Has your life turned out as you expected it to? (37)
SereneGreen: I spent most of the day with my sister who is only 24 and who is on her own with two children under 5(and a deadbeat ex who left her with two kids!). I see her through the eye's of a mother figure and her frustration at her life choices and lack of direction in her life. It kills me that she has no hope for the future living on the breadline from week to week and I wonder does she ever sit and wonder how did she end up here?
So my question to you is did you take the direction you had intended in life or more or less where you thought you would go/end up, or did life lead you in a completely new direction?
So my question to you is did you take the direction you had intended in life or more or less where you thought you would go/end up, or did life lead you in a completely new direction?
nope life aint wot i expected at all but then its the choices i made that got me most of the way here rest was influences from others
i look back at how i was raised and know now how hard it was on my mum living hand to mouth, never in a million yrs did i think i wud be next or near that but yet here i am, but still alive and we are happy me and the wee lady.
she dont get all she wants but no great harm in that
its crap and getting worse at as we go along living as a single parent
if you happen to be out of working im sure it aint easy if you are working either
but life does and will get better
im hoping
sorry i just feel like that i 
this thread,,,im sorry ,,,if any1 thinks the same,,,ur sis will be fine ,,,,lots of tlc,,,
this thread,,,im sorry ,,,if any1 thinks the same,,,ur sis will be fine ,,,,lots of tlc,,,
SereneGreen: very well said
Your sister will be fine.....she has you looking out for her.
through life,pain, loss and turmoil we build character to have experienced none of these things is to never have experienced life at all.
That said no my life hasnt turned out the way I would like it has not been kind, I have only one thing I can consider an achievement so far but you are never really in control of your life you and I and everyone else just go with the flow whether you think you do or not and observe all of life's little interactions.
That said no my life hasnt turned out the way I would like it has not been kind, I have only one thing I can consider an achievement so far but you are never really in control of your life you and I and everyone else just go with the flow whether you think you do or not and observe all of life's little interactions.
Dropdownbandit: through life,pain, loss and turmoil we build character to have experienced none of these things is to never have experienced life at all.
That said no my life hasnt turned out the way I would like it has not been kind, I have only one thing I can consider an achievement so far but you are never really in control of your life you and I and everyone else just go with the flow whether you think you do or not and observe all of life's little interactions.
That said no my life hasnt turned out the way I would like it has not been kind, I have only one thing I can consider an achievement so far but you are never really in control of your life you and I and everyone else just go with the flow whether you think you do or not and observe all of life's little interactions.
i likeAs I see it, unless one change the norm, life is just the same road, one can do all the thinking & good will within there circumstance & surroundings,but unless one changes that one ingredient that is the problem, nothing will change,
If u'r an executive of a high flying company, & things go down hill to the direction of bankruptcy, with hundreds of people being layed-off, the executive is expected to do something, not carry-on as the norm,
It is correct that (old fashioned ways)may become part of her life, & she may need to change her daily thinking habits,learn to cook very well, & find-out the best way to dress, but, yes, an older man with an education & been in his job for a wile, who know's the possibility's, better schools for her children, a quiet private life, the she don't need to worry about her children's future,
she had the children, now, its about them, she is just the driver,
there was a song out about 20 yrs ago, forget the singer, think it was called, What love got to do with it......
ps:good luck...
If u'r an executive of a high flying company, & things go down hill to the direction of bankruptcy, with hundreds of people being layed-off, the executive is expected to do something, not carry-on as the norm,
It is correct that (old fashioned ways)may become part of her life, & she may need to change her daily thinking habits,learn to cook very well, & find-out the best way to dress, but, yes, an older man with an education & been in his job for a wile, who know's the possibility's, better schools for her children, a quiet private life, the she don't need to worry about her children's future,
she had the children, now, its about them, she is just the driver,
there was a song out about 20 yrs ago, forget the singer, think it was called, What love got to do with it......
ps:good luck...
Bobbygil: As I see it, unless one change the norm, life is just the same road, one can do all the thinking & good will within there circumstance & surroundings,but unless one changes that one ingredient that is the problem, nothing will change,
If u'r an executive of a high flying company, & things go down hill to the direction of bankruptcy, with hundreds of people being layed-off, the executive is expected to do something, not carry-on as the norm,
It is correct that (old fashioned ways)may become part of her life, & she may need to change her daily thinking habits,learn to cook very well, & find-out the best way to dress, but, yes, an older man with an education & been in his job for a wile, who know's the possibility's, better schools for her children, a quiet private life, the she don't need to worry about her children's future,
she had the children, now, its about them, she is just the driver,
there was a song out about 20 yrs ago, forget the singer, think it was called, What love got to do with it......
ps:good luck...
If u'r an executive of a high flying company, & things go down hill to the direction of bankruptcy, with hundreds of people being layed-off, the executive is expected to do something, not carry-on as the norm,
It is correct that (old fashioned ways)may become part of her life, & she may need to change her daily thinking habits,learn to cook very well, & find-out the best way to dress, but, yes, an older man with an education & been in his job for a wile, who know's the possibility's, better schools for her children, a quiet private life, the she don't need to worry about her children's future,
she had the children, now, its about them, she is just the driver,
there was a song out about 20 yrs ago, forget the singer, think it was called, What love got to do with it......
ps:good luck...
tought its takes two 2 tango,,,and talk things troughella1976: tought its takes two 2 tango,,,and talk things trough
Its not difficult the go through life with a person that is not one's best choice, & maybe they don't push those BIG buttons, but if one's children are getting a good start in life, one day mum can be very proud she done her best for them.
