Say Anything ( Archived) (7,248)

Yeah, the distance, the location, the age, the kid(s), the looks, the climate...and on, and on...whatever happened to the person we are supposed to be looking for?!

Why don't you get up.
GO
out. and meet people.

Today I've spent some time searching male profiles from my country and some other countries where I might travel to in some near future. I haven't used the search engine much in the past. While I was still exchanging messages - I only replied to those I received and then simply stopped, because everything seemed pointless. I stayed for blogs and forums and - even that - gets boring so I take shorter or longer breaks.

However, I've done some thorough search today and - I found only several dozens of profiles from the countries and age range I was interested in and - most of them were fake. I broadened my search and saw that there were plenty of profiles from English-speaking countries, but - it seemed that fake profiles were majority there, as well.

So, now I think that CS is just for blogs and forums and I blocked practically everyone. It might sound selfish, but I just don't want to spend a lot of time exchanging messages with men I have NO chance to meet at all or who want something I don't - for example - some short casual romantic affair. And I got tired of dozens and dozens of e-mails from scammers I received every day while my settings allowed many people to message me.

This site doesn't seem to have very large traffic and it lacks new people. Maybe it's because it's too old, not very phone friendly, don't have the option to log in with other social media (like Facebook), etc. I don't know.

I think that all social media has changed a lot recently.

In the past you had to buy a computer and pay for the internet and the internet wasn't so global. Now, you need a cheap smartphone and free WiFi in the park and you can surf all day long. It opened the door to everyone.

In the past people were much more honest online. I met many people in person on various sites and some who lived far away became Facebook friends, too. People in general didn't hide their identity. I was a member of CS for a short while some 7-8 years ago and I don't remember receiving messages from scammers at all at that time. Now they are everywhere - pen-palling sites, dating sites, Facebook, Instagram...

People also changed. They somehow became much more distant and suspicious. I met people who only wanted to exchange messages on CS and never wanted to move anywhere else. I talked to some men I have no idea who they really were (I had nothing but their mobile phone number). Such things naturally make you suspicious.

It wasn't like that before. Now I sound like an old granny.

Many people use dating sites like a means to travel cheaply. They meet someone online, pretend they are in love, visit that person as their guest, have some fun, have some sightseeing and then - go back home never to contact that person again. Or maintain some "holiday relationship". Some are even worse - they are too lazy to travel so they hope that you would go and visit them so that they can have some (maybe exotic?) fun at home, without too much effort. That's why you get contacted by people from various countries.

In general, I came to the conclusion that most people who join international dating sites indeed are travelers and adventurers and they assume you are the same. We should get off these sites and find some other ways to meet people.

Just because you've had bad experiences, doesn't necessarily mean that others share the same opinion.
The ones that go sour are those who hide their true identity & their real personality..
My advice is , be honest from the beginning, both visually & personality.
That's the best advice i can give & if there's chemistry when you meet , then there is no excuse either way .

There's no point in talking to men from the towns and countries you are not interested in if you are searching for something meaningful. It's actually a complete waste of time...

I hit southern Utah.
It was very scenic
The pictures should be ready in a week.
Hoping many pics turn out well.

I really tried my best... many times... but this place simply doesn't bring out the best in me... On the contrary...

There were some funny moments and some good laughs and some interesting things to read and learn, but... So many times I got annoyed or upset or had to "bite my tongue" or simply - was bored...

Maybe it's because I've seen "golden times" of forums in the past or because I get bored too fast nowadays or because the style of communication here doesn't suit me... I don't know...

Maybe I come around to check you out in a couple of months, to see if anything changed, somebody got married in the meantime or some new interesting members arrived...

But I now really need a long long break and - some different things...