How is the best way to chat a women up that you have never spoke to before when you are shy and terr (89)
Aww that was sweet of you :-)
Sadly some Ladies do try to make it difficult for the guy and are like a cat playing with a mouse !!
I suppose its a lottery and the guy has got to deal with the rejection ... such is life
Ok now for the anti rejection tablets or the sublimal sleep confidence tapes .. where are they ?
Sadly some Ladies do try to make it difficult for the guy and are like a cat playing with a mouse !!
I suppose its a lottery and the guy has got to deal with the rejection ... such is life
Ok now for the anti rejection tablets or the sublimal sleep confidence tapes .. where are they ?
Topkaz: I remember I had a date with a man I thought came across as shy but I put him at ease and complimented him on his shoes and eyes and he came out of his shell so to speak ,on second meet he swept back a bit of my hair that was falling in front of my eye,.so sweet he swept me off my feet and we had a third meet this time in bare feet we went swimming ,
Sounds really sweet - in theory - but no, just no
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now
but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too 
)
Tinypaws: Sounds really sweet - in theory - but no, just no
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
Tinypaws: Sounds really sweet - in theory - but no, just no
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
Tinypaws: Sounds really sweet - in theory - but no, just no
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
Tinypaws: Sounds really sweet - in theory - but no, just no
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
Tinypaws: Sounds really sweet - in theory - but no, just no
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time
to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
If I'd fall of a ladder and be lying there, both arms broken, my wild mane covering my face, preventing me from breathing, then it's okay for a stranger to brush it away to tell me they are calling ambulance now but otherwise, that to me is a very intimate gesture, and I need time
to get to know someone before I'd feel comfortable with that (yet not saying it's wrong for others to handle that differently, we aren't all the same, and that's good too )
Oh no no it was on the second meet and defo no stranger i knew him as a friend before the romantic bit happened,
Sometimes it's even the people we know to be so cautious of,
Topkaz: Oh no no it was on the second meet and defo no stranger i knew him as a friend before the romantic bit happened,
Sometimes it's even the people we know to be so cautious of,
Sometimes it's even the people we know to be so cautious of,
Second romantic date I should say.
Oh yes definitely comfortable with him tiny paws .
darkgael: All ideas are welcome as this virtual dating thing is not working for me:-(
If things aren't working for you, try something else. I think meeting someone in RL is way better.
If you have a problem approaching people in your age (no offence meant with that one), go and get help. You won't "grow out" of it and don't want to waste years not being able to date if you want to meet someone.
Figure out a way to know for yourself if someone is decent and a fit for you - don't waste your time or get pissed off by messers. Be choosy, it helps you in the long run.
Best of luck to you.
darkgael: All ideas are welcome as this virtual dating thing is not working for me:-(
Do a bill cosby and slip her a roofy
darkgael: Aww that was sweet of you :-)
Sadly some Ladies do try to make it difficult for the guy and are like a cat playing with a mouse !!
I suppose its a lottery and the guy has got to deal with the rejection ... such is life
Ok now for the anti rejection tablets or the sublimal sleep confidence tapes .. where are they ?
Sadly some Ladies do try to make it difficult for the guy and are like a cat playing with a mouse !!
I suppose its a lottery and the guy has got to deal with the rejection ... such is life
Ok now for the anti rejection tablets or the sublimal sleep confidence tapes .. where are they ?
No mouse for me thanks,lol.
Yes can be sweet ,
In response to: All ideas are welcome as this virtual dating thing is not working for me:-(
Yes for a man to keep abit of mystery about himself keeps us ladies curious.
Confidently quiet ,just sits back and listens ,bit broody with intense look like you are the only woman in the room
Maybe you are the only woman in the room
Topkaz: Yes for a man to keep abit of mystery about himself keeps us ladies curious.
Confidently quiet ,just sits back and listens ,bit broody with intense look like you are the only woman in the room
Maybe you are the only woman in the room
Confidently quiet ,just sits back and listens ,bit broody with intense look like you are the only woman in the room
Maybe you are the only woman in the room
Mind you he has to have a friendly engaging manner to participate in conversation too,he may appear like he nothing to say but he is listening and when he says something it's not just words slipping of his tongue,
darkgael: Interesting......What is GAME?
