Sad some people have never experienced marriage (98)
normalguy68: I'm sure a service would be great for a quick tune up of any relationship. Change the sparks, adjust the timing, change the oil and readjust the blinkers. No need to trade it in on a new model.
dragondog4: Sad is not the word I'd use. These people are smart intelligent and have standards that they adhere to. These people should probably be leading our countries.
Marriage (An argument I've been in many times on this site)is for life: If we go by examples set in Nature, Or fulfill the marriage contract to the full extent within which it is written.
So these unmarried people knew they couldn't fulfill the contract and have bypassed it. Thats intelligence. Why do something that we know we are going to fail at.
Marriage (An argument I've been in many times on this site)is for life: If we go by examples set in Nature, Or fulfill the marriage contract to the full extent within which it is written.
So these unmarried people knew they couldn't fulfill the contract and have bypassed it. Thats intelligence. Why do something that we know we are going to fail at.
Well I will stand up and say that I didnt fail at my last long term relationship, nor did he. I'll add that just because it didnt work out the way I'd hoped, wanted or dreamed, does not mean Im not going to try again. I will be trying again, and I will continue to try again.
I agree that marriage is for life, but in reality, sadly for so many people, it doesnt work out that way. For many people living together is for life also. No one is qualified to judge the committment between two people regardless of bits of paper, vows, dancing naked round flames or any other way that they may choose to express that love and committment. Its their committment and its what works for them that matters, you and I and everyone else will make the committment that works for us.
normalguy68: I'm sure a service would be great for a quick tune up of any relationship. Change the sparks, adjust the timing, change the oil and readjust the blinkers. No need to trade it in on a new model.
If ONLY it was that easy!!
Shell225: I dont own moccies and the only time I wear trackie dacks is when Im camping/fishing I have certain standards as a femme fatale to uphold
Its true Skip, all to often instead of 'sharing' a difficult day, we continue the day when we get home, cranky and fussy with people who had nothing to do with it, and have utterly no idea why we are being difficult.
I can understand why someone who doesnt know us well, in a dating senario, will be uncomfortable giving feedback, but I was thinking more along the lines of a long term relationship, taking time out occassionally to assess it as such. I agree though, sometimes it would be nice to get some feedback after a date.
when I was saying service I was meaning in the sense of work/business, as the analogy - the parallel being our part/performance in the relationship.
to you for your neck... now you owe me hugs for my fluie coldie thing..
Its true Skip, all to often instead of 'sharing' a difficult day, we continue the day when we get home, cranky and fussy with people who had nothing to do with it, and have utterly no idea why we are being difficult.
I can understand why someone who doesnt know us well, in a dating senario, will be uncomfortable giving feedback, but I was thinking more along the lines of a long term relationship, taking time out occassionally to assess it as such. I agree though, sometimes it would be nice to get some feedback after a date.
when I was saying service I was meaning in the sense of work/business, as the analogy - the parallel being our part/performance in the relationship.
to you for your neck... now you owe me hugs for my fluie coldie thing..
it's funny i even see that at work....people just damn grumpy, and u knw dead well, its come from home or outside of work..personally i try to never to do that, i don't bring my issues to work..in fact i deal mostly with my issues..well and the voices ..
Good to see u living up to the femme fatale standards
!!!..i was just thinking if u had red-hair could be a certain likeness to Julia there, ....that could be Fatal, Stay blonde !!! lolwell i knew u were talking long-term...my analogy was more to the fact people sometimes know each other for sometime, before it ever goes to dating, soo its not just a casual date, its someone u have chatted with extensively, u would think they would be free to share, not the case alot of the time...
Thanks for the hugs
,my neck is becoming annoying, like pins n needles...grrrrrr, and hers your 
back..now i better not get lots of little bad fluie coldie things 
skippyguy:
well i knew u were talking long-term...my analogy was more to the fact people sometimes know each other for sometime, before it ever goes to dating, soo its not just a casual date, its someone u have chatted with extensively, u would think they would be free to share, not the case alot of the time...
well i knew u were talking long-term...my analogy was more to the fact people sometimes know each other for sometime, before it ever goes to dating, soo its not just a casual date, its someone u have chatted with extensively, u would think they would be free to share, not the case alot of the time...
