The Moral Compass... (11)

The moral compass can only point a person in the right direction..it cannot force them to go to...

It seems of late we are raising a generation who we are teaching to not be ashamed of anything they do or say...and it has backfired to the point where they commit heinous crimes...for which they feel no remorse...

The guidelines for discipling children have become so rigid that its as if there are no boundaries for children growing up in the here and now...if children were born knowing right from wrong then they wouldn't need the guidance of parents...yet if a child has done something wrong its the parents that shoulder the blame...is parenting a dying art?

Anyone else seeing this??


*Disclaimer....I am NOT speaking of abusing children here i am speaking of "discipline" the kind we all went through and are still able to be constructive members of our community...

I agree.

It does seem to amaze me that the people that suffered at the hands of parents who could do such heinous acts such as
-ground their children
-speak harshly in public to a misbehaving child
-Take away privleges like bike-riding and t.v
-smack the hand of a child who touches dangerous items

These people survived such crimes against childhood and grew up to be such upstanding self-righteous so-and-so's, and now tell us that if we continue to raise them with such a heavy hand we'll be over run with deliquents. Now when It has back-fired to a point where people are afraid of their own children, those old school survivors criticize the new generation of parents that they created.

I am a parent of a preteen...He is a respectful, kind-hearted, all-round great kid. And surprisingly enough he's popular too. I hope that I have done what I can do to help him and his younger sister grow into decent adults. I also hope that he is strong enough not to be influenced by those children who have been raised differntly then he. And, if he chooses the wrong path, he has been taught now that he will be responsible for his actions, and that he has the power to right his own wrongs.

I was a daycare provider for ten years, I have seen all sorts of parenting techniques. ones that work and others that don't. My biggest piece of advice is RESPECT and LOVE. Give it and demand it in return, in all aspects and at all ages. There are really great parents out there. (and I have probably bored them and everybody else to tears by now Sorry)

I agree.

except that, in my humble opinion, respect is earned and should be returned.

hey tigger!

Just one comment on respect... If we all wait for people to earn our respect... hell will freeze over. If we can all start with respect first, I think we would move along alot quicker. Too many kids are given to go ahead to be indifferent first. Just my humble opinion too!

For sure Golden girl

You give respect...you get it!

Really quite simple.....But not for some. Go figure

Quite the statement.however, hell won't freeze over. Humans have a natural need to boast and feel needed; this helps us to determine one's character. It helps us to decide if we respect them, based on our own standards. Respect and trust go hand in hand...if we give respect first, we're just setting ourselves for possible let downs. Call it a defense mechanism..giving respect freely is foolish, in my humble opinion!! Let others do as needed; to each their own...decide, based on your own personal ethics/standards.

Yeah, go figure, eh?

I agree with you.

Its scary now a days at how the youth are growing up. Here in my city I have seen a lot of teens and young kids and the disrespect they give and show to others is really sad and frightening.

You can't discipline children anymore because you say something wrong and they threaten you with calling child services themselves. Its gotten to the point that the kids are now controling their own parents. Its ridiculous!

We go to this one park and there is always this bunch of kids. Youngest would be 4 and oldest would be 12 and the cuss words that come out of those little mouths is shocking!! Makes you wonder where the heck they learn such behavior. Its sad!

I just hope and pray that my children grow up to give respect to others and myself and to grow up with good morals and values.