What is it that is such a turn off about the needy? ( Archived) (21)

I guess one can be "too" needy...but, generally speaking, aren't we, as human beings, all "needy," to some degree or another? I need you, you need me...you know?

What is wrong with wanting someone to walk through life with you? What are we doing here at CS? Oh I know. We're not "needy," we're "wanty."

Well...I can LIVE without someone in my life, but I'm not ashamed to say I need (in the most raw, bare bones, skin-peeling, layer by layer-like way) someone to share my life with. It's human to want/need a mate/partner. Even animals are happier and healthier when they have a mate.

NEEDY=



Require


Want

Necessity

Lack

Demand

Destitute

Poor

Deprived

Indingence

Distress

So which one is the turn off for you OP?

i'm still deprived, poor, distressed, i want BADLY, it is a necessity... does that make me needy..... well, maybe, but i NEED the man that i truly, deeply, unashamadebly adore, admire, love, and all around can't live without....


hope that's not a bad thing.... lol, i hope he doesn't think so..... i'm needy but i need the love that he gives. nothing necessarily wrong with being needy, depends on the definition and application

What would you like to be needed for ? Such as...

the obvious

This is sort of a tough one. But there have been certain times when I've thought a woman has been "needy". These past few years of being single (with one short-lived romantic interlude) has taught me that I can be happy all by myself. I know I can do it. I don't have to have people around me to have a good day.
A good book, the sunshine, a nice cigar, strong cup of coffee, the smell of springtime, watching my idiot neighbours getting handcuffed, going for a swim, the sound of crickets, a full moon, the simple things...these things give me pleasure in life. If someone can't be happy with themself and needs me to help them get to that point by committing to a relationship, forget it. I'm not the guy. But this doesn't mean I can't be their friend and offer my help in any other way.
I think their is a distinction between wanting someone, to be happier... and needing someone, just to be happy at all. Having peace and quiet at home is much nicer than fighting and arguing over stupid things.

Companionship, moral support, confidant, and even possibility as a mentor in some areas.

Although, I need her for all the same things too.

And like I say, it's not that I can't exist with her. But can I really 'live' without her?

I don't think I'm doing a very good job of 'living' without her.

I always, did better, felt better, and was basically more productive and positive all-round when with a partner.

Just the way I am and will always be.

I guess I tend to be 'couple-oriented'. I'm from the old school that believe that man and woman were meant to complement each other.

I think our modern day attitude of "me me me" had gotten out of hand.

Although some people tend to prefer that. It's just not for me, that's all.

I don’t do well when living alone for long periods of time. I'm just not self-oriented enough.

That's easy. This is from experience playing both roles-- With myself! JK

Nobody wants Needy when they are secure with themselves. Needy people only accept other Needy people when they are at the same level. The problem with being needy is that you will annoy the hell out of the person you are trying to get with. It (in their eyes) looks pathetic. There is always those questions too "Is everything alright?" "Am I not doing enough?" "Did I do something wrong?" "Is there a problem I am not aware of?". There is no respect for someone like that through the eyes of those who are secure with themselves. That means you would be lowering yourself to this groveling twit. See? That is from the point of view being the one who is not needy. Just to answer the thread topic.

yes this is all true but.... I was quoting the dic.


on what needy means tis all.