A friend in California (5)
RadioheadFan123: I've been talking to a good friend of mine whom I've known for 6 months and I have romantic feelings for her as well. At the moment she is in a relationship but she has expressed that she feels the same way about me. I asked her out a week after she got into a relationship and she has been with this other guy for more than three months now. Yesterday I told her that I didn't think I would be able to come out to California and that she ever became single that I don't know if my coming out to California would be practical. I don't know anyone else there, I'm not sure what schools are out there, and I don't know if I would be able to find a job. My intent was to think practically but it ended up hurting her. I love her a lot and I have strong feelings for her but I was trying to think ahead instead of going somewhere I am not familiar with and acting without thinking. At the moment I wish I could take back the things I said to her about not thinking a relationship would work, I really would like it to because I feel like it's hard to find a woman like her who is as beautiful, has a heart of gold, and who has a wonderful personality. Did I do the right thing or could I have gone about things in a different way? I would especially like to hear from the women about this.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
ur still so young...trust ur gut! do wots best for u first
after all she still in a relationship and ur the back up guy! dont be second best for no one
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1. She is with someone else. Don't move anywhere because of someone when they are in a relationship, she sounds wishy/washy.
2. California right now is not doing to well in the job department...not a good place to come to. I live in California, it's awful right now.
Good luck
2. California right now is not doing to well in the job department...not a good place to come to. I live in California, it's awful right now.
Good luck
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Thank you chococherrie! I appreciate your feedback. At the moment I feel like the best thing is to focus on school and stay in New York, maybe find a relationship here. When I do become more independent, have my bachelor's, and both this woman and myself are available I think something can work out. It's just right now I don't feel like anything could work out even if she were single. I love this woman a lot and I care about her deeply, and I feel awful that she is feeling so sad but I can't do anything about that, I just need to let her heal.
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crazyblondeone: 1. She is with someone else. Don't move anywhere because of someone when they are in a relationship, she sounds wishy/washy.
2. California right now is not doing to well in the job department...not a good place to come to. I live in California, it's awful right now.
Good luck
2. California right now is not doing to well in the job department...not a good place to come to. I live in California, it's awful right now.
Good luck
I am glad you told me about that and it's good to hear from someone who lives in California about the job situation. It's just I don't want to go there and just be a financial burden to this woman and not have a job. If I didn't care about her I wouldn't think about these things. I love this woman very much and she is a great friend to me and I wish things were more in my favor but the best thing to do is stay where I am in New York.
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