Check these links for starters, to get the rough idea.
There are books out, lots of videos on youtube, Roosh V got a website, and and and. Unwise to expect that supermodels suddenly will fall in drones on their knees before a any guy knowing the tricks, but there is a lot of psychology involved, and getting some idea about old instincts can be valuable
Keep it simple just be yourself.
Sometimes the shy guys are the best types,
Sometimes the shy guys are the best types,
Topkaz: Keep it simple just be yourself.
Sometimes the shy guys are the best types,
Sometimes the shy guys are the best types,
Act on your own instincts ,
Flicking my hair back is something I do anyway so not a signal to a male,
Maybe I do it subconsciensly without realising it.lol
Body language is Ramsey to pick up on it comes instinctively if your in tune .
Some people make it too obvious
Licking lips,staring too much,crossing u crossing legs,touching your leg Nono lol
Topkaz: Act on your own instincts ,
Flicking my hair back is something I do anyway so not a signal to a male,
Maybe I do it subconsciensly without realising it.lol
Body language is Ramsey to pick up on it comes instinctively if your in tune .
Some people make it too obvious
Licking lips,staring too much,crossing u crossing legs,touching your leg Nono lol
Flicking my hair back is something I do anyway so not a signal to a male,
Maybe I do it subconsciensly without realising it.lol
Body language is Ramsey to pick up on it comes instinctively if your in tune .
Some people make it too obvious
Licking lips,staring too much,crossing u crossing legs,touching your leg Nono lol
Lol body language is Easey to pick up on ,lol,
Sometimes a shy man might not appear like he showing any interest at all so if a woman likes shy man just give him a wee bit of encouragement ,just. Smile and hello ,etc,
If he still lost for words it could be he into you.
Hahaha,.
Or maybe not,lol
I always like a man to approach me first,I'm old fashioned that way
Today I saw a lovely man he works in supermarket he dark and very handsome ,he from Glasgow I told him I love his accent ,he didn't smile back when he I asked was he from Edinburgh
'No Glasgow he said in a deep voice
Dark hair and eyes ,he looks the serious broody type but when he was heading out after finishing work he was laughing and his eyes were sparkling
Yep this gorgeous fella has girlfriend alright
darkgael: So will that stop you then? Good on You:-) What a compliment you gasve the guy:-)
Well I just have natural charm
.I've never looked up those links,
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Shows how different people are in their preferences
Otherwise, was out last night, and when my friend got up to use bathroom, male who had stood at the bar next to him really wanted to approach, but started to get all flustered and finally managed to stutter a 'how are you' out. I felt really deeply for him, as I could see his wish to use the opportunity, but he just seemed very fearful of rejection, same as some others there.
Overcome that fear. Treat another first and foremost as a fellow human being, I'd say, who very possibly struggles with very similar worries. I for example would have happily talked to him, but am really tense in public settings, something I bet very very few would ever think. They see an attractive female and will probably rather judge me as arrogant by default, when in truth with me it's a case of 'rabbit panic in the headlights'.
Hair touching for me personally though really is a no no, or touching me in an obvious purposeful manner. That's something which has been with me since early childhood. I need time to get to know another, to feel safe and comfortable. A warm smile and just general chat, without giving me the feeling I have to watch myself as to not give the slightest wrong signal, can go a long way. It's the 'just another human being' thing for me, as this gives me an opportunity to relax and engage as a human being, over being female.
Btw, yes it seems unfair that males generally are still meant to make the first move, but I view it as part of evolution. Seems very common in nature overall.
I remember I had a date with a man I thought came across as shy but I put him at ease and complimented him on his shoes and eyes and he came out of his shell so to speak ,on second meet he swept back a bit of my hair that was falling in front of my eye,.so sweet he swept me off my feet and we had a third meet this time in bare feet we went swimming ,