Bobbygil: Its not difficult the go through life with a person that is not one's best choice, & maybe they don't push those BIG buttons, but if one's children are getting a good start in life, one day mum can be very proud she done her best for them.
i agree,,,seen it worked ,,,,
some really nice posts i must say..
my life took an unexpected turn which im totally grateful for..
ive an amazing little girl who has made my life complete...
ive got a gud job now.. im saving for my own house at the moment..
i didnt think id be able to get this far if im honest.. with the help of my great family.. i got there and i cherish them every day..
my life took an unexpected turn which im totally grateful for..
ive an amazing little girl who has made my life complete...
ive got a gud job now.. im saving for my own house at the moment..
i didnt think id be able to get this far if im honest.. with the help of my great family.. i got there and i cherish them every day..
Bobbygil: Its not difficult the go through life with a person that is not one's best choice, & maybe they don't push those BIG buttons, but if one's children are getting a good start in life, one day mum can be very proud she done her best for them.
An older educated guy with lots of dosh...looking to take on another man's children....
I dont think so....does such a man exist 
Think you would have a better chance winning the lotto.
As for spending your life with someone you dont love...been there done that and would not recommend it.It would suffocate you in the end...and when the children have grown and fled the nest what then..do you spend the rest of your life taking care of this old guy?
mollie90: An older educated guy with lots of dosh...looking to take on another man's children.... I dont think so....does such a man exist
Think you would have a better chance winning the lotto. As for spending your life with someone you dont love...been there done that and would not recommend it.It would suffocate you in the end...and when the children have grown and fled the nest what then..do you spend the rest of your life taking care of this old guy?
Think you would have a better chance winning the lotto. As for spending your life with someone you dont love...been there done that and would not recommend it.It would suffocate you in the end...and when the children have grown and fled the nest what then..do you spend the rest of your life taking care of this old guy?
For some that don't have anything else, & are going down hill faster than they can mature, its not about living with some older guy u don't love, for some girls with a child or two, its the only option, there first thought should be for there children, & there's an awful lot of suffering for her & the kids just to hope & keep looking,
If a person has never done it hard, in there 20's, no job,no hope,people get to a point & see nothing, no way out,if u never been there, u can-not understand,for some, suicide is there only option.
there are heaps of men out there, willing to take on a couple of kids, what its about is, the woman can make a home & for some guys in there 30-40s, Home is a very nice word.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.”
Paulo Coelho
I think we can choose the path in life we want to travel but fate plays a big part in wheather or not we stay on that path............. who knows from one day to the next what life will throw at us that can knock us off that path................... !!!!!!!!!!!
Has my life turned out as i expected, i honestly dont know yet ..........
Paulo Coelho
I think we can choose the path in life we want to travel but fate plays a big part in wheather or not we stay on that path............. who knows from one day to the next what life will throw at us that can knock us off that path................... !!!!!!!!!!!
Has my life turned out as i expected, i honestly dont know yet ..........
I never thought I would end up twice divorced and bringing up 3 children on my own but it spurred me on to go to college part time and learn some skills as well as doing 3 part time jobs. I also put an ad in the paper and ended up doing jobs like painting pensioners ceilings for £5 a time, anything to get money to raise my kids.
The college courses led to an office job and I've worked ever since. I made sure my children knew you only get out of life what you put into it and they are all managing ok even in these difficult times.
Sometimes you can't see a light at the end of the tunnel and you think things aren't going to get better - well they often won't get better unless you do something about it. Most councils seem to run courses which are free or cheap for the unemployed and just getting out of the house can raise your spirits.
The college courses led to an office job and I've worked ever since. I made sure my children knew you only get out of life what you put into it and they are all managing ok even in these difficult times.
Sometimes you can't see a light at the end of the tunnel and you think things aren't going to get better - well they often won't get better unless you do something about it. Most councils seem to run courses which are free or cheap for the unemployed and just getting out of the house can raise your spirits.
SereneGreen: I spent most of the day with my sister who is only 24 and who is on her own with two children under 5(and a deadbeat ex who left her with two kids!). I see her through the eye's of a mother figure and her frustration at her life choices and lack of direction in her life. It kills me that she has no hope for the future living on the breadline from week to week and I wonder does she ever sit and wonder how did she end up here?
So my question to you is did you take the direction you had intended in life or more or less where you thought you would go/end up, or did life lead you in a completely new direction?
So my question to you is did you take the direction you had intended in life or more or less where you thought you would go/end up, or did life lead you in a completely new direction?
My life took me in a direction I never thought I would go in, a reaction to a life event at the time, but now since I split my life is going in the direction I want it to go in, and I like it.
i thought i distroyed the world, and i was going to hell for entirnaty for doing it, the feeling was emptyiness
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But I have always supported and had contacted with my son and he wants for nothing, the highs are outweighing the lows now and i have come through the darkest period of my life and i am still standing and whats more i am incredibly proud of me.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Whats more when i compare my life to others and think i have had it tough all i need to do is look at my sister.
She has way more money than i could hope to have in a lifetime but i have something she does not.....her health.
She has suffered more in the past four years than any human being should have to suffer. When i think my life is not fair i look and her and i see what unfair is.
So no my life has not turned out the way i would like but I have my health and when you strip everything else away nothing else matters.
very well said