Vulnerability (76)
joyaepace: I am not trying to deal with it. I don't know whether I will meet anybody with whom I will want to be 'vulnerable'. There must be a deep connection for that to happen and it has not happened so far.
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rebel2: Perhaps the word "vulnerable" is sometimes used as a term whereby someone is at the "mercy" of someone else.
"open" may explain it better.
"open" may explain it better.
I love my woman to be open
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Bogart_1960: ty
O, thanks, a sip of wine for good nights sleep!
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Bogart_1960: opening yourself up to another person--- Thats is not vulnerable; that is what we suppose to do everyday, in all type of relationships - some you can share more of you, some you hold and make a " bad face"... why holding to be vulnerable...
A love relationship is based (or it is supposed to be) in trust, openness, and reality... "standing naked in front of them", always and everyday... from the beginning
A love relationship is based (or it is supposed to be) in trust, openness, and reality... "standing naked in front of them", always and everyday... from the beginning
hiya Bogart
i think we are talking about the same thing and it's getting down to semantics and the interpretation of the word, vulnerable. someone has posted it here, and i looked up 'vulnerability'.
vulnerability
the state of being vulnerable or exposed; "his vulnerability to litigation"; "his exposure to ridicule".
how i am using the word...
'putting myself in a position of being very exposed with another'.
i think it takes courage to be yourself, and for me, i feel this vulnerability when i am totally open to the level i would be with a partner. there's the risk that they may not like the 'inner me'...(grin).
but what i am really talking about is wanting trust and openness by both partners, which you have mentioned. i am much more open with a partner than i would be with a neighbor, the grocery store clerk, even some friends...
i am willing to reveal more of myself, at a much deeper level..and that to me is vulnerability.
but i want that. and i want my partner to be that open too.
there's information shared with a partner that i would not share with others. too private..too deep.
so are we talking about the same thing?
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jono7: hiya Bogart
i think we are talking about the same thing and it's getting down to semantics and the interpretation of the word, vulnerable. someone has posted it here, and i looked up 'vulnerability'.
vulnerability
the state of being vulnerable or exposed; "his vulnerability to litigation"; "his exposure to ridicule".
how i am using the word...
'putting myself in a position of being very exposed with another'.
i think it takes courage to be yourself, and for me, i feel this vulnerability when i am totally open to the level i would be with a partner. there's the risk that they may not like the 'inner me'...(grin).
but what i am really talking about is wanting trust and openness by both partners, which you have mentioned. i am much more open with a partner than i would be with a neighbor, the grocery store clerk, even some friends...
i am willing to reveal more of myself, at a much deeper level..and that to me is vulnerability.
but i want that. and i want my partner to be that open too.
there's information shared with a partner that i would not share with others. too private..too deep.
so are we talking about the same thing?
i think we are talking about the same thing and it's getting down to semantics and the interpretation of the word, vulnerable. someone has posted it here, and i looked up 'vulnerability'.
vulnerability
the state of being vulnerable or exposed; "his vulnerability to litigation"; "his exposure to ridicule".
how i am using the word...
'putting myself in a position of being very exposed with another'.
i think it takes courage to be yourself, and for me, i feel this vulnerability when i am totally open to the level i would be with a partner. there's the risk that they may not like the 'inner me'...(grin).
but what i am really talking about is wanting trust and openness by both partners, which you have mentioned. i am much more open with a partner than i would be with a neighbor, the grocery store clerk, even some friends...
i am willing to reveal more of myself, at a much deeper level..and that to me is vulnerability.
but i want that. and i want my partner to be that open too.
there's information shared with a partner that i would not share with others. too private..too deep.
so are we talking about the same thing?
Hi Jono
Pretty much the same...the way to get there is the difference....
I believe in been open from the beginning.....no hiding "being very exposed with another".,.. no waiting to be "vulnerable" in a later time. by putting ourselves "open", we have the chance of showing from the start we want and who we are...
off course the level of trust and openness shared with a partner are more intense and personal...also to be there and support/inspire partner is different
but, pretty much the same...
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Bogart_1960: Hi Jono
Pretty much the same...the way to get there is the difference....
