disastrous meet ( Archived) (93)

mick681: i have been talking to someone off here for a few weeks, now by telephone. every day, so i took the plunge and travelled to see her, in her country,i took 3 flights and all day travelling to get there, not cheap to get there, money not the problem,when i met her, i thought ok as first impression, what i got to see later, really shook me, the condition of her flat, was so bad and filthy, i would not even let a animal stay there, yet she was insisting i stay there,the smell was so bad, i went and sourced a hotel late at night,
she stunk to high heaven, yet insists she is ok, i spent the next day sourcing to get flights back home to no avail, so i had to stay another night,lovely part of a country i had never seen before,so i made the best of a bad situation, she told me there, she never gets up before dinnertime, as she likes to sleep,
these are things i found out, only after a meet,
i cannot believe how a woman like this can make herself to be what she is not,
what i want to know now is ,has anyone else, had something like this happen to them,
i will not name this person, who is still on this site, i just hope she reads this, she keeps trying to contact all the time

Amity: Well, firstly i am sorry that you felt let down by this lady.
I am confused as to what she has done to make out she is something else?
It seems the only problem you have is "the smell"? which would be i assume to her living arrangements?
I don't think anyone really thinks to discuss how they smell on dating do they??

Anyway my only annoyance with this thread is that this poor woman can read it.
You met her here so she will be aware of the forums etc and can see you write all these things about her.
Not only will she feel extremely embarrassed and ashamed but you probably will appear to her also someone who made out to be someone they are not. A gent!
Just a thought.

jac379: Its not always the case, but sometimes a lack of personal hygiene and home hygiene is a symptom of depression. Sleeping a lot certainly is and rest is what she needs if she is depressed.

Sometimes people don't realise they're depressed.

Sometimes people will look for change and excitement thinking that will make them feel better long-term, not realising they need to tackle underlying physical and emotional health issues.

Try not to be too cross, hurt, resentful, or hostile about it, eh? Attempting to humiliate her isn't going to help.