Soul mate or more suited? ( Archived) (35)

A reason, a season, a lifetime...I think Soulmates are peeps we encounter over our lifetimes. We spend time with them, sometimes short, sometimes long, and we learn lessons through having known them

And that (in red) might be why I don't believe there is such a thing for me. To think that the other person is part of your "being" doesn't make sense to me. Going back to the wedding vows that when you marry, or become lifetime partners, you become "one" is probably what soulmate means and that is more then 52% not reality. Just ask any divorce lawyer.

I was very deeply in love but I never thought of him as being a part of me. I loved him for being who HE was, not because he was like me.

For the record, I'm not putting down anyone else's belief, it's just my opinion that if I were to want a partner again, I would want him to be true to himself and love him for that. "Soulmate" sounds to me like you want the person to convert to your (not you Eagle) way of thinking so that you become "one". What's wrong with being two different people and loving each other for their pros and cons...

Ahhh!!! We have a different understanding of what a spritual experience is!!

It can´t be achieved by marrying and the priest/vicar pronouncing you husband and wife and declaring "from now onwards you are one"!
It can´t be achieved either by anyone wanting to "covert" another to their way of thinking so that you become one. Everything you describe is a "mind process". A spiritual (beyond words and the physical IE mind and body) connection is not about anything anyone can "decide" or "decree". It´s certainly not about religion, religious ceremonies OR ego driven decisions or wants.

It´s beyond ALL of that!!

The soul connection is between 2 different people and they will be different because they are in a human body and have had a life that has made them who they are now. It´s the connection that has a different quality about it because it has the added value of beyond body and mind.

My theory has evolved to the point where I now believe we each have a possibility of multiple soul mates throughout the course of our lives. We are able to pick and choose which we will make the official "one" for all eternity, till death do us part. It's a choice we make, not something dictated to us from above. It's all about positive volition and free will.

I like this answer very much.
I read somewhere on this topic that an actual soul mate, what we would term our true 'other half' rarely reincarnates at the same time as us; rather, they stay behind to 'help' us from the other side.

In this life, I believe that there are many individuals out there that are compatible with us, and we try to choose the best match for us, just as they do. But we all learn, in the end, from each relationship we form here.

Eagle - in an effort to try understand better what soulmate means to you, I have to probe further.

Are you saying that when you meet someone you get a feeling as if you know that person?

OR

Are you saying that you can finish the sentences of your paterner?

OR

This connection that you have - is it a feeling that you think you know the thoughts of the other person because you have so much in common?

It seems to be to be so much easier to like a man/woman just because you have a few things in common rather then getting into all this head shrinking stuff. There's too much thinking your way. I prefer to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't "need" a connection to me but rather "wants" an enhanced friendship.

Sorry, a few typos but I'm sure you can figure them out...