I believe in been open from the beginning.....no hiding "being very exposed with another".,.. no waiting to be "vulnerable" in a later time. by putting ourselves "open", we have the chance of showing from the start we want and who we are...
off course the level of trust and openness shared with a partner are more intense and personal...also to be there and support/inspire partner is different
but, pretty much the same...
Pretty much the same...the way to get there is the difference....
I believe in been open from the beginning.....no hiding "being very exposed with another".,.. no waiting to be "vulnerable" in a later time. by putting ourselves "open", we have the chance of showing from the start we want and who we are...
off course the level of trust and openness shared with a partner are more intense and personal...also to be there and support/inspire partner is different
but, pretty much the same...
i like your idea, i really do. but my experience has been that there are some folks out there, that don't always have the best intentions for others at the top of their list, and will manipulate or use another person.
to be too open right from the start makes me uncomfortable as i need to know the person a bit better before i want them to know my innermost thoughts. it's not that i change who i am...it's about protecting myself still i know it's safe. i am open about many things, what i want, who i am...but some things are just for a partner.
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jono7: i like your idea, i really do. but my experience has been that there are some folks out there, that don't always have the best intentions for others at the top of their list, and will manipulate or use another person.
to be too open right from the start makes me uncomfortable as i need to know the person a bit better before i want them to know my innermost thoughts. it's not that i change who i am...it's about protecting myself still i know it's safe. i am open about many things, what i want, who i am...but some things are just for a partner.
to be too open right from the start makes me uncomfortable as i need to know the person a bit better before i want them to know my innermost thoughts. it's not that i change who i am...it's about protecting myself still i know it's safe. i am open about many things, what i want, who i am...but some things are just for a partner.
I can understand that... and what you saying but i dont called it "vulnerable" - i call it common sense.
There are levels of trust and in our life we have to know when to let someone share the. It is a privilege i dont give to everyone - some i will allow to my friends, a few more to my family, and
more to a partner... thats the way i see it.....
"but some things are just for a partner."
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lalasierra: Is being vulnerable in a relationship attractive or a sign of weakness?
Its a weakness.
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Bogart_1960: I can understand that... and what you saying but i dont called it "vulnerable" - i call it common sense.
There are levels of trust and in our life we have to know when to let someone share the. It is a privilege i dont give to everyone - some i will allow to my friends, a few more to my family, and
more to a partner... thats the way i see it.....
"but some things are just for a partner."
There are levels of trust and in our life we have to know when to let someone share the. It is a privilege i dont give to everyone - some i will allow to my friends, a few more to my family, and
more to a partner... thats the way i see it.....
"but some things are just for a partner."
.....okaay... i'll call it common sense....
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jono7: .....
okaay... i'll call it common sense....
okaay... i'll call it common sense....
was waiting for you to say "only dreams now"....
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jono7: .....
okaay... i'll call it common sense....
okaay... i'll call it common sense....
Good girl, common sense is the value from vulnerable.
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sophiasummer: Good girl, common sense is the value from vulnerable.
nicely stated!
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jono7: i like your idea, i really do. but my experience has been that there are some folks out there, that don't always have the best intentions for others at the top of their list, and will manipulate or use another person.
to be too open right from the start makes me uncomfortable as i need to know the person a bit better before i want them to know my innermost thoughts. it's not that i change who i am...it's about protecting myself still i know it's safe. i am open about many things, what i want, who i am...but some things are just for a partner.
to be too open right from the start makes me uncomfortable as i need to know the person a bit better before i want them to know my innermost thoughts. it's not that i change who i am...it's about protecting myself still i know it's safe. i am open about many things, what i want, who i am...but some things are just for a partner.
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jono7: nicely stated!
Cool, Common sense comes into action when one is being put into a width of uncommon, towards a vulnerable statis. Therefore we become afraid to say what we know.
Like wine, we may not know the origins, but wow! it packs a punch!
Smooth, bitey, etc.
lol
Say always how you feel.
You then become invincible.
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lalasierra: Is being vulnerable in a relationship attractive or a sign of weakness?
Hope, faith and grace is our hope, faith and grace.
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I am "confused" about the the idea , and i ask you.."and how do you deal with it....tentatively?....
I am not trying to deal with it. I don't know whether I will meet anybody with whom I will want to be 'vulnerable'. There must be a deep connection for that to happen and it has not happened so far.