Do you feel sorry for (48)
whowhatwherewhen: people who have been screwed around on by their husband/wife? Or have these people played a part in their own demise?
No one is perfect, but I'm only responsible for my own actions. I would not "blame myself" for my partner's choices. People need to own up to their own actions and stop making excuses that another drove them to do anything.
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langleygirl: No one is perfect, but I'm only responsible for my own actions. I would not "blame myself" for my partner's choices.
People need to own up to their own actions and stop making excuses that another drove them to do anything.
People need to own up to their own actions and stop making excuses that another drove them to do anything.
I agree to a certain degree. Alot of people seem to think that because they are married they have 'ownership' over their spouse. Some also think that their spouses feelings, wants, and needs no longer matter.
I think we just need to be more aware that even though they are your husband/wife, they are still a person and should be considered.
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whowhatwherewhen: I agree to a certain degree. Alot of people seem to think that because they are married they have 'ownership' over their spouse. Some also think that their spouses feelings, wants, and needs no longer matter.
I think we just need to be more aware that even though they are your husband/wife, they are still a person and should be considered.
True, and when someone makes the choice to cheat I highly doubt that they are thinking of their partner, moreso its about what they desire and want and not any lasting consequences of their actions.I think we just need to be more aware that even though they are your husband/wife, they are still a person and should be considered.
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whowhatwherewhen: people who have been screwed around on by their husband/wife? Or have these people played a part in their own demise?
Sorry is for the person that screws others! If STD's or other things are brought on by the screwing, it is self inflicted by the screwer!
Shallow people will always blame others for their own falts.
jmho
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whowhatwherewhen: My ex screwed around on me and after the pain associated with it had gone, I sat back and really thought about our lives. I came to the conclusion that there were many things that i had done and not done to please him. I feel I deserved what I got. It taught me a valuable lesson. should I ever get into a serious relationship again, I will be more giving and attentive.
Being unfaithful is not the way to go but I understand how and why it happens.
Being unfaithful is not the way to go but I understand how and why it happens.
Wow, what an enlightened response. Thank you for your honesty. I hope you find the happiness that you deserve.
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I am surprised by the reactions. I actually read the question a few times just to make sure because the answer seems simple to me, but obviously some disagree.
I think if someone is cheated on then in general yes I feel bad for them. Of course there are some circumstances like that person cheated first (not right but at least it's karma) or they were split up for that time but in general. I was cheated on and although I was by no means perfect cheating is never ever the answer. If you don't love who you are with talk about what you are not satisfied with and if you can't resolve it, end it. Simple as that.
I can not find one decent reason for someone to be cheated on, no matter what if you made a commitment to someone in any kind of a relationship between dating and marriage nothing could validate breaking vows, promises and trust. Even if someone made mistakes and was not fulfilling their duties (emotionally, physically ect.) then they need to deal with that. Cheating doesn't fix anything. Everyone is worth more then that!
Just my opinion!
I think if someone is cheated on then in general yes I feel bad for them. Of course there are some circumstances like that person cheated first (not right but at least it's karma) or they were split up for that time but in general. I was cheated on and although I was by no means perfect cheating is never ever the answer. If you don't love who you are with talk about what you are not satisfied with and if you can't resolve it, end it. Simple as that.
I can not find one decent reason for someone to be cheated on, no matter what if you made a commitment to someone in any kind of a relationship between dating and marriage nothing could validate breaking vows, promises and trust. Even if someone made mistakes and was not fulfilling their duties (emotionally, physically ect.) then they need to deal with that. Cheating doesn't fix anything. Everyone is worth more then that!
Just my opinion!
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whowhatwherewhen: "“My ex screwed around on me and after the pain associated with it had gone, I sat back and really thought about our lives. I came to the conclusion that there were many things that i had done and not done to please him. I feel I deserved what I got. It taught me a valuable lesson. should I ever get into a serious relationship again, I will be more giving and attentive.
Being unfaithful is not the way to go but I understand how and why it happens."
I'm with you two too, I've never experienced cheating (that I know of, lol) but thats because I was in a loving, caring relationship for most of my adult life. I was one of the lucky ones. I do feel sorry for the peeps who have experienced it because nobody very few peeps get married intending it to end badly.
Being unfaithful is not the way to go but I understand how and why it happens."
single4ever: Wow, what an enlightened response. Thank you for your honesty. I hope you find the happiness that you deserve.
I'm with you two too, I've never experienced cheating (that I know of, lol) but thats because I was in a loving, caring relationship for most of my adult life. I was one of the lucky ones. I do feel sorry for the peeps who have experienced it because ------ This thread is Archived ------
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The partner who cheats has made has made an extremely negative contribution to the relationship - in most cases one that is not justified by the actions of their mate. Absent unusual circumstances, I think it's a reasonable assumption that the cheating exceeds the worst behaviors of the other partner.