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If you want to donate to charity, you should do so... but supporting a server that is not earning that tip is akin to throwing your money out the window.

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have a daughter that fits this catagory..

does that go for congressmen too

Operative word here is "almost" always. I agree - would never tip well if the server is not earning it. Of course, you tip well at a place you frequent, you are remembered, and always served well.

I have worked in food service for 15 years. I take it very seriously. I think most servers should find another type of employment. They seem to treat you as they are doing you a favor rather than that's their job. I come to a table expecting nothing. I am friendly but not overly so. I fill glasses and stand at a distance and watch for anything I could think of that they might need to be more comfortable and I bring it without asking or saying a word (except you're welcome) as I sit it down for them. I almost NEVER get stiffed, even from people that are notorious non-tippers. If it does happen, I don't worry about it as long as I know I gave them the best service I could. I figure they either are hurting on money or just don't believe in tipping. I always make up for it on the next table.


A few weeks ago, I had a party of 12 older ladies. They ran me to death. I hardly had time to breath. At the end of their meal, several said I was the best server they had ever met. They left me about $3.00 between all of them. UGH That's life.

My biggest reasons not to leave a good tip....

A server that never checks back.

A server that talks me to death and becomes a part of the conversation. This is so rude. The family is there to enjoy themselves and are paying you to be a SERVER not a friend.


Sorry.....I have a lot to say on this topic...I'll be going now.

i tend to agree with duce.... i have left up to a $20 tip, but it was for exceptional service... and generally if i'm not happy i leave 2 cents... just so they know i didn't forget... i think there is a delicate balance of good service and bugging someone to death.... the glasses should be full, they should be conversational if you try to talk to them and they should leave you alone... i like to NOT notice them or need them because they anticipate... if they don't do that or i find them rude, well, they will be very unhappy... i used to go to once particular place regularly and if we got one certain server they alway ot atleast $5, but if someone else got us and they were rude, they got .02 cents.... they eventually caught on.