you care about how they feel, and if they aren't attracted to you then so be it. I you genuinely love them you'll let them go.
If a person is becoming obsessive to the point of selfishness, then they may label that "obsessive love" but it's really a misnomer because it has nothing to do with love at all. It has to do with a person selfishly wanting someone else as an object more than as a person.
If you're "madly in love" with someone, then you genuinely care about how they feel about you. And if they aren't attracted to you, or aren't available for reasons of having already made a commitment to someone else, then you accept that fact of life and move on.
Just my thoughts.
I would think that obsessive "love" would actually fall into the category of possessive "love" where the person doesn't really love at all but rather just WANTS. This is especially true if they are pursing someone with total disregard with how the other person feels about it. I mean, if you genuinely love someone then you care about how they feel, and if they aren't attracted to you then so be it. I you genuinely love them you'll let them go.
If a person is becoming obsessive to the point of selfishness, then they may label that "obsessive love" but it's really a misnomer because it has nothing to do with love at all. It has to do with a person selfishly wanting someone else as an object more than as a person.
If you're "madly in love" with someone, then you genuinely care about how they feel about you. And if they aren't attracted to you, or aren't available for reasons of having already made a commitment to someone else, then you accept that fact of life and move on.
Just my thoughts.
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Obsession is not love...It's selfish and anything but love...especially when the other person's feelings are not taken into account...if they don't feel the same!!!!!
It's a one sided infatuation that is all about one person usually getting ther wants and needs met!!!!!!!!!!
Love is none of these things....It's unselfish and about both people wanting to make the other happy...thus always considering each others feelings and naturally wanting whats best for each other!!!!!!!
It's a one sided infatuation that is all about one person usually getting ther wants and needs met!!!!!!!!!!
Love is none of these things....It's unselfish and about both people wanting to make the other happy...thus always considering each others feelings and naturally wanting whats best for each other!!!!!!!
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Your right..
A Stalker I would think would be "Obsessive Compulsive"...All I know is that I was stalked badly by a guy and he was "crazy" and claimed he was "madly in love" with me..lol
A Stalker I would think would be "Obsessive Compulsive"...All I know is that I was stalked badly by a guy and he was "crazy" and claimed he was "madly in love" with me..lol
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That's basically what I said only you said it with less words and more exclamation points. 
I also don't believe that there is a fine line between "obsessive love" and being "madly in love" as suggested in the OP. To me these are two entirely different things. Obsessive love is possessive selfish infatuation (i.e. not love at all really) while being "madly in love" suggests a two-way love affair where bother lovers are crazy about each other. There's hardly a fine line there, these are two drastically different things.
I also don't believe that there is a fine line between "obsessive love" and being "madly in love" as suggested in the OP. To me these are two entirely different things. Obsessive love is possessive selfish infatuation (i.e. not love at all really) while being "madly in love" suggests a two-way love affair where bother lovers are crazy about each other. There's hardly a fine line there, these are two drastically different things.
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Sorry, I meant to quote native_grl in my last post.
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Madly: 1.insanely 2.wildly; furiously 3.foolishly 4.extremely
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Well, I like said earlier. Everyone has their own take on words,...
Most people use the term "madly in love" to refer to couples who are mutually in love.
But they also sometimes use it for one-sided affection. For example, "He's madly in love with her, but she's not in love with him". But even then it usually means that he genuinely cares for her unselfishly.
I think when they use the term "obsessive love" they realy mean "possessive love" to the point where it's no longer unselfish love but rather selfish infatuation.
Just my thoughts. Like I say, these terms may mean different things to different people. Typically though, I would think that "obsessive love" is undesirable.
Most people use the term "madly in love" to refer to couples who are mutually in love.
But they also sometimes use it for one-sided affection. For example, "He's madly in love with her, but she's not in love with him". But even then it usually means that he genuinely cares for her unselfishly.
I think when they use the term "obsessive love" they realy mean "possessive love" to the point where it's no longer unselfish love but rather selfish infatuation.
Just my thoughts. Like I say, these terms may mean different things to different people. Typically though, I would think that "obsessive love" is undesirable.
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I 100% agree will all you've said Abra...Great Post! 
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I could see it being quite similar when you think about them all the time regardless if they are good or bad for you.
If you are really addicted to something all that is going to be on your mind is satisfying your desire to have whatever it is your addicted to.
If you are really addicted to something all that is going to be on your mind is satisfying your desire to have whatever it is your addicted to.
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the difference is what? phsycopath (sp) or sociopath?
there is obsessive/compulsive in my family...but, the difference between that, and intent...my guess, anyway.
Cases of real stalking are nothing to speak light of. been there. if anyone has, there is NO mistaking it...
there is obsessive/compulsive in my family...but, the difference between that, and intent...my guess, anyway.
Cases of real stalking are nothing to speak light of. been there. if anyone has, there is NO mistaking it...
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Stalking happens when a person becomes so caught up in another person that they need know where they go what they do ,and the need to own them comes into light.While some people realize its wrong and do it,you have ones that do it dont care.They must possess this person get their love no matter what the cost and no matter if other party wants it or not.Its all centered on the need and desire of the stalker.------ This thread is Archived ------
yup.
mine was about power... scary as hell.
mine was about power... scary as hell.
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I hear ya!....been there..
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Fortunately for me, I have never been stalked, so I guess it is hard for me to imagine how it must feel.
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I think I might be able to help. Obssessive love is actually not love
If you are not able to take a step back and look at the situation objectively, then you are definitely obssessed, if logic says one thing and behavior another , you are obssessed. If it is destructive and it interrupts your life and happiness it is obssessive. To be madly in love is great. It feels great and it motivates you to be your very best and more. If it doesn't feel right and you are not happy please don't call it love my friend.
If you are not able to take a step back and look at the situation objectively, then you are definitely obssessed, if logic says one thing and behavior another , you are obssessed. If it is destructive and it interrupts your life and happiness it is obssessive. To be madly in love is great. It feels great and it motivates you to be your very best and more. If it doesn't feel right and you are not happy please don't call it love my friend.
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What is the difference between being madly in love and obsessive love?
I think even when discussed amongst professionals there is a very fine line and it may not be as clear-cut as you might imagine.