Who's My Daddy??? (12)
How old are they?
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i can answer this one.. my daughter's biological father left before she was born , has never called, seen her , helped finalcailly or anything, my daughter has seen a picture of him and know's his name.. and asks to meet him.. i told her when the time comes for them to meet.. alot has been going on with him and his family in the last five years.. granted its no excuse for not seeing his daughter but i havent once bad mouthed him in front of her or told her he didnt love her
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Well it was not about anyone in particular so the age factor didn't come into it...but i would have to guess that they must be of an age to realize there is no "daddy" present in their home or their life...
Does that help??
Does that help??
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I am in the same boat pretty much. I don't really say much. It's for them to see who has raised them. I don't believe in bad mouthing their fathers, they do that themselves when they get older when they see how their father didn't do anything.
My two youngest ask where their father is. He does call but when he didn't...I just didn't have the heart to belittle him. Children see on their own which parent is there for them during their lives and mine have expressed their anger with their father on their own. I still don't say anything.
My two youngest ask where their father is. He does call but when he didn't...I just didn't have the heart to belittle him. Children see on their own which parent is there for them during their lives and mine have expressed their anger with their father on their own. I still don't say anything.
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How old is your daughter now Dana?...and do you think the answer to this question changes with the different age groups??
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I'll ask you the same thing Rebecca...how old are the children in question here...and have you experienced any one of them feeling that it was their fault their father left???
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I tell my daughter that her dad still loves her, and that one day she will be able to see him again...but right now he chooses to stay away out of anger at me.
When I explain that with love, sincerity, and the knowledge that she will see him when "HE" is ready to see her, she will have facts, and not hopeless expectations.
She also understands his dangerous anger towards me...and has her psychologist that help me to explain some things to her...but nothing can ease the pain of a father not caring for his child.
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When I explain that with love, sincerity, and the knowledge that she will see him when "HE" is ready to see her, she will have facts, and not hopeless expectations.
She also understands his dangerous anger towards me...and has her psychologist that help me to explain some things to her...but nothing can ease the pain of a father not caring for his child.
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It's hard because you don't want to upset them but the truth if you think they can understand it.
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my daughter is 5 almost 6.. i cant really be sure how that answer should change.. i know that i would never bad mouth her father.. the only thing he ever did wrong was leaving and not comeing back but i found out .. his family had alot to do with that.. they told him that i told his mom that i never wanted to see him that she wasnt his baby and i didnt want him around her..
so now he know's that she is in fact his , i never said what they told him.. so now he just has to come see her.. my cousin contacted him for me.. however.. his grandmother(she is sick so he's staying with her) keeps telling her he's not there when she calls.. ).. i'm not sure how other ppl would answer this question or how answers will vary from person to person.. or as children get older.. i guess it really doenst matter how old the child is.. how its' dealt with really depends on the person who has the child and what they feel is the right thing to do
so now he know's that she is in fact his , i never said what they told him.. so now he just has to come see her.. my cousin contacted him for me.. however.. his grandmother(she is sick so he's staying with her) keeps telling her he's not there when she calls.. ).. i'm not sure how other ppl would answer this question or how answers will vary from person to person.. or as children get older.. i guess it really doenst matter how old the child is.. how its' dealt with really depends on the person who has the child and what they feel is the right thing to do
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wikked,
the true! who he is,and answer the best you can...someday that child will found out...the truth...unfortunately we all miss judge
people in our lifes...it hurts much worse the be an adult child and find one parent lied too you all your life..who do you trust if your parents lie to you....be the best parent you can be,,as a single parent...If a person can walk away from a child...there's not much good you could say about them...good luck sweety...love them and let them know they can count on you,,,,no matter what....chance
the true! who he is,and answer the best you can...someday that child will found out...the truth...unfortunately we all miss judge
people in our lifes...it hurts much worse the be an adult child and find one parent lied too you all your life..who do you trust if your parents lie to you....be the best parent you can be,,as a single parent...If a person can walk away from a child...there's not much good you could say about them...good luck sweety...love them and let them know they can count on you,,,,no matter what....chance
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Well, my two boys are 18 and 17. No, they've never felt like it was their fault and I think that's due to the fact that they've always known from their father's family members what happened.
My two girls are 14 (on Sat) and 12. They have heard stories from their Aunts, Uncles, and cousins. They didn't need me to tell them how he abandoned them at the ages of 1 and 2.
The other girl is 8. She never felt that she was at fault.
You can't "miss" what you've never had...nor question it when it's not there, when all you've known...is never seeing your father. When children are older they know when their father leaves because they've gotten to know him. With my children...their fathers left when they were very young. They didn't have time to "miss" them.
My two girls are 14 (on Sat) and 12. They have heard stories from their Aunts, Uncles, and cousins. They didn't need me to tell them how he abandoned them at the ages of 1 and 2.
The other girl is 8. She never felt that she was at fault.
You can't "miss" what you've never had...nor question it when it's not there, when all you've known...is never seeing your father. When children are older they know when their father leaves because they've gotten to know him. With my children...their fathers left when they were very young. They didn't have time to "miss" them.
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When your children's father has walked away from their lives...and I mean really "walked away"...no support, no visitation, no calls, gifts...nothing...
What do you tell your children when they ask where their Dad is at?..and how do you help them cope with it??