Past vs Future (20)
I think people change over time, what they look for in a partner changes..
I also think it's possible to put someone on a pedestal, where in your mind they become "perfect".. And then , chances are you would be a bit disappointed when you find out that they aren't, and they also have flaws like everyone else?
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I also think it's possible to put someone on a pedestal, where in your mind they become "perfect".. And then , chances are you would be a bit disappointed when you find out that they aren't, and they also have flaws like everyone else?
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RomancingSting: This is my very first attempt at creating a thread, please bear with me if it has been already visited. Kind of a two part question.
Have you had a school sweetheart that you had incredible feelings for but never married, then found out they were single and you either did or wanted a relationship with? If you did, was it what you expected or were they completely different than your expectations?
Have you had a school sweetheart that you had incredible feelings for but never married, then found out they were single and you either did or wanted a relationship with? If you did, was it what you expected or were they completely different than your expectations?
Hello....Welcome to the forums...
My very first high-school boyfriend(my first love) was tragically killed in a car accident whilst we were together.
Just prior to leaving high-school I started dating someone else. We were together for 17 years. He was the love of my life. A wonderful man, but unfortunately we grew apart.
After we separated, he met someone else, married and had 2 children. The song "Someone like you" by Adele reminds me of him whenever it is played.
I believe he is still happy in his relationship and I don't have any thoughts of reconciling with him.
What about yourself?
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Both of your answers are incredible, I actually went through this four years ago and was so astonished that although we still loved each other after thirty years, we had both changed so much and adapted lifestyles that were at opposite ends of the spectrum. I still love her and think about her a lot but now know that we could never live together. I think it is the memory more than the reality that keeps the love alive.
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No, there is no one in my past, crush or otherwise, that I would want to reconcile with. As time moves on and with new experiences I've changed and who I was and wanted in the past is no longer who I am and what I want now.
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I can't help but sympathize thinking of the feelings you must have gone through losing some one you loved so much. Our first love is forever in our hearts and will never leave us, that much I know.
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It is so true that we are constantly changing and evolving as a person and the things that made us happy at one time are no longer. I think it can be said too that even our personal needs and wants change and it dictates the kind of person that we want to fall in love with.
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RomancingSting: Both of your answers are incredible, I actually went through this four years ago and was so astonished that although we still loved each other after thirty years, we had both changed so much and adapted lifestyles that were at opposite ends of the spectrum. I still love her and think about her a lot but now know that we could never live together. I think it is the memory more than the reality that keeps the love alive.
Treasure the memories. I do.
I have to go do some housework that's been screaming at me since I woke, ho hum. Enjoy your evening.
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Always good to have those memories to look back on though 
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Memories are an amazing part of our lives and they mould us into what we have become and are becoming on a daily basis.
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No there was not.Never had time for a High School/College sweetheart I was way too busy working my way through school.
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RomancingSting: This is my very first attempt at creating a thread, please bear with me if it has been already visited. Kind of a two part question.
Have you had a school sweetheart that you had incredible feelings for but never married, then found out they were single and you either did or wanted a relationship with? If you did, was it what you expected or were they completely different than your expectations?
Have you had a school sweetheart that you had incredible feelings for but never married, then found out they were single and you either did or wanted a relationship with? If you did, was it what you expected or were they completely different than your expectations?
Hi and
I had strong feelings for a school friend, but we never acted upon them long term. We both went to different universities, and drifted apart.
I saw them a few years ago at a reunion, and although we were both single at the time and I still felt love for them, there wasn't enough to fall in love again for a relationship.
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RomancingSting: This is my very first attempt at creating a thread, please bear with me if it has been already visited. Kind of a two part question.
Have you had a school sweetheart that you had incredible feelings for but never married, then found out they were single and you either did or wanted a relationship with? If you did, was it what you expected or were they completely different than your expectations?
Have you had a school sweetheart that you had incredible feelings for but never married, then found out they were single and you either did or wanted a relationship with? If you did, was it what you expected or were they completely different than your expectations?
Hiya Romanc There isn't one like you describe, no but there are one or two I might have wanted to pay more attention to whilst at school. They aged well
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2girlsnocup: Hi and I had strong feelings for a school friend, but we never acted upon them long term. We both went to different universities, and drifted apart.
I saw them a few years ago at a reunion, and although we were both single at the time and I still felt love for them, there wasn't enough to fall in love again for a relationship.
I saw them a few years ago at a reunion, and although we were both single at the time and I still felt love for them, there wasn't enough to fall in love again for a relationship.
Thank you for welcoming me; It is interesting though after so many years and after being in relationships that there is always that memory and the questioning of one self, "What If" they say that IF is the largest word in the English language
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Hiya Romanc
There isn't one like you describe, no but there are one or two I might have wanted to pay more attention to whilst at school. They aged well[/quote
Thanks for the welcome; I moved back to my home town for about three years and I asked myself the same thing. There were girls in school who blossomed into just absolutely beautiful women and seemed to defy the aging process. Can't say the same for the guys I grew up with, they look ten years older than I do but I attribute that to the drugs and alcohol they were into and still are involved in.
There isn't one like you describe, no but there are one or two I might have wanted to pay more attention to whilst at school. They aged well[/quote
Thanks for the welcome; I moved back to my home town for about three years and I asked myself the same thing. There were girls in school who blossomed into just absolutely beautiful women and seemed to defy the aging process. Can't say the same for the guys I grew up with, they look ten years older than I do but I attribute that to the drugs and alcohol they were into and still are involved in.
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Sorry, I screwed something up on doing the last reply 
I think I figured out what I did,
I think I figured out what I did,
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People are exes for a reason and special memories grow. Usually they cant live up to their own legend in your mind. And if they are an ex, the reason why will come back up. A broken heart may heal eventually but they always leave a nasty scar.
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Oh and welcome to forums Sting.. forgot that in my post.
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fishinandshootin: To be honest a person will only change if they choose to. I have found that even if someone changes for ME and not for THEM, they become someone else and I didn't fall in love with someone else. If they change on their own for their reasons, they are a better person for them and as well for you. Inspiring someone to do the right thing for themselves will get you a lot more respect than forcing them to change for your own reasons.
I couldn't agree with you more, change has to come from within and with a willing heart.
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In response to: This is my very first attempt at creating a thread, please bear with me if it has been already visited. Kind of a two part question.
Have you had a school sweetheart that you had incredible feelings for but never married, then found out they were single and you either did or wanted a relationship with? If you did, was it what you expected or were they completely different than your expectations?
Have you had a school sweetheart that you had incredible feelings for but never married, then found out they were single and you either did or wanted a relationship with? If you did, was it what you expected or were they completely different than your expectations?
Yeah, I remember. I was in luv with this girl ( front desk ) in my classroom, when I was 12 years old , doing my primary schools in Italy. I even danced with her ( sweating all over the place )
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Have you had a school sweetheart that you had incredible feelings for but never married, then found out they were single and you either did or wanted a relationship with? If you did, was it what you expected or were they completely different than your expectations?