Depression at Christmas..... (26)
It's a hard time of year for many reasons.
If you've been indoors for a long time it might be a good idea to try to get out as much as you can, even if for only a few minutes for a walk.
Keep in contact with your friends as much as you can.
If you've been indoors for a long time it might be a good idea to try to get out as much as you can, even if for only a few minutes for a walk.
Keep in contact with your friends as much as you can.
I'm getting better with Christmas but it's taken years. I naturally tend to take my mind into the past and think about what I've lost and what might have been. The secret for me is to try to live in the NOW mentally and emotionally and not in the past. 
Christmas time, in my opinion can be one of the loneliest times of the year. Seeing other people with loved ones, having fun, can highlight your own loneliness if you dont have anyone to share this time with..Can you call on someone to just hang out with?
Sound snowy, i've been out a few times with friends and even to the boozer and all that craic but just can't wait to get home all the time.
That's a really hard thing to do GG and i think that's probably one of my biggest problems.
I was seeing somebody there for a bit and it was going really well but i ended it because i know the way i get at this time of year and didn't want to ruin her and her daughters Christmas, i feel kind of guilty about that too because it was starting to get serious......ah i don't know
That's a really hard thing to do GG and i think that's probably one of my biggest problems.
I was seeing somebody there for a bit and it was going really well but i ended it because i know the way i get at this time of year and didn't want to ruin her and her daughters Christmas, i feel kind of guilty about that too because it was starting to get serious......ah i don't know
mcattack: Sound snowy, i've been out a few times with friends and even to the boozer and all that craic but just can't wait to get home all the time.
That's a really hard thing to do GG and i think that's probably one of my biggest problems.
I was seeing somebody there for a bit and it was going really well but i ended it because i know the way i get at this time of year and didn't want to ruin her and her daughters Christmas, i feel kind of guilty about that too because it was starting to get serious......ah i don't know
That's a really hard thing to do GG and i think that's probably one of my biggest problems.
I was seeing somebody there for a bit and it was going really well but i ended it because i know the way i get at this time of year and didn't want to ruin her and her daughters Christmas, i feel kind of guilty about that too because it was starting to get serious......ah i don't know
could be scorpio self destruction...
were u afraid of it getting serious? people love u for who u are..u have to share all the bits..good n bad....
spose u have to look into the past n see why it makes the now so hard..
living in the now is really important tho..ur not walking backwards..only thing the past is good for ..is experience..but u cant live there..
illness/injury can make u live in a bubble..too much time to think not enough energy to make new memories..
id get help..counsellors are great...u be surpised what they can make u explore within ur mind u may never have thought of by urself.
hope u sort it..depression is horrible ..
I was seeing somebody there for a bit and it was going really well but i ended it because i know the way i get at this time of year and didn't want to ruin her and her daughters Christmas, i feel kind of guilty about that too because it was starting to get serious......ah i don't know
A word from one who has struggled with this subject most of his life. You need to let someone love you for who you are, good times and bad times, in sickness and in health and that includes mental health. If you are waiting to be perfect to be loved then you will wait a long time. The people who care about us, care about the real us, not an image we portray of being rock solid and dependable. We all feel like jelly sometimes. We all feel like a failure sometimes. That's why we need to learn to receive love and not just give it.
Desperado, why don't you come to your senses?
Come down from your fences, open the gate
It may be rainin', but there's a rainbow above you
You better let somebody love you, before it's too late
A word from one who has struggled with this subject most of his life. You need to let someone love you for who you are, good times and bad times, in sickness and in health and that includes mental health. If you are waiting to be perfect to be loved then you will wait a long time. The people who care about us, care about the real us, not an image we portray of being rock solid and dependable. We all feel like jelly sometimes. We all feel like a failure sometimes. That's why we need to learn to receive love and not just give it.
Desperado, why don't you come to your senses?
Come down from your fences, open the gate
It may be rainin', but there's a rainbow above you
You better let somebody love you, before it's too late
Angel21x: Christmas time, in my opinion can be one of the loneliest times of the year. Seeing other people with loved ones, having fun, can highlight your own loneliness if you dont have anyone to share this time with..Can you call on someone to just hang out with?
Cheers Angel, yeah i have great friends and the close ones know that i get like this every year, they do try to help but i can't stand people making a fuss over me (as ex girlfriends have realised too) and i know that sounds stupid but that's just me
That sounds a bit of a pity, if you told her you found christmas hard going and wanted to be alone she might well have understood. After all, most people with kids know that if you don't have kids there isn't a whole lot of point to christmas in the first place. Is it too late to explain that to her maybe?
I have suffered from depression for many years and live quite happily with it now,anyone who'd like to talk to me plz do in private and confidentiality.
snowlynx: That sounds a bit of a pity, if you told her you found christmas hard going and wanted to be alone she might well have understood. After all, most people with kids know that if you don't have kids there isn't a whole lot of point to christmas in the first place. Is it too late to explain that to her maybe?
Ah i'm not sure i really want to start explaining my problems with her around this time, you mention depression to some people and straight away they think suicidal, that's not the case with all but i think everyone that has suffered from it would be lying if they said it never crossed their mind....but as i said that's not the case here!! anyway i'd hate for to be worrying about me like that and ruining their Christmas when there's absolutely no need to, maybe after Christmas though if we're still in touch....
mcattack: Anyone else suffer from it??
I don't know what it is but it hits me every year, it's hard to explain...i have suffered from it before but never for long periods, my Da is the same...is it hereditary??
I have been bed bound for the last few months with an injury and somtimes just want to sleep all day, i really thought once the injury healed up that i would feel much better and excited to be going out again but i'm not....it's like if i keep sleeping then i don't have to face anyone or anything.....does that even make sense???
