How many really want (62)
Rose2Salmon Arm, British Columbia Canada1 Threads 7 PostsWell I believe in longterm and marriage. 
I want something longterm. I have plan's for my future and I would love to find someone that will be there with me to enjoy it!
Same here Dougie.. Me i am just looking for the right man for me and my son!! 
I myself am looking for long term and even marriage with the right person
I an definately in for the "Long Haul" so really long term appeals more as there is hardly any chance of knowing someone if they are always playing the dating game. I just date one woman at a time and with many months between as it leaves time for thought and reflection.
Also my friends give me feedback which also helps and all tend to agree that dating in todays society is definately NOT an easy task.
Also my friends give me feedback which also helps and all tend to agree that dating in todays society is definately NOT an easy task.
l also would love a long term relationship that hopefully willturn into marriage. But l do have one problem, most of the guys l have met are looking for that relationship but with no thoughts of marriage, just living together and to me thats not the same...its a committment but one thats easy to walk out on and give up.
l quess l want that paper, yes its only a paper but it says you have committed yourselves forever.
l quess l want that paper, yes its only a paper but it says you have committed yourselves forever.
I'll date a woman, I'll live with a woman as long as she'll have me, I'll be faithful to the woman, but I would never EVER marry again, been down that road before, soooooooooooooo not worth the b.s.
lesson learned
lesson learned
but I would never EVER marry again, been down that road before, soooooooooooooo not worth the b.s.
ooooooooooooo someone seems a bit bitter. you sound like you have a lot to bring to a new happy relationship. Good luck.
MM
ooooooooooooo someone seems a bit bitter. you sound like you have a lot to bring to a new happy relationship. Good luck.
MM
I am not sure i'd get married again too. Honey, i like your been there done that line. I am starting to think that long term again sounds great, without the piece of paper.
i think it all depends on who you meet, you never know.
MM
MM
Well my last relationship was 9 1/2 yrs and never resulted in marriage...
however as my aunt once said "Happiness does not a marriage make"
ALTHOUGH I would like the long term ending in marriage... I want a chance to be the bride! I know to get there it will take some dating and some trial and error but one day that is where I would like to be...
however as my aunt once said "Happiness does not a marriage make"
ALTHOUGH I would like the long term ending in marriage... I want a chance to be the bride! I know to get there it will take some dating and some trial and error but one day that is where I would like to be...
Dating...then going out....then Long-term....leading to marriage.
Seems old fashioned, and maybe it is... Living together has tax advantages.... But, I want to do the proposal with rings, the ceremony, etc...ok, I AM old fashioned, in that way. 
But I am not boring.... 
Seems old fashioned, and maybe it is... Living together has tax advantages....
But, I want to do the proposal with rings, the ceremony, etc...ok, I AM old fashioned, in that way. But I am not boring.... i was married once and alwasy said that was good enough .. now i would love to get married again but for the long haul .. the romance the house the dogs the kids the whole nine yards .. ive been trying now for years and nothing ... i've been engaged twice since my divorce but it never pans out .. i guess it was for the better but i dont get why they asked if they werent seriou .. but i still want the whole nine yard
Good post Honey!
Isn't that what they call "baggage"?
Life is too short to bring it into a new relationship. Never say never! A new person in your life should not have to pay for the mistakes of the previous person who hurt you or caused you unhappiness. Do people really enter into a new relationship with negativity? Talk about being set up to fail from the get-go!
Isn't that what they call "baggage"?
Life is too short to bring it into a new relationship. Never say never! A new person in your life should not have to pay for the mistakes of the previous person who hurt you or caused you unhappiness. Do people really enter into a new relationship with negativity? Talk about being set up to fail from the get-go!
I don't think so Honey...he said he'd be willing to be "involved" live with them...and i'm sure all the other things that make a relationship...all he does not want for himself is the "piece of paper"...I don't think that makes him sound bitter...just realistic
I myself am not totally convinced that i want to be "married" again..having that piece of paper did not guarantee success...but i do know i would love to live out the rest of my life with someone whom I love and respect...and a piece of paper is not going to make me any more faithful and devoted to that relationship...
"Long-term" is going to happen between the right two people ultimately anyways...so no need to "look" for it...(that's my answer by the way!
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I myself am not totally convinced that i want to be "married" again..having that piece of paper did not guarantee success...but i do know i would love to live out the rest of my life with someone whom I love and respect...and a piece of paper is not going to make me any more faithful and devoted to that relationship...
"Long-term" is going to happen between the right two people ultimately anyways...so no need to "look" for it...(that's my answer by the way!
)I couldn't agree with you more, wikked! You summed it up beautifully. I think most of us want the chance to meet that someone we're truly compatible with...even if we have personal fears of commitment or taking the plunge again.
I think that letting it happen when it happens (face it--none of us has any control over this anyways!)is the only way to find your next great love. Who knows? Maybe we are all meant to have more than 1 great love in our lives anyways...
I think that letting it happen when it happens (face it--none of us has any control over this anyways!)is the only way to find your next great love. Who knows? Maybe we are all meant to have more than 1 great love in our lives anyways...
That could be the answer as well...
Most people are looking for the "ONE" great love...complete with ALL the qualities they think they want...
What if you were meant to "experience" some of those qualities with many different "loves"...but settle down for life with just one...would that work for anyone??
Most people are looking for the "ONE" great love...complete with ALL the qualities they think they want...
What if you were meant to "experience" some of those qualities with many different "loves"...but settle down for life with just one...would that work for anyone??
well, having just separated from my ex recently, I have to say that there were some good times in our marriage. Relationships can be hard work. BUT if you meet the right one, and you truly love each other, then I say go for it. I think I have found her myself... and I refuse to let the ex control me. there are a lot of people out there that think marriage is just a piece of paper. NOT SO! marriage is a willingness to make a commitment to one person. if everything I hope happens, marriage is something I'd be looking to persue.
I have gone both ways on this topic. Before I met Sylvain I never thought I wanted to get married or if indeed anyone would WANT to marry me.
However my views on this topic have changed. Now I agree that marriage is a committment between two people who want to have a future together. You decide that you want to commit, be loyal to each other, and not hurt each other, to dream of a future together. to be there when times are good and when times are not so good. To lift each other up when they are down.
I know you can have this same committment without a piece of paper, but the piece of paper means that the other person is not going anywhere anytime soon. They have agreed to this committment with you, in fact so much so that they have have agreed to sign a "contract" with you in this regard.
I now want marriage and all the elements that it brings with it, the good and the not so good, the love, the sharing of life. Marriage means a lot to me, and I would like another chance to get it right.
Christine
However my views on this topic have changed. Now I agree that marriage is a committment between two people who want to have a future together. You decide that you want to commit, be loyal to each other, and not hurt each other, to dream of a future together. to be there when times are good and when times are not so good. To lift each other up when they are down.
I know you can have this same committment without a piece of paper, but the piece of paper means that the other person is not going anywhere anytime soon. They have agreed to this committment with you, in fact so much so that they have have agreed to sign a "contract" with you in this regard.
I now want marriage and all the elements that it brings with it, the good and the not so good, the love, the sharing of life. Marriage means a lot to me, and I would like another chance to get it right.
Christine
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