For those 50 & older...... (47)
vyoletaArkaroola, South Australia Australia44 Threads 6 Polls 1,050 PostsIt all depends on what kind of relationship one wants in this part of one's life. I have transcended the mostly physically based relationships with a possible partner. As long as he is physically normal and suitable for me, I focus my attention to his psychical characteristics. If he has managed to devleop himself into an attractive man concerning his inner qualities, I don't pay much attention to the attraction of his face and body.
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paws4: There seems to be a lot of us on this site. Personally, I've placed love on the back burner. At our age our looks seem to change day by day, not a good thing. So now what ? Do we cruise on our memories of past loves ? Keep hope alive against all odds ? As a male, I still want a woman who is trim, fit and attractive. Yet I only see what I want to see in my mirror. It's so hard to accept our aging, since we're every age that we've ever been.
Older men seem to be blind as to what they look like while attempting to attract younger women. Older women are more realistic. Bottom line; love knows no boundaries.
Older men seem to be blind as to what they look like while attempting to attract younger women. Older women are more realistic. Bottom line; love knows no boundaries.
Hi paws, it's nice to have a man express himself so openly and for all to read...thank you. A topic on the minds of many a 50+'er.
May 2012 be your year.
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HealthyLiving: I understand what you are saying Leo.
Now that we have entered into the New Year, 10 minutes ago by my clock, I am contemplating the same thoughts.
How do we find someone who is sincere? Someone whom we can trust to care for our hearts? We should not be foolish and cast our fate to the wind.
I want to know love from a man. I have Never known this.
I feel that time is very short. I would love to know that special someone and experience the fullness of JOY for the rest of my days in this earthsuit with a companion who views life and it's beauty just as I do.
Why is it so hard to find? Seems that it should be such a simple request.
It is the cry of my heart. I feel it is very near. Come my love. Expose yourself to me. Take me by the hand and let's walk.
HL
Now that we have entered into the New Year, 10 minutes ago by my clock, I am contemplating the same thoughts.
How do we find someone who is sincere? Someone whom we can trust to care for our hearts? We should not be foolish and cast our fate to the wind.
I want to know love from a man. I have Never known this.
I feel that time is very short. I would love to know that special someone and experience the fullness of JOY for the rest of my days in this earthsuit with a companion who views life and it's beauty just as I do.
Why is it so hard to find? Seems that it should be such a simple request.
It is the cry of my heart. I feel it is very near. Come my love. Expose yourself to me. Take me by the hand and let's walk.
HL
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Aswina: Many women look absolutely stunning in their neverending 50s and are so attractive as for their minds and life approaches!
We live in great ages ... we have been given chance not only live longer ... but our lives can be more "quality" ... we can improve our bodies ( food, lifestyle, sport...surgeries even ) only we have to change is ... thinking.
I wish all on CS to look and think "young" in 2012.
P.F. 2012 to all
We live in great ages ... we have been given chance not only live longer ... but our lives can be more "quality" ... we can improve our bodies ( food, lifestyle, sport...surgeries even ) only we have to change is ... thinking.
I wish all on CS to look and think "young" in 2012.
P.F. 2012 to all
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bodleing: "Once I was another's lover, now I am my own."
I found by the time I reached fifty ten years ago the need to love and be loved diminished greatly. Now it's no longer is an issue, my life is my own and I can share it with all around, as and when I please.I kind of like it that way...less distractions....
I found by the time I reached fifty ten years ago the need to love and be loved diminished greatly. Now it's no longer is an issue, my life is my own and I can share it with all around, as and when I please.I kind of like it that way...less distractions....
AMEN!
Thank you sir.
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YouMeUs: Attractiveness comes in a wide variety of flavors.
I am comfortable with who I am and what I look like. It's taken me all my life to get where I am right now and I don't attemp to or go out of my way to attract anyone--I let it come naturally. I look for the same in others and I see plenty.
I am comfortable with who I am and what I look like. It's taken me all my life to get where I am right now and I don't attemp to or go out of my way to attract anyone--I let it come naturally. I look for the same in others and I see plenty.
I totally agree with your post.
As we age; we do it with dignity. If two people are going to be attracted let it come naturally.
Does not mean to abandon our looks but feel comftable in your own skin.
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The way I look at 50+, is that I'm only half way through my life, and the next 50 are going to be better than the first...cause I've learned a few lessons in life that will save me some time and heartache
I think 50 is the new 25
I think 50 is the new 25
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Happy New Year Handsome!! I think as we age and become (hopefully) wiser we begin to see "inside" qualities more so than outwards looks. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I find at this point, a mans inner qaulities shine through and I tend to see and be attracted to that more and more.
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paws4: There seems to be a lot of us on this site. Personally, I've placed love on the back burner. At our age our looks seem to change day by day, not a good thing. So now what ? Do we cruise on our memories of past loves ? Keep hope alive against all odds ? As a male, I still want a woman who is trim, fit and attractive. Yet I only see what I want to see in my mirror. It's so hard to accept our aging, since we're every age that we've ever been.
Older men seem to be blind as to what they look like while attempting to attract younger women. Older women are more realistic. Bottom line; love knows no boundaries.
Older men seem to be blind as to what they look like while attempting to attract younger women. Older women are more realistic. Bottom line; love knows no boundaries.
I have given up the search for love and have enjoyed life solo. I keep very busy and I am always exploring or learning something new. I learned long ago that one can enjoy life without a relationship.
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single4ever: I have given up the search for love and have enjoyed life solo. I keep very busy and I am always exploring or learning something new. I learned long ago that one can enjoy life without a relationship.