Maybe they value the friendship more that prospect of dating
hence the lack of feedback. Cause something negative, even said with a bit of jest, could cost a friendship if the intensity of feelings arent matched between the participants.I think its really difficult to shift out from under the 'friend' label once we've been put there.
thank you for the hugs *sniffle* *snort*
starcrossfish: oh..the dark side is alway's there
I wouldn't be well without it!!
I wouldn't be well without it!!
Sounds like Hell
down your way !...maybe the dark's rise to fame, is imminent !!
Front row seats please
normalguy68: A lot of single people have never known or been married and probably never will, very sad.
I was sad because I experienced marriage 
starcrossfish: once...i tried.
he doesn't speak english, tried 5yrs ago, needed an interpreter...he has a 'yukky' way of thinking...put it that way.
I'm better off without him
Would you consider learning a 2nd language so that you could converse with your dad?he doesn't speak english, tried 5yrs ago, needed an interpreter...he has a 'yukky' way of thinking...put it that way.
I'm better off without him
AgentAjax: I was sad because I experienced marriage
You get that, but how long did the sadness last vs the term of the marriage?jem1964: why the necessity to label or tag yourself?
Loser? why? just because one part in your life didnt turn out the way you imagined?
You are only a loser if you cannot or will not move on, or if you keep that loser mindscape that may increase the chance of you repeating the same process and same mistakes.
If you think negative, you create negativity. if you think positive you are more likely to move on in a positive direction.
There are no guarantees at life, there are too many variables.
I dont consider myself sad that I never had a piece of paper, but I would consider myself sad if I had never taken a chance on love and someone. I did take that chance but it didnt work out but in the meantime I have gained so much experience, both good and bad, to take on into my future.
And that is nothing to be sad about
Loser? why? just because one part in your life didnt turn out the way you imagined?
You are only a loser if you cannot or will not move on, or if you keep that loser mindscape that may increase the chance of you repeating the same process and same mistakes.
If you think negative, you create negativity. if you think positive you are more likely to move on in a positive direction.
There are no guarantees at life, there are too many variables.
I dont consider myself sad that I never had a piece of paper, but I would consider myself sad if I had never taken a chance on love and someone. I did take that chance but it didnt work out but in the meantime I have gained so much experience, both good and bad, to take on into my future.
And that is nothing to be sad about
I believe in learning from every experience, became a better person - many break ups are both partners at fault in some way - learn from it and move on. If they fault was on the other side, you know what to avoid next time. But no guarantees in life. I am lucky - I might have had many breakups, but I still consider them all friends and some of them still are....
normalguy68: I've never been into big social gatherings, I'm more comfortable with close family and friends.
Never been into pubs or drinking for pleasure.
Much prefer a roller skating rink to a bar, more fun.
Never been into pubs or drinking for pleasure.
Much prefer a roller skating rink to a bar, more fun.
Hi normal - sounds much like me! I am getting better as I get older, but I still prefer one or two friends to a group situation. I am not much of a drinker so never felt comfortable partying when I was young. I was very very shy and suffered from social anxiety - only age and experience has helped there, but it will always be there.
The internet dating is the main, although not only, means, through which I have met men and that has led to lovely relationships. Ok, they may not have lasted for ever, but brought a lot of joy and love while they were around. I have never married, nor, sadly, had any kids (my greatest regret), but I am still happy! I think positive, though have to remind myself quite often to do so.
Good luck Normal, someone is out there for you - be positive, think positive and just try.
Toffeapple: I love your thinking Shell - please send me a 1st copy of your book!
