When your partner gains weight. ( Archived) (143)

I believe it depends on how you present the topic to the other. Depending on their personality type by knowing how they would respond to such a topic would determine how you would present it.

If the person was slightly on the sensitive side as a minimal. Maybe not saying "your fat" is a good idea. But instead, maybe finding a way to bring the topic about with out actually saying it would be a better idea. Same could apply to those that maybe you think is "to skinny". On either case you could simple ask "hey would you like to go for a walk with me?" This example would help you bond, both get in better shape to some extent and may even become something you enjoy on a regular basis together. When was the last time you went for a walk and held hands?

Now if you know the person you are concerned about is not sensitive at all. You could simply just ask or say something like "i ate a lot of food during thanksgiving and now I just cant get it out of my mind the amount of weight I have gained from eating. Do you feel the same way?" Anytime we put ourself's in the position of negativity first, the outcome will be positive usually (not always). And it allows for a more sincere conversation on the topic at hand.

I'm usually the pretty bold and blunt type of person. But I do have friends that are not able to take my comments in the manner I mean them. So knowing this allows me to understand, that how i present what I say will determine how well what I have said is taken.

Hope this helps someone. Take care.

If someone has gotten so overweight it is a turn off then there is probably some serious health issues that goes with carrying that weight around. A loving and caring partner should care more about their partner's health and well-being than how attractive they are to them.

So they should tell them, but for their own sake.