Beauty vs everything else ( Archived) (82)

You want some advice. There is beauty in every woman. you just have to open your eyes to see it.

If you have one wife, be satisfied with her. Don't go looking for another one.

You might be obsessed with the beauty of other women, but I remember a wise chinese man saying once "I used to find the one woman in all other women, now I find all other women in the one woman" This woman was his wife. And she became so happy when this man stopped lusting after other women. He actually found out that he was married to a very beautiful woman and as he loved her, she became even more beautiful.

It is okay to appreciate the beauty you see in other women. I think women are probably the most beautiful creature ever created.

But I believe that this lust can be a big problem in your life. As we all (both men and women) grow old, the outer beauty and handsomeness fade away and are replaced by wrinkles and saggy bits. But in true love, this does not matter. We still see our partners as beautiful and should be content with them.

You married for wife for a reason. You obviously saw something of beauty in her. So try and remember what it was that you saw at first. Don't compare her to other women. Compare yourself to other husbands and see if you are being a good husband.

Focus less on yourself, and your lust, and focus more on love. Love for your wife, family, and others.

You will become a better and more contented man if you do this....

Mr.Halvo,thanks for your nice advice.I believe that w/o any doubt I appreciate my Mrs for the contribution she is making with me for our household.only one feeling pinches me sometimes ie, to have a very beautiful woman as my another wife.Because you know, we have only one life time.I want to possess a beautiful girl/woman.

Do you hear yourself? It is good to be honest, but a woman is not a possession. Here lies your problem. A woman is a man's glory. A wife is a man's riches. But she is never a man's possession.

External beauty will fade. I have been with some externally beautiful women, who were a nightmare to live with. Beauty will not satisfy lust. You are full of lust, something that will never bring you contentment or happiness.

If you have a faith in God, pray to God for help. Love your 1st wife as yourself. This is the teaching of God. She is as beautiful as any other woman is. This is the moral of the Chinese man's wisdom.

Be content - you are filling your life up with the fire of lust, and it will burn you if you don't control it.

Not at all maam....