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they all want one thing Paws, a piece of ol' mach25!

Thats a good point. If you have had a bad relationship before you surely wouldn't want to go through a bad experience, again. I can remember after my divorce I had the wanting to get back into a relationship even though I just got out of one. I had figured that she was the problem but later had to admit that I was part of the problem, too. It takes a while to get untangled from being in a relationship. Even if you can't stand them they still have an affect on you long after they have gone or you have gone. There has to be a healing process either in a divorce or a death. I married the same person twice thinking the relationship could be saved. I feel now that some people aren't just meant for other people and has nothing to do with if they were both nice or not. Some friendships are just meant to be friendships and nothing more.

Cyber searching for romance is backwards to begin with. In real life, you see a person first and that usually causes you to decide whether you want to speak to them. We are by nature, visual creatures. A pic., is a must in that respect.

What I'm saying is, one's self perception is subjective. If a man wants a mommy, he will not necessarily be aware of that need. When he reads those qualifications not wanted, it won't ring a bell at all.

paws, as the other women have indicated, we find guys doing that, too. as w/yorself, i find it a bit overly assertive. it strikes me this guy must've had the experience he's saying he doesnt wanna have again. that he's still yammering on about it suggests he aint over it. not a place i wanna go.

Slider....Its interesting that your last two lines here relate so much to a relationship I was in a while back....You can be with someone....have problems....and there is still something about that person you like....so you get back together...BUT...it still does not work for one reason or another...likely same reason it did not work the first time...It does not mean that they are not a nice person...it means that they are just not right for you. Been there done that..Glad to read your post on someone with the same feelings.

Gentlepaws....yes cyber dating to me is backwards to some degree....but hey....how do you know that the pic that one puts on is really that person you are talking with? It has happened lots of times...How do you think kids get abducted over the intenet?
We are supposed to be honest here...I can post a picture of myself...its not one taken recently..and I don't think it looks like I do now...so that in itself is a form of deceipt.
I am assuming most of us are honest in our profiles....and if I say I am attractive ....its true...as one is here looking to MEET someone and have a first date....so you won't gain anything by lying.I don't want to waste anyones time.
This cyber dating is a chance you take anyways....so pic or no pic on a mans profile does not matter to me...I get much more out of getting to know that person from their emails and even phone calls than I do based on his picture.I personally think its blind dating anyways....You never really know what you are going to find at the other end UNTIL you meet that person.
Just sharing my thoughts....

Amen lol i truly dont think there is anyone in this world(that i have met yet) that is perfect. one MUST take the good with the bad(within reasion) i personaly havent met anyone who i thought was 100% perfect, i think life would be boring if things were to perfect lol

well thats what i htink on that


Mike.

First I assume honesty untill proven otherwise. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I am honest when I say that I'm reasonably attractive, yet millions may disagree. So, a pic., helps to romove yet one more guess in a long line of guessing and reading between the lines.

Never the less...You never REALLY know for sure till you meet...so pic or no pic....I rest my case. I will still contact a guy who has a nice profile and NO pic and take it from there....I did not post in my profile that I would NOT email someone if they did not have a pic posted....I have however spoken with someone from the site...who said no pic no email..HE did email me back and even asked my opinion on some things...He seems like a really nice guy...and that is the sole reason I showed interest to his profile in the first place. NOT his picture.Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...
Thanks for your thoughts on this one...but guess we sort of got off your original topic a little.