There is a thread askin "Why can't men say what they mean?" My question is simular. Why when women say something, mean it? Its seems to mean they say one thing and somehow think you will answer some underlying question they really have. Hope this makes sense.
I believe there are some women who have been taught, from childhood, to say what they think you want to hear. Not a good thing, but a possible explanation to your question.
Women don't say what they mean, b/c its a lil game they play.... when YOUR suppose to know what they're thinking. In which case.... the oldest and wisest of men, NEVER know what a woman is thinking.
If I'm thinkin' something, you'll know, there won't be any guessing lol. Too much wasted time doing the other, noone benefits... However, (would be one, wouldn't there?) if you see a face in pain, sorrow...Just freakin' ask. If she does tell you, then don't worry about it.
To be in love is like being in suspended animation, "To be in Love is merely to be in a state of perpetual anesthesia" as H.L. Menken put it; "Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence...also from Menken; it is in all aspects the cessation of all your mental senses...:)
Communication should not be a guessing game. Say what is on your mind. Be honest and sincere. Then Love will find you. You may find some that take offence, but do you really want to spend time with someone that don't share your views. Or at least can understand them? Being honest and up front builds trust. Trust is one of the most basic building blocks of any relationship. "Take it how you want to, but thats the way I feel." ,is alot better than, "I realy meant is ......" Guessing games are for kids. I may be raising one, I don't need a relationship with one. ok..Thats enough .....
Some women are taught that they Have to say certain things to make their man happy. Not here I say whats on my mind wether you like it or not. Gonna say what I feel and mean what I say.
Even to this day, girls are taught to behave and shut up early on...I'm all for being a lady at times...but, don't ever try to shut me up, lol. I want my daughter to be able to say no. Not sit back and take whatever is thrown at her...I'm no feminist,I have beliefs in how men and women are different, biologicly(sp?)...but, a woman can still be one and be up front...
Well my best guy friend says I am feminist(SP?) I dont think I am. I was luckly to have my parent steach me that if you dont say whats on ur mind then how will you get anywhere in this world.
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My question is simular. Why when women say something, mean it?
Its seems to mean they say one thing and somehow think you will answer some underlying question they really have. Hope this makes sense.