Slapping ! (87)
zatopek: There really are so many variables that I doubt any of us here (unless we are qualified, experienced psychologists!!) are well equipped to answer definitively.
No, I wouldn't say I was an aggressive child. Fairly quiet, mild-mannered and sensitive if anything! I just wanted to read books and learn things. I was always like that, but as I got older I began to think of force as an option in far too many situations. When I was big enough to retaliate to my father, I did. I remember it well, and it killed me to do it. My dad wasn't a bad guy by any means, but his parents taught him that giving kids 'a clip in the ear' was ok, and he just carried that on when he was raising his own kids.
No, I wouldn't say I was an aggressive child. Fairly quiet, mild-mannered and sensitive if anything! I just wanted to read books and learn things. I was always like that, but as I got older I began to think of force as an option in far too many situations. When I was big enough to retaliate to my father, I did. I remember it well, and it killed me to do it. My dad wasn't a bad guy by any means, but his parents taught him that giving kids 'a clip in the ear' was ok, and he just carried that on when he was raising his own kids.
thats it variables..things shape us no matter what..and i suppose when that question is asked..where u slapped and did it do u any harm..i always answer no..i actually behaved 99% of the time so i didnt get any..prob just as much as i woulda if another punishment had been given..but then again who knows if the other woulda worked on me...or deterred me.
i always find this issue had to pinpoint an answer on..cos all parents and kids are different.
fifitheminx: I just cant slap for my life and had to find ways around it
allways knew that you were no slapper ! 
lol.Can you really say it did you no harm though? Ok, you didn't turn into a criminal, but maybe look at it the other way. Maybe you'd be a different, better, even more successful person than you are now if you weren't slapped. Is that possible, you may ask, but who knows how these things effect us? And, as you said, we're all so different, and there are so many variables, wouldn't it be better to err on the side of caution when disciplining a child. That slap you are about to mete out to a misbehaving child may set in train the sequence of events that leads him or her to becoming a tyranical despot of the future!
I was never hit as a kid but then we knew from an early age that when my mother or father said no to something they meant it and that was the end of it. Then again i was born in the 1970s and most people were a lot poorer back then and we didnt go around roaring and shouting looking for everything. I see these kids in shops these days knocking the place down if mammy doesnt give them what they are looking for and it seems that the little brats are spoilt rotton. Ive even seen them kicking and hitting their mothers. Seems like they dont know what the word no means.
My Sister-in-law has come up with an alternative to slapping. She sits her son down when Super Nanny is on and makes him watch it, and then says if he gets bad or naughty she will send him to the time out area, and if he is really really naughty she will call in Super Nanny.
I know quite a few parents who do the same.
There is one thing I did to my nephew that taught him a lesson when he was about 3, he threw a tantrum because I wouldn't let him have ice cream for breakfast, so I lay down next to him, and threw a mock tantrum of my own, just to show him how stupid throwing a tantrum was. He looked shocked and never threw another tantrum on me again :)
I know quite a few parents who do the same.
There is one thing I did to my nephew that taught him a lesson when he was about 3, he threw a tantrum because I wouldn't let him have ice cream for breakfast, so I lay down next to him, and threw a mock tantrum of my own, just to show him how stupid throwing a tantrum was. He looked shocked and never threw another tantrum on me again :)
Couldn't disagree with you more.
I think we should all read up on it a bit more though, rather than coming to our own conclusions based on our gut instinct. There's lots of information out there.
I think we should all read up on it a bit more though, rather than coming to our own conclusions based on our gut instinct. There's lots of information out there.
More Threads
1830's Music
The Best of the GOP
other can see but not you
Common Issues with the BMW X1
Feel Good Music
wanting beyond need
rarotonga
the way you look
men's perspective towards women
Sleepy Don!
More Threads
Report threads that break rules, are offensive, or contain fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. click to report forum abuse »
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
If one of the comments is offensive, please report the comment instead (there is a link in each comment to report it).
maybe it depends on the child perhaps? were u agressive always?
There really are so many variables that I doubt any of us here (unless we are qualified, experienced psychologists!!) are well equipped to answer definitively.
No, I wouldn't say I was an aggressive child. Fairly quiet, mild-mannered and sensitive if anything! I just wanted to read books and learn things. I was always like that, but as I got older I began to think of force as an option in far too many situations. When I was big enough to retaliate to my father, I did. I remember it well, and it killed me to do it. My dad wasn't a bad guy by any means, but his parents taught him that giving kids 'a clip in the ear' was ok, and he just carried that on when he was raising his own kids.