Why people choose divorce? (135)
Sometimes you make a mistake and marry the wrong man.
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Dervish_dervish: Hugger, mostly the couples dont think about their kids when they quarrel or get apart.
Except for the scum of the earth who use their kids to exact revenge on a spouse.
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Dervish_dervish: Hugger, mostly the couples dont think about their kids when they quarrel or get apart.
That is where you are wrong!!
It is healthier for children to live with divorced parent than with miserable, depressed, unloving (to one another) ones!!! Because they will learn how to relate to their future partner from the pattern exhibited by their own parents ... If the couple stay together when love and respect are none existant, that is "what the children will emulate" with their future patner" ...
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Dervish_dervish: And the maximum men are self stand(compare to women).zaker your responses are challange for women.
I noticed Zaker's comments ...
No challenge ...
Chose to ignore them!!
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newinsouth: Except for the scum of the earth who use their kids to exact revenge on a spouse.
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Dervish_dervish: If people marry thier spouse they choose, than why they become apart from each other and choose the divorce?
My parents were married for 40 years and it was "til death do us part". This was the kind of marriage I wanted but what you want and what you get are two different things.
My first wife gave me the boot just shy of our 10th anniversary because she couldn't deal with my having heart disease. I had undergone a triple by-pass several months before.
With my second wife, we got married just as the recession was getting into full swing. We had met here in the CS forums and I was the one to pack up and move 750 miles away. Our fourth anniversary was last month and we have been separated since Dec 2009. The recession was the largest contributor to the failure of our marriage as jobs were scarce down in NC. As of two weeks ago, she filed for divorce.
In either case, it was not myself who wanted to get divorced.
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Raynew1959: My parents were married for 40 years and it was "til death do us part". This was the kind of marriage I wanted but what you want and what you get are two different things.
My first wife gave me the boot just shy of our 10th anniversary because she couldn't deal with my having heart disease. I had undergone a triple by-pass several months before.
With my second wife, we got married just as the recession was getting into full swing. We had met here in the CS forums and I was the one to pack up and move 750 miles away. Our fourth anniversary was last month and we have been separated since Dec 2009. The recession was the largest contributor to the failure of our marriage as jobs were scarce down in NC. As of two weeks ago, she filed for divorce.
In either case, it was not myself who wanted to get divorced.
My first wife gave me the boot just shy of our 10th anniversary because she couldn't deal with my having heart disease. I had undergone a triple by-pass several months before.
With my second wife, we got married just as the recession was getting into full swing. We had met here in the CS forums and I was the one to pack up and move 750 miles away. Our fourth anniversary was last month and we have been separated since Dec 2009. The recession was the largest contributor to the failure of our marriage as jobs were scarce down in NC. As of two weeks ago, she filed for divorce.
In either case, it was not myself who wanted to get divorced.
I often read your posts about your 2 marriages.
Hope you don't mind me asking ... Did you have a job before you moved to be with your second wife? You say you couldn't find a job due to the recession ... How many jobs did she have?
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EagleWoman: I often read your posts about your 2 marriages.
Hope you don't mind me asking ... Did you have a job before you moved to be with your second wife? You say you couldn't find a job due to the recession ... How many jobs did she have?
Hope you don't mind me asking ... Did you have a job before you moved to be with your second wife? You say you couldn't find a job due to the recession ... How many jobs did she have?
I left a job after being there just over 6 years to be with her. Luckily they took me back shortly after I returned to NH. I'd had several jobs in NC through temp agencies during my time down there.
The recession wasn't the only thing when it comes to the failure of our marriage. Because she is still a member and comes in here on occasion, I'm not going to go into the other factors
She was and still is a state employee.....a school bus driver.
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Raynew1959: I left a job after being there just over 6 years to be with her. Luckily they took me back shortly after I returned to NH. I'd had several jobs in NC through temp agencies during my time down there.
The recession wasn't the only thing when it comes to the failure of our marriage. Because she is still a member and comes in here on occasion, I'm not going to go into the other factors
She was and still is a state employee.....a school bus driver.
The recession wasn't the only thing when it comes to the failure of our marriage. Because she is still a member and comes in here on occasion, I'm not going to go into the other factors
She was and still is a state employee.....a school bus driver.
Ok
Thanks for clarifying
And I know ... I remember when you guys got together!! Sorry it didn't work out
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At different levels of acceptance and maturity people grow differently. Besides that divorces are like seat belts, THEY SAVE LIVES!
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EagleWoman: Ok
Thanks for clarifying
And I know ... I remember when you guys got together!! Sorry it didn't work out
Thanks for clarifying
And I know ... I remember when you guys got together!! Sorry it didn't work out
To tell the truth, so am I.
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Dervish_dervish: Yes it has a deep effect on life.Therefore the people should try their best to save their marriage.
still trying - after 20+ years of marriage - I wanted what parents had 40+ years before the death of one of mine and my in laws have been married 65 years -
but when the marriage is over it is over -
cheating is just a lame excuse!!!
councelling works if BOTH are willing
but when love isn't there, what the hell - the other has to move on - yeah I love my other half, but you can't give on giving in one a one sided relationship
like everything else in this world, there a no guarantees, no warriantees, and no refunds.... drats!!!
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Because it's against the law to kill them. 
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Because sometimes there really is NO choice 
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nanners2863: Because it's against the law to kill them.
Oooo ya I here that
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I can only speak for myself why I choose divorce. As they say hindsight is 20/20. I really didn't KNOW my husband. We dated for less than a year. It wasn't until we were married and living together that I came to KNOW him.
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Dervish_dervish: obviously Ccincy,but it (divorse)is better than home violence,isn't it?
Yes a divorce is better than remaining in an abusive marriage.I wouldn't remain in one like that either.Nor would I blame anyone else for not remaining in one either.
But there are also some people who end a marriage cause they want to get out for selfish reasons not because they were being abused.
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Precisely!!