Dating & new relationships (68)
If a person has children in the home I would say definately.
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Friskyone: Personally, I don't date. I can't remember the last time I went on a date. This is by choice. I'm not lonely, I have a wonderful daughter (23 yrs old) and we have a very close relationship and we are best friends, I also have a group of about six very good friends, male and female, who are also all single. These friends of mine do actively date (not each other), they meet people through different avenues, examples: through friends of friends, at a social's such as at a bbq, one friend is on a bowling league so she meets different people there, another friend is on a dart league, etc. Most of my friends are very out-going and friendly so they are approachable and some of them will do the approaching. I get to hear about all their dating experiences and I have to say that I'm glad to be alone and single because I don't have the patience to put up with some of the things they have experienced. Some stories they tell are hilarious, some are sad and some are just CRAZY! There's also been some weird and/or scary situations and certainly some questionable one's too.
When meeting new people you are basically opening your doors and letting them into your life. You have no idea what the future holds.
My question is:
Is it a good idea (your for safety concerns)to conduct background checks on people you are just getting to know or is it considered invading someone's privacy ?
When meeting new people you are basically opening your doors and letting them into your life. You have no idea what the future holds.
My question is:
Is it a good idea (your for safety concerns)to conduct background checks on people you are just getting to know or is it considered invading someone's privacy ?
It is a fair question if you asked yourself if you would mindbeing checked out by another. If the answer is no you wouldn't mind
then it is ok. Myself I would not like it, so I would not do it.
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Friskyone: Personally, I don't date. I can't remember the last time I went on a date. This is by choice. I'm not lonely, I have a wonderful daughter (23 yrs old) and we have a very close relationship and we are best friends, I also have a group of about six very good friends, male and female, who are also all single. These friends of mine do actively date (not each other), they meet people through different avenues, examples: through friends of friends, at a social's such as at a bbq, one friend is on a bowling league so she meets different people there, another friend is on a dart league, etc. Most of my friends are very out-going and friendly so they are approachable and some of them will do the approaching. I get to hear about all their dating experiences and I have to say that I'm glad to be alone and single because I don't have the patience to put up with some of the things they have experienced. Some stories they tell are hilarious, some are sad and some are just CRAZY! There's also been some weird and/or scary situations and certainly some questionable one's too.
When meeting new people you are basically opening your doors and letting them into your life. You have no idea what the future holds.
My question is:
Is it a good idea (your for safety concerns)to conduct background checks on people you are just getting to know or is it considered invading someone's privacy ?
When meeting new people you are basically opening your doors and letting them into your life. You have no idea what the future holds.
My question is:
Is it a good idea (your for safety concerns)to conduct background checks on people you are just getting to know or is it considered invading someone's privacy ?
I agree with Pedal, I wouldn't do it to them because I'd hate them to do it to me.
My second reason I don't like the idea is because I'd like to think I was a good judge of character and that I wouldn't leave myself vulnerable to someone I had not known for long. There's always going to be some risk, but that's life.
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In response to: Personally, I don't date. I can't remember the last time I went on a date. This is by choice. I'm not lonely, I have a wonderful daughter (23 yrs old) and we have a very close relationship and we are best friends, I also have a group of about six very good friends, male and female, who are also all single. These friends of mine do actively date (not each other), they meet people through different avenues, examples: through friends of friends, at a social's such as at a bbq, one friend is on a bowling league so she meets different people there, another friend is on a dart league, etc. Most of my friends are very out-going and friendly so they are approachable and some of them will do the approaching. I get to hear about all their dating experiences and I have to say that I'm glad to be alone and single because I don't have the patience to put up with some of the things they have experienced. Some stories they tell are hilarious, some are sad and some are just CRAZY! There's also been some weird and/or scary situations and certainly some questionable one's too.
When meeting new people you are basically opening your doors and letting them into your life. You have no idea what the future holds.
My question is:
Is it a good idea (your for safety concerns)to conduct background checks on people you are just getting to know or is it considered invading someone's privacy ?
When meeting new people you are basically opening your doors and letting them into your life. You have no idea what the future holds.
My question is:
Is it a good idea (your for safety concerns)to conduct background checks on people you are just getting to know or is it considered invading someone's privacy ?
Absolutly not frisky.first of all I wanna know wat do mean by dating? Dating to me is just a way of knowing somebody in a relationship.
Of course I wanna know everything possible about her. Its just naturel
in a naturel way I ask her Backgrounds and also most of the time she talks about her self by herself, without asking.
I dont see any invading privacy.
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Alexandro10: Absolutly not frisky.first of all I wanna know wat do mean by dating? Dating to me is just a way of knowing somebody in a relationship.
Of course I wanna know everything possible about her. Its just naturel
in a naturel way I ask her Backgrounds and also most of the time she talks about her self by herself, without asking.
