"Grieving" ( Archived) (37)

I know I am not the first, last or only one. But this time it is really bad. it's been 2 months and I can't accept that she is gone (my Mom). My brother is dealing with it by being a horrible selfish control freak that just seems to be thriving on making it all that much worse for me and at least one of my sisters...the other one lives far enough away to just disconnect. So, I don't know, maybe someone else is going through this right now as well.

There is nothing wrong with grieving.. It's natural to grieve when you've lost a loved one..All i can say is that I've been through your pain and that time is a great healer.

Two months isn't a great deal of time when you lose someone who means so much.

Not sure how your brother is managing to control, unless you mean as executor of the estate or something? No one can really advise you on how to handle this because no one knows how close or not you are as siblings, how approachable he is or whether talking to them would make things worse. Every family is different, some pull together, a lot don't.

I hope you find some peace and closure, but give yourself enough time to grieve first.

yeah, I have done it a lot in this last few years. I admit that this is very different for me...and I thought a year ago that when my Dear Orsi committed suicide that I would not be able to deal with that but I am still here. Maybe it is because of the special connection I have (even now) to my Mother. I have a lot of mixed feelings and maybe it is because for all general purposes...that sounds weird, "purposes" but for that she is the last one in my life. My father is nonexistant though I think it is just the way he is. But with losing my Mother it was too early. She had another 20 years easy and this just does not seem real. "Time" "Healing", or even moreso the people left behind that can't act decent to each other in such a way that is pathetic. It really sucks. But I know that I am not special, every one will deal with it, maybe I just really suck at it.

Yep, we thought for some reason he would be a stand up guy. At least two of us regret that one in a big way. And it is true, no one can tell you how or what way is best...some people can't at all, some just die themselves, some seem to have it all worked out.

TY Brandy, I know he is hurting inside...just the way he is making a mess out of things is pretty tough on some of us. I appreciate your sentiment.