Betrayal and Revenge! ( Archived) (19)

She told me she wanted children, told me she had been off the pill for 3 months so it was my fault she was not prergnant! Her pill was on top of her bag which she left open one morning while in d bathroom! I was not drug dealing her brother was, i am anti drug i dont take or sell! Ididnt want her on drugs but she was using with her friends behind my back and lying about things to me! She was liing with her family and arranged to move to my city 4 times but pulled out at the last minute except the last time when we both moved into an apartment 8kms from her family home so she could be close to her family as i lived in her town and i had no privacy with her family and har brother damaged property. What do you mean buy and not for sale? We got engaged in turkey 2 years prior! no1 was buying anyone as you put it. She tried to get the rings by telling me she would not pay rent for a months notice. s said she wanted kids, engagement, place to live and was planning a wedding with me but saying opposite to her friends i gave her all she asked for and gave up a life to be with her for her to pull out and break every promise she made. i dont see going out of my way for her happiness as controlling and i dont watch eastenders thank you!

Dude ,let it go and move on ...dwelling only wastes time and energy...and defending you position here will take a huge amount of energy and a fair amount of time....

In my opinion you are better off without her, move away start a new life for yourself, if possible. If you go back to her the same things may happen again. As I said, JMO.

Thanks for clarifying, makes more sense now!!!

In the light of what you have just written, I would say may be you will have a more peaceful life without her and her family.

Now YOU have to decide whether you want to continue with all the dramas she brought into your life by playing their games of betrayal and revenge OR cut your losses and bring some peace back to your life by walking away from it all.

Hate and revenge are very powerful destructive energies that can swollow up all your energy and your whole life before you realise you have no energy left for anything else.

It all sounds hurrendous and nasty. Could you walk away and never look back?

Don't even attempt to defend yourself especially on the internet cause you will have to continue to defend yourself over and over again.I know of people who have attempted to do so and got ran through the mill.

I'm sorry that you have had to endure such pain,but putting it on an open forum is not the way forward. There are those who will disagree with your way of thought and chastise you for taking revenge.

We all walk a fine line between love and hate,but the better person is the one who can walk away, head held high, and not look back.

I hope that you can soon find peace of mind and love in your heart once again.

Good luck.

I have walked away, it is over. she was a major drain on my rescources and time and left me bankrupt and nearly homeless at christmas of all times. but am worried due to all the drug related deaths recently i am still worried about her. I have peace in my life since i got away from her people but they are following me trying to find out where i go on nights out etc. they have even travelled to all my favourite bars asking questions and spreading rumours. it is hard not to look over my shoulder.

Can you relocate anywhere far enough for it to be too much effort for them to continue their intimidation and revenge techniques?

I am currently pretending to live in Tenerife for my parents protection as they sent people down which is an hours drive from them, but have heard they are saving to take a trip there, once they discover im not there they will be on the hunt again. they want the money from the fraud but i have decided iv taken enough and stand up for myself and be on the right side of the law instaed of being played to their will now its over for me as a relationship or even friendship!