I dont see any invading privacy.
Of course I wanna know everything possible about her. Its just naturel
in a naturel way I ask her Backgrounds and also most of the time she talks about her self by herself, without asking.
I dont see any invading privacy.
I should have made that clearer Alex, in my post. So good question.
I mean not casual dating, because you're not really inviting this person into your life completely. To me, casual dating is like, dinner, movies om occassion. Relationship is different, deeper. At this time, they come to your home for dinner, meet your children if they live with you, etc. Sure you can ask people questions, but I ask myself how truthful or FORTHCOMING is this person with their answers? For instance, if someone has a criminal background, say for shoplifting or even forgery and went to prisonfor it, how FORTHCOMING is some people? Even though they no longer shoplift and or paid restitution and went to rehab and did their time, don't you think they might be embarrassed to tell on themselves or even reluctant to disclose this in fear of you dumping them.
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Frisk
I actually was looking for someone when I found out but lucky for him he was already dead.
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chatonlyman2: Frisk I actually was looking for someone when I found out but lucky for him he was already dead.
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Cool I gave my daughter the same talk.
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pedalguy59: It is a fair question if you asked yourself if you would mind
being checked out by another. If the answer is no you wouldn't mind
then it is ok. Myself I would not like it, so I would not do it.
being checked out by another. If the answer is no you wouldn't mind
then it is ok. Myself I would not like it, so I would not do it.
Fair enough. I have nothing to hide, so go ahead. In my case, if I were getting into a SERIOUS relationship, I would disclose my criminal background, if I had one, from the beginning. ------ This thread is Archived ------
Obstinance_Works: I agree with Pedal, I wouldn't do it to them because I'd hate them to do it to me.
My second reason I don't like the idea is because I'd like to think I was a good judge of character and that I wouldn't leave myself vulnerable to someone I had not known for long. There's always going to be some risk, but that's life.
My second reason I don't like the idea is because I'd like to think I was a good judge of character and that I wouldn't leave myself vulnerable to someone I had not known for long. There's always going to be some risk, but that's life.
Good answer and I agree that I would like to and have trusted my instincts but being trusting/naive can be costly!
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Friskyone: Fair enough. I have nothing to hide, so go ahead. In my case, if I were getting into a SERIOUS relationship, I would disclose my criminal background, if I had one, from the beginning.
Yeah me too, it is what it is.
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pedalguy59: Yeah me too, it is what it is.
Got that right!
Hope all is well with you.
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chatonlyman2: Frisk I actually was looking for someone when I found out but lucky for him he was already dead.
By the way, not trying to get too personal or invade, I'm sorry to hear that you had to be on the hunt for this person for whatever he did and to whomever he did it to.
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I've never had a background check done on anyone in the past and doubt I'll start now. The moment someone shows inconsistencies in behavior or any other discrepancies where I begin to question their credibility and character, it's generally all I need to go by. There's always the chance that a person has a clean record but may harbor ill intent that doesn't show up until later on. There really are no guarantees in relationships.
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Friskyone: By the way, not trying to get too personal or invade, I'm sorry to hear that you had to be on the hunt for this person for whatever he did and to whomever he did it to.
Thank you
Its funny how you think exactly what how I did.
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2intrigued: I've never had a background check done on anyone in the past and doubt I'll start now. The moment someone shows inconsistencies in behavior or any other discrepancies where I begin to question their credibility and character, it's generally all I need to go by. There's always the chance that a person has a clean record but may harbor ill intent that doesn't show up until later on. There really are no guarantees in relationships.
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chatonlyman2: Thank you
Its funny how you think exactly what how I did.
Its funny how you think exactly what how I did.
I think it's a natural emotion that some experience and some don't. Some "peaceful or religious" people will not admit to feeling this way and may be forgiving individuals, but when CHESTER comes along, I'm not forgiving him/her EVER!
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Friskyone: I think it's a natural emotion that some experience and some don't. Some "peaceful or religious" people will not admit to feeling this way and may be forgiving individuals, but when CHESTER comes along, I'm not forgiving him/her EVER!
There are other things out there like chester. Unfortunately small time daycare/babysiters can use that manipulation ------ This thread is Archived ------
chatonlyman2: There are other things out there like chester. Unfortunately small time daycare/babysiters can use that manipulation
Anyhow I caught on when I came home from work and my daughter did not have a beaming smile when I got home.Things just didn't work out how I was trying to acomplish.
The worlds happiest baby.Oh well.
Sorry for spilling my guts on your thread.
and Thanks 
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When meeting new people you are basically opening your doors and letting them into your life. You have no idea what the future holds.
My question is:
Is it a good idea (your for safety concerns)to conduct background checks on people you are just getting to know or is it considered invading someone's privacy ?