AMEN sista, thank you.
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single4ever: I like your style; you don't take crap from anyone.
No, I don't. I am very independent - never been married, never will. I live alone, pay my bills myself, do anything I want do when I want, I manage my own affairs including my finances. Why should it bother him what I do with young men, that's my business, not his.
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equiya: No, I don't. I am very independent - never been married, never will. I live alone, pay my bills myself, do anything I want do when I want, I manage my own affairs including my finances. Why should it bother him what I do with young men, that's my business, not his.
I see we are a lot alike. I am the same way you are and even do my own renovations. I am thinking this guy has old fashioned ideas about women and relationships. I have met quite a few like that here in Calgary. They get real upset with me because I don't rely on them to help me. Its nothing personal with the men; just used to doing things on my own and really don't think to ask for help anymore.
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single4ever: I see we are a lot alike. I am the same way you are and even do my own renovations. I am thinking this guy has old fashioned ideas about women and relationships. I have met quite a few like that here in Calgary. They get real upset with me because I don't rely on them to help me. Its nothing personal with the men; just used to doing things on my own and really don't think to ask for help anymore.
Yes, and I don't make compromises anymore in relationship matters. I did in the past only to be trampled upon so now I am only going for what I want, if not I would rather be alone. I am turning 50 in about 3 years and I will continue to depend on me, no one else.
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equiya: Yes, and I don't make compromises anymore in relationship matters. I did in the past only to be trampled upon so now I am only going for what I want, if not I would rather be alone. I am turning 50 in about 3 years and I will continue to depend on me, no one else.
Wow, this ironic. I said the same thing to a friend of mine about not making compromises as I was trampled on. This is too strange. Just like we had the same situations. Could we be kindred spirits?
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single4ever: Wow, this ironic. I said the same thing to a friend of mine about not making compromises as I was trampled on. This is too strange. Just like we had the same situations. Could we be kindred spirits?
Yes, I think we are kindred spirits. SINGLE, I am so glad to have met you here on CS.
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equiya: Yes, I think we are kindred spirits. SINGLE, I am so glad to have met you here on CS. dear fellow canuck!
Its great to meet you too Equiya. I love reading your posts and I think you are a very wise woman.
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For the used and abused compromisers ......
1) was this just a one off situation that has caused the gender generalization and retreat from seeking relationships ? If so, do try again, it really is worth it .....
2) if it happens all the time then check your partner selection processes.
1) was this just a one off situation that has caused the gender generalization and retreat from seeking relationships ? If so, do try again, it really is worth it .....
2) if it happens all the time then check your partner selection processes.
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HealthyLiving: I understand what you are saying Leo.
Now that we have entered into the New Year, 10 minutes ago by my clock, I am contemplating the same thoughts.
How do we find someone who is sincere? Someone whom we can trust to care for our hearts? We should not be foolish and cast our fate to the wind.
I want to know love from a man. I have Never known this.
I feel that time is very short. I would love to know that special someone and experience the fullness of JOY for the rest of my days in this earthsuit with a companion who views life and it's beauty just as I do.
Why is it so hard to find? Seems that it should be such a simple request.
It is the cry of my heart. I feel it is very near. Come my love. Expose yourself to me. Take me by the hand and let's walk.
HL
Now that we have entered into the New Year, 10 minutes ago by my clock, I am contemplating the same thoughts.
How do we find someone who is sincere? Someone whom we can trust to care for our hearts? We should not be foolish and cast our fate to the wind.
I want to know love from a man. I have Never known this.
I feel that time is very short. I would love to know that special someone and experience the fullness of JOY for the rest of my days in this earthsuit with a companion who views life and it's beauty just as I do.
Why is it so hard to find? Seems that it should be such a simple request.
It is the cry of my heart. I feel it is very near. Come my love. Expose yourself to me. Take me by the hand and let's walk.
HL
I want to know love from a man. I have Never known this. <---- this
I am surprised at my interest capacity and desire for love & intimacy continues to be so strong - I never would have believed that it was possible for a woman in her 50s when I was a woman in my 20s & 30s
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RDM59: For the used and abused compromisers ......
1) was this just a one off situation that has caused the gender generalization and retreat from seeking relationships ? If so, do try again, it really is worth it .....
2) if it happens all the time then check your partner selection processes.
1) was this just a one off situation that has caused the gender generalization and retreat from seeking relationships ? If so, do try again, it really is worth it .....
2) if it happens all the time then check your partner selection processes.
As for compromising; it never felt like compromise but more like blackmail or guilting. Compromise should be meeting one half way but it never seemed to work that way. For me; this statment wasn't meant as a gender generalization; its just based on my experiences. I am too old for the dating game and its just way to much work to make a relationship work. I have no wish to be controled or control someone. I have no wish to make someone do something for me by guilting them with the "if you loved me; you would do this for me". I never believed there is someone for everyone and I am okay with this. Personally; I am happy when my friends find true love and will be a supportive friend for their relationship but its just not for me.
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RDM59: For the used and abused compromisers ......
1) was this just a one off situation that has caused the gender generalization and retreat from seeking relationships ? If so, do try again, it really is worth it .....
2) if it happens all the time then check your partner selection processes.
1) was this just a one off situation that has caused the gender generalization and retreat from seeking relationships ? If so, do try again, it really is worth it .....
2) if it happens all the time then check your partner selection processes.
I have NEVER been abused by any man and not ones I accepted through a compromise.
By compromise I mean I accept to have relationships with men who do NOT MEET my requirements and they chicken out or dump me when something goes wrong in the relationship. I know my requirements are strict and now I will stick to them - no ompromise.
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