How do you respond when............................... ( Archived) (24)

I'm curious............here's the scenario: someone replies to your Profile - they are interested, respectful and hopeful that you'll get back to them. You find, however, that you are not interested. Do you:
1. respond with a "Thank you"?
2. tell them that you've "already found someone" whether you have or not?
3. let it go and delete their reply?

Do you find, in your experience, that one gender or the other leans more toward one of these?

Thanks for your input!

tell them the truth...

my choice:

i send back a flower and wish him all the best in 2012.


Seadragon

becoz you are a good soul miss...its great to have you here...

if i receive a thoughtful email that shows they have read my profile then i always send back a thank you and wish them success with their search.

but a lot of emails look like 'bulk' sendouts without any evidence of having ready my profile. and it is difficult to tell which are from real folks and which are from scammers...so i just delete.

i have only ever initiated email with one person. after communicating for a while, it was realized, i wasn't what they were looking for.

i think it's hard to put yourself out there, so when someone does, i think it should be responded to with honesty and sensitivity.

but having said all that...
there are many beautiful young women on this site that would be getting tons of mail, and i think it's unreasonable to expect them to respond to all.

"Instructions for life, 20 ways to get good Karma"
by the Dalai Lama:

Instruction 3:

Remember the 3 R's:

-Respect for self
-Respect for others
-Responsibility for all your actions


Seadragon




Thank you, Marss

I believe that it is common courtesy and respect to reply to messages and flowers received. If they took the time to approach you, it should be acknowledged. I would tell them the truth also, but most importantly is the acknowledgement. Responding speaks a lot about a persons character, especially when done properly. Best of luck to you.

I get mushy stuff from scammers - no reply.

If I am not interested I do not reply back.
I got a note from a guy once who was interested, sounded nice, so I replied back to him.

I got a nasty note from him back.

Also, there are some guys I do not want to write to at all. Like players and on and on.

The ones that call you sweetie, or dear. No, it's either a scammer or a guy that doesn't know how a lady wants to be written to.

The Dobe

I feel the same as Dobe but then there are times I am having a weak moment of niceness haha and I will say ty. It is sometimes a no win situation. I have had emails that start out awesome and then when I do respond, I smell the bs jst rolling forth. Come on who has the time to set online and email back and forth one sentence for hours? I think I am being nice to just read it hahaha. I do however get ur point as well Sea, it seems when I read guys profile I am looking at the shout outs and they are always mostly from women who you can clearly tell are the scammers. They leave their email addy and their english is terrible. O hell jst email back and say ty for the kind words and let that be it, if she has a brain she will get the hint, guys who usually are interested will go into details and the email will be more then a brief ty.. Trust me I get them all the time too