Awww thankyou Toffee
its so nice to see you here and posting ... its been awhile, hope that all is wellShell225: Awww thankyou Toffee its so nice to see you here and posting ... its been awhile, hope that all is well
I pop in every now and then, but am busier these days and also trying to keep away from the computer - only thing is I keep eating more.....grrrr. A bit like smoking when you are bored, after a coffee, for a break - you know, any excuse!
freominx: Well, I experienced marriage for 13 years...... it was fine (sort of) until our first child was born and husband resented first born because he was a boy (ex husband had 5 brothers so wanted a daughter), he also didn't like the attention being taken away from him, and given to new son. Ex husband became abusive, both emotionally and physically, then we had another child 4 years later, a daughter for husband, he doted on her and rejected son even more. He became so abusive towards me and son, that I had no choice but to leave permanently. Son is now 26y.o. and suffers severe depression stemming from total rejection from his father. Father ended up with a severe drug problem, joined the Bandidos bikie gang, then prison for 8 years for attempted murder, children haven't seen him since they were 8 and 4 respectively, we all lived in hiding for many years after my divorce. My children want nothing to do with him, even though he has tried to make contact since out of prison. He blames me to this day. I chose to raise my children without the revolving door of "men friends", so I have had no relationships since the divorce.
HENCE, I have NOT had a good experience of marriage, and have no wish to "try again".
HENCE, I have NOT had a good experience of marriage, and have no wish to "try again".
You gotta put a whole lot of "gone " between you and a man like that!!!
Toffeapple: I pop in every now and then, but am busier these days and also trying to keep away from the computer - only thing is I keep eating more.....grrrr. A bit like smoking when you are bored, after a coffee, for a break - you know, any excuse!
I've been home sick that last few days, so its been my constant buddy 
I think I have a problem....Toffeapple: Hi normal - sounds much like me! I am getting better as I get older, but I still prefer one or two friends to a group situation. I am not much of a drinker so never felt comfortable partying when I was young. I was very very shy and suffered from social anxiety - only age and experience has helped there, but it will always be there.
The internet dating is the main, although not only, means, through which I have met men and that has led to lovely relationships. Ok, they may not have lasted for ever, but brought a lot of joy and love while they were around. I have never married, nor, sadly, had any kids (my greatest regret), but I am still happy! I think positive, though have to remind myself quite often to do so.
Good luck Normal, someone is out there for you - be positive, think positive and just try.
I'm not sure internet dates are long term at all. People who look and see people by browsing these sites who never did before often stray into the sites they left and end up cheating or seeing other people and then you're back to square one. A lot of people make out this is their life, CS has to be or their life will cease to exist. Sad really how these things become so adictive. Personally I'd preffer to have no pc's around to waste time on so that life can be lived. Spending 24/7 online can't be good for your health.The internet dating is the main, although not only, means, through which I have met men and that has led to lovely relationships. Ok, they may not have lasted for ever, but brought a lot of joy and love while they were around. I have never married, nor, sadly, had any kids (my greatest regret), but I am still happy! I think positive, though have to remind myself quite often to do so.
Good luck Normal, someone is out there for you - be positive, think positive and just try.
have to agree with you re internet normal
normalguy68: I'm not sure internet dates are long term at all. People who look and see people by browsing these sites who never did before often stray into the sites they left and end up cheating or seeing other people and then you're back to square one. A lot of people make out this is their life, CS has to be or their life will cease to exist. Sad really how these things become so adictive. Personally I'd preffer to have no pc's around to waste time on so that life can be lived. Spending 24/7 online can't be good for your health.
That is a little negative Normal. You get what you want out of these sites - like meeting people out in the real world - you get all kinds, some are genuine nice people, some are users and abusers and some are cheaters. You learn who is who as you go and learn as you go, the same as meeting them at a bar or through friends.
Living via the computer in small ways is not bad, in fact it is probably good for many many people to interact in ways they otherwise wouldn't in real life.
Hope you can be more positive and reach out and challenge yourself more. If you don't try, it won't happen.
yes, must agree, it gives you a chance to vent, or ask advice and good friends can be made online. I have received so much help from online friends, just a shame that we "need" to go this route, where once friends and family interacted "in person".
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once...i tried.
he doesn't speak english, tried 5yrs ago, needed an interpreter...he has a 'yukky' way of thinking...put it that way.
I'm better off without him