I'm not looking for sympathy or even advice because i know, true to form, that i'll be grand in a few weeks or months....i suppose i'm just trying to understand it a bit more...however impossible that may seem
I don't know what it is but it hits me every year, it's hard to explain...i have suffered from it before but never for long periods, my Da is the same...is it hereditary??
I have been bed bound for the last few months with an injury and somtimes just want to sleep all day, i really thought once the injury healed up that i would feel much better and excited to be going out again but i'm not....it's like if i keep sleeping then i don't have to face anyone or anything.....does that even make sense???
I'm not looking for sympathy or even advice because i know, true to form, that i'll be grand in a few weeks or months....i suppose i'm just trying to understand it a bit more...however impossible that may seem
Just one question for you,did you loose a loved one at christmas time in the past?
I had a friend who's mum died on christmas eve when she was just 10.She noticed as an adult she became depressed..down in the dumps..tearful every December but did not know why.
Through councelling she realised it was because as a child she had not mourned her mums death.
Her councellor gave her a book to read(sorry dont know name of book) but it was by a guy who's mum had died when he was young and he was comforted by relations and life went on..in the book he wrote his thoughts and through my friend reading and feeling his loss and pain, she CRIED and CRIED and CRIED for the mother she had lost at 10..
My friend filled the void of her mothers absence in her childhood by drinking to ease and kill the pain and also was consumed with huge anger issues until she got help.She had countless failed relationships because of her hurt.
She is now very happy in a relationship,can go through December without the down feelings,she is not angry anymore.
You have reached out in this thread tonight and taken a huge step,take another one in the new year and get help.
mcattack: Sound snowy, i've been out a few times with friends and even to the boozer and all that craic but just can't wait to get home all the time.
That's a really hard thing to do GG and i think that's probably one of my biggest problems.
I was seeing somebody there for a bit and it was going really well but i ended it because i know the way i get at this time of year and didn't want to ruin her and her daughters Christmas, i feel kind of guilty about that too because it was starting to get serious......ah i don't know
I have done that in the past maybe your afraid of letting her see the real you, we all like others to see us at our best, i think we are just best accepting we are a little mad rather than trying to over analyse it, im up and down like a yoyo i don't even try to understand it anymore i just accept itThat's a really hard thing to do GG and i think that's probably one of my biggest problems.
I was seeing somebody there for a bit and it was going really well but i ended it because i know the way i get at this time of year and didn't want to ruin her and her daughters Christmas, i feel kind of guilty about that too because it was starting to get serious......ah i don't know
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Hello you. Long time no see. Merry Christmas.
Think i have the same thing, just seem to be real down lately, did next to nothing for Christmas, for the first time ever i didnt even send a card to anyone, know what u mean about goin out too, all i want to do is get home again, mind you i always say u can feel lonely in a crowded room too.
Had to drag myself into work today and thats not like me at all, im usually the life and soul of the place but everyone was askin me today was i alright but i cudnt tell them how i felt, im working 8 till 8 tomoro again and right now its the last place i want to be but dont know where i want to be either!
one of my fav phrases is "And this too shall pass"
Had to drag myself into work today and thats not like me at all, im usually the life and soul of the place but everyone was askin me today was i alright but i cudnt tell them how i felt, im working 8 till 8 tomoro again and right now its the last place i want to be but dont know where i want to be either!
one of my fav phrases is "And this too shall pass"
mcattack: Anyone else suffer from it??
I don't know what it is but it hits me every year, it's hard to explain...i have suffered from it before but never for long periods, my Da is the same...is it hereditary??
I have been bed bound for the last few months with an injury and somtimes just want to sleep all day, i really thought once the injury healed up that i would feel much better and excited to be going out again but i'm not....it's like if i keep sleeping then i don't have to face anyone or anything.....does that even make sense???
I'm not looking for sympathy or even advice because i know, true to form, that i'll be grand in a few weeks or months....i suppose i'm just trying to understand it a bit more...however impossible that may seem
I don't know what it is but it hits me every year, it's hard to explain...i have suffered from it before but never for long periods, my Da is the same...is it hereditary??
I have been bed bound for the last few months with an injury and somtimes just want to sleep all day, i really thought once the injury healed up that i would feel much better and excited to be going out again but i'm not....it's like if i keep sleeping then i don't have to face anyone or anything.....does that even make sense???
I'm not looking for sympathy or even advice because i know, true to form, that i'll be grand in a few weeks or months....i suppose i'm just trying to understand it a bit more...however impossible that may seem
well I can understand where your coming from, my mum died just after crimbo 10 yrs ago nearly 11 so it has been very lonely and my son has been such a blessing as it made me celebrate it again but this year my dad wont be with us as he is in the uk with his wife to be so its very hard... but just keep keep plodding along... I wish I could say something that will make you feel great but i cant. all i can say is be grateful you are here and enjoy all the time you have with your family x
Mac , I'm a bit crap a dishing out advice on stuff like this so can I just say that I hope you bounce back very very quickly to your normal all round sound self 
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I don't know what it is but it hits me every year, it's hard to explain...i have suffered from it before but never for long periods, my Da is the same...is it hereditary??
I have been bed bound for the last few months with an injury and somtimes just want to sleep all day, i really thought once the injury healed up that i would feel much better and excited to be going out again but i'm not....it's like if i keep sleeping then i don't have to face anyone or anything.....does that even make sense???
I'm not looking for sympathy or even advice because i know, true to form, that i'll be grand in a few weeks or months....i suppose i'm just trying to understand it a bit more...however impossible that may seem